"Go back to Mumsnet!" Mumsnet V Gransnet dilemma...

SirChenjin

I was probably ready for Gransnet when I was 25
(Although I wasn't even a mother then)

Like someone else, I ended up on here simply because I’d been looking for advice on the menopause. I stumbled onto mumsnet first, and then realised, although there were older people responding to me there, it wasn’t enough. I noticed adverts for gransnet, and here I am. I’m still on both, but by the time I get notifications from mumsnet, the subjects are usually 4 to 5 pages long, with hundreds of responses. It’s too fast, and I know I’m really likely to repeat what’s already been said. On some occasions, I’ve replied, and explained I’m a granny. I’ve never been told to go away.....or at least I don’t think I have!

Nobody ever called me too young for GN . What have I done wrong? I still feel about 45, although that deosn't fit with what it says on my (surely inaccurate) birth certificate.

I rarely go on MN, but I do read the discussions which pop up on the Talk Round-up emails. On the bright side, nobody ever called me too old for MN .

I dont know what thread this is a thread about so just taking the conversation at face value.

SirChenjin I have been called a millenial so many times on here simply because they have my sympathy (as someone who benefited from getting on the property ladder before the boom). Its likely that some the people calling me a young 'un are my age or younger

One passive aggressive comment I received from a poster who couldn’t get past the idea that they let non Grans on here was ‘I wouldn’t have been ready for GN at your age’. Charming - on so many levels.

Dont worry about it callistemon no amount of common sense is enough for some people.
Was my comment oblique enough to be considered p agressive I wonder?

Well I never.

Who'd have thought that suggesting in a kindly and well-meaning manner to a young poster that Mumsnet could offer her help and guidance where Gransnet has so far not been successful in helping her solve her problems could have caused all this furore.
Mumsnet is huge and may be able to offer a wealth of experience.
The poster I advised was perfectly happy, said she valued all my advice and took no offence at my suggestion. She, at least, knew perfectly well that I wasn't suggesting she should leave Gransnet and that it is possible to belong to both.

The intent of this thread seems to be to stir up trouble in a passive aggressive manner, therefore a good lesson in what it means for those who were not aware.

Maybe we need a GGN (Great-Grans-Net) for really ancient people like me.

@SarahCGransnet
Thankyou for the guidance.
I thought it would be useful to highlight that passive-aggressive posting comes in this form, too.

I hope those people in this thread who did not pick up on it can give some thought to going forward with a more inclusive attitude.

The fact that other people are also unhappy with being directed to Mumsnet speaks volumes.

There have been a few threads where rather aggressive mums post, apparently assuming that all grans are ancient and don’t know anything about child rearing☹️. I just ignore those, but I have seen responses suggesting they go away. Not the thread mentioned earlier.

I feel tired and ill so not as sharp as usual, but this thread is confusing me. I am on Mumsnet as I bring up a 13 year old child and Gransnet as I have 2 grandkids. What is wrong with being on both? I like to read and comment on both. Is this not allowed.

Personally I've found everyone on here fabulous and I just ignore those odd few that are not I do see same names coming up alot though!!!

It's not either/or is it?

If so, I must be breaking the rules.

Spot on MawB ??

Me too BlueBell

I think a fight is being picked. A thread about a thread?
I want no part of it.

Thankyou for all the sensible replies.

What the heck’s this about I haven’t a clue I go away for a few hours and end up in a parallel universe ???

I am on both which probably means I need to get life

I cant go back to mums net, never been there in the first place! I am x gen so always th middle ground on most things it seems x

Too fast and too many posters. Loads of excellent product and holiday recommendations though - I always search there if I’m thinking of buying some hair or beauty stuff or going somewhere.

I need

Cheerio.

Also I cant keep up with MN: too fast!

But brilliant for breaking news. Especially info about unfolding incidents that arent fully reported on mainstream news yet. MN & twitter are both useful for that

I couldn’t agree more notanan - every word you’ve just written sums up my feelings on GN/MN.