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If you are religious and practising - are you still in the same Denomination you grew up with- or did you move away from family tradition?

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biba70 Sun 22-Nov-20 20:33:36

Really interested, thanks.

Toadinthehole Wed 13-Jan-21 12:29:05

Brought up vaguely C of E. Became a Christian in my mid thirties.

Nanna58 Wed 13-Jan-21 12:23:00

Brought up staunch Catholic- threw myself into Atheism as soon as I was old enough to decide for myself !

nanna8 Wed 13-Jan-21 12:19:28

I was brought up as a Methodist, then here they became theUniting Church but there were things I didn’t agree with so I went to an Independent Baptist and now I attend a Presbyterian church. I went to a Church of England school. Interesting how we change. I tend to go for very biblically based churches. I actually used to teach at a Catholic school.

Tweedle24 Mon 23-Nov-20 21:56:51

I was baptised CofE but, when living in quarters (Dad was in the army) it was often an interdenominational church. As a teenager I chose to go to an Anglo catholic high church — loved the bells and smells. While serving in the RAF, I went to the OD church (all the non CofE Protestant denominations) because they had good Saturday night hops and the band was good.
Since then I went to church intermittently but drifted back to to the Anglicans. I am now a member of the local Anglican Church, a regular in the congregation and a member of the PCC.

DillytheGardener Mon 23-Nov-20 21:32:10

Whoops I hit post by accident, Church of England, but was never fussed or interested and didn’t Christen either of my sons.

DillytheGardener Mon 23-Nov-20 21:15:12

I was brought up Church of England

TerriBull Mon 23-Nov-20 21:02:51

I think missfoodlove that's why I didn't bring my children up as Catholics, well not in any religion really. They did go to a Church of England primary school though and got a pretty good elementary education in the Christian religion, but there wasn't the indoctrination that Catholic schools tended to foist on their pupils, maybe they're not so bad now. I believe in people making an informed choice about religion and they can only do that when they are mature enough to make such a decision for themselves.

Missfoodlove Mon 23-Nov-20 20:25:57

Terribull, I too was brought up a Catholic, it was all “Hell and Damnation”.

The nuns and the brothers were hard and cruel.

Out two sons had the benefit of a Jesuit education, it was the founder of the Jesuits who made famous the quote “ Give me the boy from the age of 7”
However it’s often said the actual quote was “give me the boy from the age of 7 and he’s mine for life”.
A little sinister perhaps?

They loved their school and still have a great connection to the Jesuits, our youngest worked with the Jesuit missions in India before university.
The eldest often takes himself off to “ Farm St for Sunday Mass.

We never rammed it down their throats, they each have a healthy relationship with the Church.

I wish my experience had been the same.

I feel the Catholic Church still has a long way to go.
All the abuse has been swept under the carpet.
I still sometimes feel ashamed of what the Church has done.

Susan56 Mon 23-Nov-20 19:37:11

Brought up attending the United Reformed Church and still attend now.

Judy54 Mon 23-Nov-20 14:05:14

I posted sometime ago about struggling with my catholic faith. Born and brought up a catholic but now very happily attend an Anglican church with an amazing Vicar and warm and welcoming community.

BigBertha1 Mon 23-Nov-20 10:12:14

My maternal grandfather was Jewish but brought up by adopted 'aunts' as Roman Catholic. On marriage his wife although of similar heritage was C of E. My mother leaned heavily to the Methodist Church. Both DH and I were brought up as C of E and have stayed with it although I think a lot about my maternal routes.

Ladyleftfieldlover Mon 23-Nov-20 09:39:03

Sunday school at the local Congregational Chapel then moved to trad CofE church when mum was confirmed in her 30s. I stopped going to church in my teens and didn’t go again until my 30s. I attended my village MOR Anglican Church which I can see from my house. Four or five years ago a Vicar arrived who was anti women clergy and anti gay anything. I put up with it for a couple of years and then moved to another benefice outside my village. The rector is a woman and liberal! In the meantime I worked at an Anglo Catholic theological college for many years and was obviously affected by their way of thinking. Now, I go to church when we are allowed and attend a zoom Bible Study with friends from my old church.

ninathenana Mon 23-Nov-20 09:24:15

Dad was an atheist mum would say she was C of E but only went to church for weddings and funerals. I was baptised into C of E and so were my children. I went to a C of E primary school but only because it was the closest.
If asked I say C of E but I'm not religious.

sodapop Mon 23-Nov-20 09:00:50

I was brought up very strictly as a member of the Methodist church. Like Terribull I had a lot of enforced chapel going when I was young and consequently I left it all behind me when I left home.
I still retain a belief in God but don't have a lot of time for organised religion.

