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The Age of No Retirement-I hate this name!

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trisher Thu 31-Jul-14 20:30:59

Am I alone in thinking the title the "Age of no retirement" is incredibly off-putting. Retirement for me was a fantastic development in my life. I moved from a full time job into the world of volunteering and have managed to do things that wouldn't have happened if I had kept working. My life is now so varied, I've made new friends from all walks of life and spend my time doing things because I love them. I wouldn't mind a new name for this stage of my life but "No Retirement"-"No Thank you!!"

Ana Fri 22-Aug-14 20:28:44

Yes indeed, Jess - mine started doing annual 'assessments' of their employees' performance some years ago but haven't got round to it for the last two or three...hmm

JessM Fri 22-Aug-14 19:25:06

hmm Most employers have some kind of "performance review" system but sometimes it is done well, sometimes badly and sometimes postponed until things are less busy.

FarNorth Fri 22-Aug-14 18:10:25

Surely employers do continuous assessment of all employees to make sure they are performing their jobs as they should.

JessM Tue 12-Aug-14 07:58:24

Yes indeed Blinko - there is such huge difference in the capacities of people at 70 or 80 or 90 and their expertise is wasted when they are forced to retire while they still have much to offer.
I have 2 relatives in their early 80s - one is still rushing around leading a very active life and the other is almost completely physically incapacitated. This is obvious but the mental capacities of older people are more difficult to assess sometimes. I have one relative who is still writing academic books in her 90s But there are many with early Altzheimers.
If you made it completely flexible, employers would have to sometimes tackle people and have a discussion on grounds of capacity - telling them the time has come to go because they were no longer up to it. Some people do want to go on rather too long.
We probably all know someone who has gone on driving a bit longer than they should for instance. You would have to introduce cognitive assessment tests in roles like judges and doctors to ensure they were still on top of their game.

Blinko Sun 10-Aug-14 11:51:47

In an ideal world, it would be wonderful if those of us wanting retirement could be free to go for it; whilst those wishing to carry on at work could do so. A flexible retirement age to suit each individual would be perfect. It's worrying that some people must work on into old age, when they'd like to enjoy their later years with family and friends.

trisher Sat 09-Aug-14 12:12:47

Thanks to all who have grasped the point that I feel "The Age of No Retirement" is in fact some sort of con trick. Convince people that working is the only way forward, restrict their access to benefits and pensions and tell them they are in some way a drain on society if they take these up and you have a perfect situation to keep people working until they drop. My argument is that retirement in fact provides not only a healthier lifestyle for retirees, but benefits society, by making us available to do all sorts of volunteering stuff (not to mention childminding)
As far as the SAHM question goes, what about Grandparents who are childminding are they not entitled to opinions either? If so this means I can have opinions 6 days a week but not the 1 day I am minding my DGD-mm??

penguinpaperback Tue 05-Aug-14 09:58:10

Unless it's changed Australians and New Zealanders have less holiday than the UK.

Tegan Tue 05-Aug-14 09:36:25

Is it correct that we have less holiday in this country than most [except America]? If so, if people are having to work longer surely they need more holidays throughout their working life.

FarNorth Tue 05-Aug-14 08:38:49

Very well put, Jess.

JessM Tue 05-Aug-14 07:32:22

The title of the conference "The Age of No Retirement" is dreadful and insensitive. For millions it will conjure up the spectre of an impoverished retirement. We hear a lot about the baby boomers and their cushy pensions and if you happen to be part of a couple who have had a successful career in the public sector with index linked pensions at the end of it, or if you happen to have been very successful in the business world (and stuck it out for many years) then this stereotype applies. But for many people, and in particular many women who are not part of a couple, the reverse applies and they face retirement on state pension or the prospect of having to find low-paid work in an ageist market to supplement it. Divorce, adult children who have problems with their lives and increasing numbers of the very old that need looking after exacerbate the problems experienced by this group.
The Age of No Retirement is the age that our great-grandparents lived in - where you had to work until you dropped or got the sack (unless you had family to look after you). The alternative was the workhouse.
In poor countries they still live in this age.
The idea behind the conference - that older people make useful part-time employees - is a valid but the employment agency need to just go out and sell it, one client at a time. Or pay for it themselves if they want to have a conference with a stupid name.
I hate their insensitive title and I don't think GN should be supporting it.

Tegan Mon 04-Aug-14 17:52:47

I did ask if I could work for 2 days a week but it was refused. I was also prepared to do occasional work to cover for people, but that wasn't required. They've now taken on someone to do just that. D'you think someones trying to tell me something sad? So I stopped altogether. They also said that, once someone has left, they never take them back on. [the people that made these rules, by the way, all worked part time confused]...

Penstemmon Mon 04-Aug-14 17:51:06

If the OP is part of a commercial set up then we need to be fully aware that this is what it is...otherwise it feels like cold calling / time shar and pyramid selling! Stop trying to pull the wool over my eyes..I may be older but I am nobody's fool!

TriciaF Mon 04-Aug-14 17:47:32

I retired at 55 from a very interesting but stressful job, and the thing I missed most was the social contact with colleagues.
It's too late now, but if the OP is about limited return to work, I would certainly have taken up the offer. I did consider doing private practice at first, but setting up with all the equipment would have been too expensive. I wish I'd done that now.
In the last 10 years of working, I looked forward to going to work for a rest, living with 4 teenagers smile.

kittylester Mon 04-Aug-14 17:27:37

Quite right GrannyTwice.

