I' haven't been to church in years, and AB, I don't know if it will make Good Friday any easier for you, but please remember that, as painful as our dear Lord's death was, He was not the only one executed that way. Crucifixion, don't forget, was the Roman form of capitol punishment. Without meaning to minimize Jesus' sacrifice, I'm sure it was just as painful for them and just as hurtful (in some cases) for their loved ones to see. Also, though I know many of the others were criminals and so forth, it wouldn't surprise me if some of them were innocent of any wrongdoing, as well.
Teri, perhaps that thought will help ease your remaining sense of horror, too, though, actually, I don't know if it makes it better or worse (sigh). I agree with you about not exposing children to such a feeling though I understand that not everyone feels that way.
Anyway, what I love most about Easter, as a previous poster said, is the spirit of renewal that comes with it, both cuz of Christ's having risen and the spring season. But I have to take exception to the idea that it was set in spring for this reason. It was set there cuz Jesus' Last Supper was Passover and that's when that ancient feast takes place. Also, another poster mentioned the festival of Oestre (spelling?) and that's when that festival was enjoyed. But maybe the ancient Hebrews and Pagans deliberately placed their festivals in the spring, so I guess the point still holds.