TerriBull Mon 23-Nov-20 08:40:21

Born and brought up a catholic, I think because there's a certain amount of indoctrination at a very early age with catholicism it never really leaves some of us, so hard wired is that teaching from those early years. They knew what they were doing hence, the "Give me the child for the first seven years and I'll give you the man" Richard Dawkins argued that catholic and muslim children end up the most brainwashed, speaking for myself he does have a point.

I'd describe myself as lapsed, after a period which started in my teens as being full on atheist. I can't say I've completely abandoned it as I grow older, I do go back to church from time to time. Of course it's hard not to be critical of the church in light of all the revelations, I think anyone who has struggled with rejection of the church can be vindicated for doing so by what has been uncovered and I think it's entirely feasible to find a personal version of elements of what is personally acceptable to the individual within the religion and still be critical of it.

Part of me really wants to believe in Jesus and his message, I think he has been completely misrepresented by the catholic church since it's inception.

Although I had too much enforced church going in my growing up years, I feel strangely nostalgic for something I didn't enjoy at the time, that feeling is always heightened at Christmas time, longing I imagine for connecting with the true meaning rather than all the rampant consumerism that exists today around it. My parents were pretty full on catholics so we were forced to attend mass regularly, although I'm kind of pleased, I gleaned a tiny bit of Latin by osmosis along the way, so when I hear things quoted in that language is not a complete mystery. I think there was a lot of panoply displayed with the catholic religion from memory, maybe less so these days. I've heard it described as pure theatre and I can see why that conclusion might have been reached, all the incense perhaps!

Froglady Mon 23-Nov-20 08:36:54

I was christened in the Church of England but we moved a few days later and the first church I can recall going to was a Congregational church which was just round the corner where we lived. When we moved again we didn't go anywhere for a while then my parents fell out one Sunday morning and Mum took me to find a church, a Congregational one again.
I now hedge my bets and go to a Catholic church on Sundays (I have been going to this church for years but I'm not a Catholic, and and Church of England church on Tuesdays!
I describe myself as a Christian but don't put myself into any denomination.

Polly99 Mon 23-Nov-20 08:31:19

Brought up C of E and took my children there too. Always felt drawn to the smells and bells of the Catholic church and converted after the children were grown up. Still find it gives me a sense of peace. C of E can be very variable depending on the vicar. Some have been wonderful others not so much. Probably the same in all denominations.

Bakingmad0203 Mon 23-Nov-20 08:18:41

Brought up in a United Reformed Church. Went to Sunday school until I was 12. Then went to a Baptist church. Left at 15 and didn’t go back to church until taking my children to Sunday school. Then a gap of 20 years until I visited an Anglo Catholic Church one Christmas Eve for Mass with a friend. I loved the service, the ceremony, smell of incense and the people and have been attending church ever since.

Onthenaughtystep1 Mon 23-Nov-20 08:04:28

Raised Church of Scotland.
Atheist since I was old enough to understand.
Brought my children up to respect the choice of others and exposed them to the beliefs of many religions.

Ashcombe Mon 23-Nov-20 07:54:45

Brought up Methodist then Anglican when we moved. Remained Anglican as an adult although nearly lost heart completely due to attitude of the Vicar over my divorce six years ago (ironic given that Henry VIII founded C of E in order to divorce Catherine of Aragon!)

Now I attend the church that I can see from my flat! It’s Anglo-Catholic so not my preferred style of worship, but I’ve been made to feel so welcome, especially by the priest, who is a wonderful character who has visited me in hospital and at home if I’ve been unwell.

mumofmadboys Mon 23-Nov-20 07:19:30

Brought up in C of E. Still C of E. Became much more meaningful to me in my early 20s.

Greenfinch Mon 23-Nov-20 05:52:50

BlueBelle I have always found the poem Abu Ben Adhem by Leigh Hunt a great comfort and also the parable of the sheep and the goats in Matthew's gospel.

BlueBelle Mon 23-Nov-20 05:11:10

Brought up vague C of E (baptised but nothing much else) went to Catholic school toyed with that as a teenager liked the Latin services, the older I get the less faith I have I m very unsure about it all now I suppose I have no religion although I do try hard to lead a decent life
Is that a religion ?

Hithere Mon 23-Nov-20 03:26:12

Born and raised Catholic, atheist since a very young age

B9exchange Mon 23-Nov-20 00:15:49

Brought up in a Free Church, a mix of Baptist, Methodist, Congregational, and any other Christians who weren't C of E as they had their own church opposite! Transferred to Anglican when there was no United Reformed Church near us, drawn in by a wonderful, inspirational young vicar who used to write musicals for the children to perform. Have attended Anglican churches ever since.