What happened

Reporting advertising is fine. That is not what we are talking about. We are talking about reporting other GN posters which is quite different.

Snitching on others in secret is bound to create an unhealthy atmosphere in any organisation, GN being no exception. Already we are wondering who is doing the reporting. It can only get worse.

I suggest that people who report posts say they have done so to stop suspicion and speculation. We could have a special 'I have reported...' thread.

Mmm. I guess we weren't very secretive about reporting those posts. But I seem to remember that HQ advised us not to post on the thread that we had reported it if we had reported a nasty post by another GN-er. I sort of understand that as it could lead to more unpleasantness.

Agree with that Bags but not all the secrecy.

At one time there was a bit of a flood of advertising posts (spam) which I and others reported. They were all deleted. I do think that kind of reporting is useful. GN could get very overcrowded with rubbish if spam wasn't got rid of.

I made that comment myself on another, smaller forum and the next day I was barred! Made me feel like a radical for a while, then cross at the unfairness of it all. I just want a decent discussion, a bit of chat, nothing nasty or unpleasant. I wouldn't dream of reporting anyone for anything, not even the spammers...

It's all getting to be rather frustrating.

I don't see why we need so much censorship.

It's just a forum and we can leave threads anytime we want.

As for the PMing, well makes GN a confusing place to be because you never know what is going on in secrecy between people who are in cahoots.

That's true, I've seen that happen myself...

It's interesting though mollie, that sometimes there will be four or five posts all agreeing with each other, and then someone bravely disagrees and another five people all agree with the disagree-er, if you see what I mean.
Not thinking of any specific thread or posters, just a general comment.

Well, I thought it was a good general discussion until it was made personal. That was a shame. It was an opportunity to talk about advice -v- sympathy, something I've dithered about myself. Now I'm inclined to say nothing unless I agree with the consensus which I don't think is very helpful.

I don't like the pm system and would never use it to criticise anyone as I hate to be criticised myself. I have used it to "chat" with a few people I have common interests with that would not be interesting to others and I occasionally pm a poster we haven't heard from for a while just to check they are OK. I certainly wouldn't report anyone. I would rather leave if something really upset me. But that's just me.

Should have added "not me" .

you got there 1st Merlot !

It just seems slightly unlikely that brand new posters are going to report things . Perhaps just me ,heyho. hmmmm

Not me

I wondered that too. So many of us have said we have never reported anything, or only reported sales posts. Probably going to get another lot of 'not mes' now.

Kitty ,

Wonder who on earth it could be , Move

perhaps if people fessed up , it would be better for all ?

I said before, on the deleted thread, that I think there is too much pm-ing going on and a lot of the time I get completely lost about who said what to whom. It seems that most trouble is caused by pms rather than open disagreements. I thought this was a forum!

Nonu, I abhor the secrecy, it smacks of bullying and tittle tattling!

I think we must have someone who complains a lot!

Arguments can get circular, but I agreee that more was lost than gained by pulling the thread.

And I am against the secrecy !!!

Yes I am sorry the thread was pulled, because it obtained useful advice about giving advice and listening to people.
Like you merlot I object to my words being censored for no good reason.

No email. But got this in my "threads I'm on" list:

When posters ask for advice.....
Thread deleted
This thread was pulled because we don't think disagreements in PMs should transgress into the forums. It doesn't resolve the situation, and in most instances, makes things a lot worse. If you have an issue with a PM/poster then please do report it to us.;

[completly innocent shrug]

Any emails J08?

Ahhh! That could be where you went astray...

I was perfectly innocently asking for advice. About giving advice. And getting good feedback. [shrug]

(Should not have said "stuff 'em" about HQ! )

Which one of your threads jing?