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LaraGransnet (GNHQ) Tue 07-Jul-20 11:27:47

Hello, GNHQ here, (waving a white flag).

We need your help. As many of you have probably noticed the conversations over the past few days have been increasingly tense. The questions posed have been so interesting and worthy of debate but so often the conversations have derailed and turned into personal attacks (the veiled ones can be particularly unkind). We hate deleting threads when people have taken time and effort to contribute and it must be equally wearing for you all to wade through mean-spirited posts. We'd really like to get back to conversations that include debate/disagreement but that also show a bit of respect and consideration for other posters even if you disagree with them.
Thank you for reading. smile
GNHQ

MerylStreep Tue 07-Jul-20 16:59:57

GillT57
I'll join you on the parapet if I may ?

GGumteenth Tue 07-Jul-20 16:50:29

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Oldwoman70 Tue 07-Jul-20 16:48:35

No-one wants to see GN become bland and boring - I am happy with a good debate but too often the debate deteriorates into name calling. As I said before all that does is cause many to just simply stop posting so the only posters left are those that agree with each other.

lemongrove Tue 07-Jul-20 16:47:37

Yes Grandad it is certainly ironic! ?

lovebeigecardigans1955 Tue 07-Jul-20 16:47:07

Thank you Lara, it's possible to disagree with someone without becoming disagreeable.

Grandad1943 Tue 07-Jul-20 16:45:57

Well, with the number of post being deleated in this thread which is dedicated as a topic to deleted threads, it may well be that this thread will be deleted before very long. ???

The above was a joke by the way GN. ??

Whingingmom Tue 07-Jul-20 16:44:08

I agree. It’s an anxious time for many people and it is also very uncertain for most of us. Some posters do seem to be rather antagonistic in quite a personal and pointed way. Its not pleasant to read this, mean and nasty posts are not necessary. I think admin do well to try and discourage this whilst maintaining active debate and respect for differing opinions.

GillT57 Tue 07-Jul-20 16:43:07

Can I just pop my head over the parapet and say that I don't want Gn to become bland and boring? Anyone who doesn't like the rough and tumble of the political threads is quite at liberty to avoid them! I agree that personal attacks are unnecessary but sometimes it is worth referencing a name in one's reply in order that others can know whose opinion one is agreeing or disagreeing with ( without nastiness of course).

ladymuck Tue 07-Jul-20 16:40:54

We all have different opinions and different ways of looking at things. Also, we have all had different lives and different experiences, and this influences our opinions.
We should all be able to express those opinions even when they are at odds with everyone else.
There is absolutely no need to ridicule or abuse anyone on here. Those that resort to such behaviour are simply showing what very desperate and unpleasant people they are.

lemongrove Tue 07-Jul-20 16:40:01

?Thanks Ellianne let’s hope that is the last of it.

Ellianne Tue 07-Jul-20 16:35:35

I feel for you lemongrove. You don't deserve another round of this.

lemongrove Tue 07-Jul-20 16:33:54

Thank you Peardrop50.

lemongrove Tue 07-Jul-20 16:32:52

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sodapop Tue 07-Jul-20 16:20:02

I would not want to see a bland forum where everyone agrees and we all pat each other on the back. I agree that some personal attacks are unwarranted but there has to be argument and disagreement. I think this is counter balanced by the many kind and helpful posts on here.
It's better not to engage if things are getting personal.

Rufus I am happy to be a woman and not a "laydee" and yes its good to have the views of both men and women. I've probably offended someone now with the last few words.

AGAA4 Tue 07-Jul-20 16:07:50

Thank you Lara. I think this was needed.

There do seem to be a few long distance snipers on here who spoil what could be a very good discussion/debate with personal rebukes.

Peardrop50 Tue 07-Jul-20 15:53:43

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Ramblingrose22 Tue 07-Jul-20 15:51:45

Well done to GNHQ for reminding people about not beig rude to each other.

However strongly we feel about a particular issue the replies from those who disagree with us should be respectful and address the questions/issues raised, not the person who posted. I am tired of seeing posts saying something like "Oh [name} is always saying that - we know what to expect from her, don't we?)".

Yesterday someone whose name I forget) told other posters to "give it a rest" just because she didn't agree with what they had said. I thought that was borderline rude.

Keep up the good work GNHQ.

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Rufus2 Tue 07-Jul-20 15:42:04

So we know there are still plenty of lovely women here
Nortsat I prefer to say "lovely ladies! smileAnd not forgetting the gentlemen of course, even if we are more rugged than lovely grin
Also, anyone looking for a safe, strife-free thread, take a look at the "Good Evening xxxDay " thread, where you'll find some more lovely ladies engaging in very pleasant conversations.
Good Health
OoRoo

trisher Tue 07-Jul-20 15:41:59

This is interesting but I wonder, when threads do deteriorate into personal remarks usually there are two or three posters involved. Because of those 2 or 3 people whole threads are being deleted, wouldn't it be better and produce better outcomes if those people were warned, any offensive posts removed and a warning issued with the threat of a temporary suspension from GN? It would then mean those interested in real debate could continue. GNHQ has been deleting threads for a long time now and apparently things are getting worse, perhaps you need to review your strategies. It does seem a pity that real debate should be stifled in this way, and there is the possibility that some are just trying to get the thing deleted.

Peardrop50 Tue 07-Jul-20 15:35:28

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Madgran77 Tue 07-Jul-20 15:32:38

I agree. A pity when threads get derailed and personal.

growstuff Tue 07-Jul-20 15:31:39

Thank you for listening Lara.

grumppa Tue 07-Jul-20 15:28:06

I wonder whether the increase in unacceptable postings is a symptom of covid-19 syndrome. We are all a bit frazzled by lockdown, the stuttering emergence from it, and the feeling that our hapless government has not got a grip