How to go to church when I am not into groups

Maybe a Catholic or Anglo Catholic church would be more like Milsa describes and would suit you better.

I understand the OP too………I recently called in at our local church, there was a drop-in event and I thought I’d get an idea of when services were etc.
However, I found it to be so cliquey…….to the point of being excluded from a casual conversation about the gardens surrounding the church entrance and being glared at for sitting in a particular seat. Needless to say, I didn’t go back.

I'm the same. Just go to church and then leave immediately.
Don't get pulled into having coffee etc. Most people do understand.

I am not a regular church goer and
I don't go for drinks.
I like to light a candle after a service and take a moment to reflect - but I never stay for coffee.
Nobody minds.

Please don't feel wrong to not join in.

Milsa, I do understand!
I absolutely expect the people who go to your church will accept you just as you are.

I congratulate you for knowing what you want and need.

I agree with the others - you don't have to stay and socialise after the service or get drawn into anything more if you don't want to. You might find that, in time, you want to chat to someone and I'm sure you'd be welcome.

Otherwise, just say a friendly goodbye to anyone you pass and leave.

Most people stay at our church because we live in a small community and it's a chance to catch up. Sometimes, though, someone will say no to coffee and that they have to get back; no-one minds.

Do the same here.

I am on the PCC of our church. We have coffee ect. after the service but it’s not compulsory. Most people stay ( for my sausage rolls I think) some don’t.
All welcome

Just do the same here, if that's what you want.

I go to church, take part in the service, and am out of the door the moment it ends. I'm famous/ notorious for it !
Church doesn't have to mean church gatherings if that's not what you want.

You can still do that here, should you wish to.
But if approached, just politely say that you have no desire to mix/group.