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Oopsadaisy3 Thu 30-Jul-20 13:35:18

Do you know anyone on the PCC who you could speak to about this person? There might be something that explains her behaviour and why the Church seems to let her have free reign. Maybe a word explaining how she is behaving with you might help get something done.

If not then you either have to put up with it or change Churches

The person we bought our house from moved out of our Village because she was banned from going to the Village Church she moved to another Village and was promptly banned from that Church as well.

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Vetrep Thu 30-Jul-20 13:09:52

Boss!

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Vetrep Thu 30-Jul-20 13:09:16

The only way to stop bullies like this is to stand up to them, very difficult without the support of the vicar. Would your friends put up a united front with you and next time she starts, tackle her together? How is she so powerful? Is she donating large amounts to the church or something?
If the notice board has glass doors I would be fitting a padlock, if not, can someone handy fit a frame and doors? Childish maybe, but you need to show her that she is NOT the bo

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Newatthis Thu 30-Jul-20 12:46:15

Life is too short. Going to church should be a happy, spiritual experience. I would consider going to another church even though you say you don't want to. You will still keep your good friends and if you don't, were they friends anyway? You will no doubt make better friends at a different church. This person sounds horrid and for nobody to say anything doesn't sound very Christian - after all - Jesus would not stand by and see people suffer, no matter how little, and say nothing.

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Corryanna Thu 30-Jul-20 12:24:24

I know most friends/acquaintances/bystanders would say of my situation "There's one in every Church" and maybe add "Get over it!" or "Woman-up dear!", a younger Corry would have said it too, but never again.
A person in my Church causes trouble left, right and centre and nothing is done about it - they continue to upset lovely people and are not questioned by the Vicar or Officeholders, for fear of this one leaving and being upset. In the last 3 years this person has had 3 blazing rows, myself included,in the Church in front of other people (shouting close to and in our faces) saying why we are wrong , and nobody has stepped in to help.
Over the weekend this bully removed a notice on the notice board, informing people what happens next with our Ladies Group (this noticeboard is in a central place in the village). When I explained why I wanted the notice there I was told basically what they said goes, and the Vicar approves. I have since found out that my notice is not the only one to be rejected and we approached the Vicar. I wish we hadn't as he said it was out of his hands what went on the Church board.
I'm praying hard to try to accept this situation as God loves everyone, no matter how awful they are! I refuse to think about leaving the Church as I am/was happy here and have good friends. Any thoughts?

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