Grandads , uncles. men of a certain age!

GandTea - only in my head!

SS, you cradle snatcher !

When I first joined my membership was questioned by some because I don't have grandchildren - but I stayed and find the majority are friendly and helpful. I didn't see your post about watching the girls but lets face it I bet a lot of the grans on here often sit with their coffee and look at young men! I know I do (hey - I'm old not dead!).

Come on GNHQ let's have your view

cant see the point in that Tizliz as theres already old posters that do that!

I have suggested that we should be able to see the date someone has joined and perhaps how many posts they have made so that it is easier to spot anyone who comes here for a windup or worse.

very true but from what Ive read on mumsnet the dads are well out of it!

I'm not a granny (Yet-I live in hope )Does this mean I shouldn't be on here ?I assumed it meant it was a forum for those of more nature years?
I am on Mumsnet too but don't find that many 50 plus people on there

Elegran, I do agree with all your points, but would add that the have been females here that will take any chance they get to criticise men.

Distinguishing between pests (of either sex) can take a while as it is so difficult to judge the intent of remarks.

Mumsnet is open to dads.

No-one has reported all the comments about grans watching the male talent, so I never did see what was so reprehensible in telling us that while Mrs P was busy you watched the female talent. A healthy interest is built into us all and laughing at/with ourselves for it is healthy.

I DO (and did) object to one or two men who joined and clearly saw the female members of this site as a chance to make lubricious remarks and leer at us - and on some occasions to send offensive private messages to selected people.

We need the ability to distinguish the sex pests from the normal blokes by the content and tone of what they write - as we also need it to distinguish the various personalities of all posters by what and how they post. If we haven't developed that by our age and know who to respond to and who to avoid, heaven help us.

I guess Gransnet was a spin off from Mumsnet, hence men were not initially considered.

Even Mumsnet should be open to Dads, as many Dads these days are the primary carer, either in a single parent situation or because they choose the mum to work whilst dad looks after the house & children.

its a pity that they missed the 'd' in the name and not called it Grandsnet...I honestly thought this was a site for grans with the name...the majority of stuff on here is aimed at women its no wonder the men avoid it...

Gandt I think some women on here think its the bloody (can I say that?) womens institute!!!

I wasnt here re you 'watching the girls go by' thats a man thing and nowt wrong with that all men look and if they say they dont their lying... ?

people are too quick to judge and be critcal when their sat in front of a computer they dont think about a persons feelings and how their comments will affect that person...

oh your shed needs a few scatter cushions the seats are a bit uncomfy....?

I would not like to see a separate site for Grandfathers, the beauty of Gransnet is that it is for all GP's. Whilst we may have different interests and specific problems related to our gender, many of the subjects are gender-less.

We have had many men join over the years, but there has been a core of ladies that do not consider this acceptable and have made life on the forums uncomfortable.

For example, recently the term "Bitch" was used in a derogatory manner by a female member, it took a while before it was complained about, and then not particularly aggressively, Had a man said this he would have been hung out to dry by his b...s.

Some of you may remember how I got castigated for saying that I sat in a cafe and watched the girls go by whilst Mrs P was shopping. I was called sexist, a lecher and a potential rapist.

Ok, I am cheeky and ask for trouble sometimes (well, daily really) but it is all meant in good humour.

If we want to keep the men that come on here, we should accept them for what they are and not assume they are trouble makers, and have every word they utter analysed.
As many of you know I have gone off in a huff a few times thinking to myself "why do I bother", but then I realise that the vast majority are great people, and sneak back.

I would not like to see any name change, but we could add a male profile onto the logo, instead of two women.

Perhaps a Grandadsnet in its own right could be added to Mumsnet and Gransnet.
Then the dads would feel left out. There would have to be a Dadsnet too

Cherrytree Perhaps Grandsnet is the better name!

Oops should read 'known as Gransnet'

Roses I agree!
But would/could that be possible?
*Grandparentsnet formally known as grandsnet'
Bit of a mouthful.
Was ok for Prince

Perhaps a Grandadsnet in its own right could be added to Mumsnet and Gransnet.
We could lurk and pop over sometimes for a chat or give a bit of advice.
What does HQ think??

It's a shame, but some of the men who have attempted to join in over the years have not been welcomed as well as they could have been and have retired, hurt.

There do seem to be one or two (maybe more) Grans who would prefer to keep the site women-only and can be pretty scathing if a granddad gives an honest opinion or attempts a joke (and I know GandTea has had a few rebuffs along the way!)

Call the site GrandparentsNet ( can't see many men going on Gransnet.)

or perhaps a ukele would be sufficient

you know what I mean
ukelele

A strategically placed ukele perhaps?

GrandT is a chatting, witty individual. In my experience there are not many of those amongst the more mature males of the species.
Sadly although H is kind, generous and affectionate. Witty and chatty he ain't

??@ GandT