I thoroughly enjoyed the voluntary roles I had while the children were at school and especially since. I have met people from all walks of life and with loads of different experiences and I hope I have helped them! Although I do admit that I have found it all rather taxing for my limited brain power! Had I worked, I doubt I would have had the same opportunity to mix with people so different from me!

FarNorth Mon 04-Aug-14 17:02:01

Silverfish's comments have led to this thread getting completely de-railed from the original point which was the "Age of No Retirement" campaign.
Like janeainsworth, I am confused about what the proposed conference is expected to achieve.
If Trading Times is an employment agency which wants to offer its services to "older people" and promote the skills of "older people" to potential employers, that's great.
I don't see that it needs a conference about it, financed by donations from the "crowd".
Has GNHQ been bamboozled by a lot of flannel into thinking that this must be something they / we should support?

Tegan Mon 04-Aug-14 16:58:12

When she was an adult I asked my daughter if she was pleased that I'd stayed at home when she was young, and she just said, no, not really because had I been a working mum it's all she would have known and that would have been ok. I didn't have a career to go back to and the office work I did wouldn't have covered childcare anyway. I'd always felt a bit of a failure and, even though I'd never really been very baby minded [I was quite happy with my cats] when I did have a child I suddenly realised that it was something I was good at. So it meant a great deal to me.[can I just say that this is a really difficult subject to get a point across without upsetting people cause there are so many grey areas sad]...

granjura Mon 04-Aug-14 16:43:24

We've discussed this many times with our daughters, when teenagers and now as adults- and they agree that me going back to Uni and to work was the best for them too. I was quite moved when they said how proud they were of their mum on Graduation day- and felt it was very special. And also that later throughout my career- even though I had to teach one of them- she pretended to be embarrassed, but now says she loved it, really.

GrannyTwice Mon 04-Aug-14 16:23:06

What your friend said Tegan was incredibly unkind. I agree with GJ - it's not either/ or for some ( can't quantify it) people. I understand that the financial imperative is all important for some people but if we put that to one side, for others it was a choice. Some people( I did for the first few years) worked part time but then went full time because I simply couldn't get the sort of job I wanted as a part time post. It wasn't about being at home was boring but that I needed/wanted to do be more involved outside the home and build a career. Now I'm formally retired but have a portfolio of various posts which I absolutely thoroughly enjoy - mostly paid, some voluntary. I really don't make any judgements about the choices people made when they had children and then after formal retirement. You just have to sort out what's best for you and your family . I know I am easier to live with for having the work I do have but that's just me

granjura Mon 04-Aug-14 15:59:09

Why the extremes Tegan- there are plenty of us somewhere in the middle- wanting to go back to work doesn't mean you find looking after children boring or not worthy- I loved my time with the children, but also needed outside stimulation of a different kind after some years. That's OK no? Doesn't mean at all I didn't enjoy being a mum.

Tegan Mon 04-Aug-14 15:49:41

There's a big difference between mothers having to go back to work for financial reasons and wanting to go back because they find being with their babies/children so mind numbingly tedious. I have a friend who never married or had children. When mine were young she said that a friend of hers had just gone back to work after having her second child. I commented that I didn't understand why people didn't want to spend more time with their children when they were young to which she turned to me and said 'because she doesn't want to turn into a cabbage'. You can imagine how that made me feel sad. Wanted to say that, if she found me so boring I'd better go home straight away. But I have to admit that there were times when I was desperate to get away for a couple of days and just be 'me' for a while. I was very active politically when the children were young and I had more spare time than friends who worked, so I didn't spend any spare time I had doing nothing.

granjura Mon 04-Aug-14 14:55:46

Saying this, because women who choose to go back to work are often considered as 'bad or selfish' mothers but many SAHMs and others in the community- which is just as unfair.

granjura Mon 04-Aug-14 13:55:26

Absolutely gilly- but it is also ok for some to make that choice too, when they do have it, isn't it?

gillygillyosenfeffer Mon 04-Aug-14 13:50:59

I don't think it is often a case of making a decision to be a SAHM though. A lot of us didn't/don't have the luxury of choice. I hate it when people assume that mums go to work because they like it or because they are working for pocket money or extra money. Many of us simply had no choice.

granjura Mon 04-Aug-14 11:49:19

I stayed at home for 8 years with our little ones- and I never regretted it. When youngest went to work, I went to Uni to become a teacher- and loved every minute of it. I was really ready for it- and although I loved my years at home- it was the making of me- then loved my teaching career and the contacts and stimulation it gave me. My daughter has chosen to go back to work after a year after each child- as she loves her work- and has everything so well organised that the kids do not suffer - she does in a way as her life is shared between kids and work- and she has very little or none time to herself.

But Silverfish- each to their own- and your posts are both rude and so judgemental. Who are you to say that a SAHM has no worth and no right to a valid and sensible opinion. Really !!! Out of order shock

kittylester Mon 04-Aug-14 11:41:04

Actually GK, I can't sew for toffee. grin But I am envious of people who can.

I remember something like that jane but that didn't take into account the voluntary work we SAHM did/do or the support we gave/give to our DHs and the other people around us both in our own family and the wider community.