My roommate (21F) and I (21M) have been living together for roughly 3 months. We live with our other friend (20F). We met in freshman year but got closer sophomore year. We’re juniors in college. She became my best friend but I developed feelings for her last year in December, but didn’t act on them. Summer comes and goes and move in begins, and the feelings don’t go away. We got closer and it felt like the feelings were possibly mutual. I asked input from other friends and they all seemed to agree. Fast forward to this week, and a friend, who I’ll refer to as K, tells my roommate that I like her. I told K weeks prior about my feelings, and how I should go about them, and she gave me good advice. When my roommate found out, she got upset with me. I spent the rest of that night in the room and over heard her, my other roommate and some friends discussing about it. She felt betrayed, confused and among other things. We ended up arguing over text later that night, and as much as I tried to express my feelings of guilt for not being honest with her, she didn’t budge in thinking that I didn’t care and that she felt humiliated and awful. It’s the morning after and I’m giving her space, and will likely continue to until the end of this weekend. This came at such a terrible time, as she had told me she was feeling depressed and in bad shape. I feel like a terrible friend.
Aside from space and distance, what can I do about this?
Good Morning Monday 9th November 2026
