GNHQ here - please read

Thanks Lara. I'm one of those GNetters who loiter, sometimes feel moved to write something, then back off in the face of some of the earlier comments. I would never assume that 'my' view is the correct one - what a pity that others often seem to be so sure that they are right. Most of the topics (political especially) have no simple answers. If they did, then we GNetters would be running the country now there's a thought

I've seen someone say, occasionally, that their post was deleted and they don't know why.
A link to GN guidelines is not always enough.
I think it would be useful for GN to say, either in the deleted post or directly to the person, what exactly the reason was.

I have never had a post deleted, btw, so it's not sour grapes from me.

Read thanks Lara I don't post often some I have read recently have been a bit harsh .

Yes, Lara

Hands up, I had a post deleted the other day but it was in response to another post which I found truly upsetting and shocking.

I will try not to respond to those types of posts in future.

Totally agree used to look dpfirward to reading the posts and haven’t been commenting on things as I feel so sad about some of them we’ve all been through such a lot and it made me feel like switching off for a while,

Agree. Let's be kind.

Agreed, maybe those of us who stopped posting because of unkindness may feel inclined to
start posting again.

agreed Lara. I like a good debate as much as anyone else, but I do find the bickering, and sometimes spiteful posts very wearisome.

I’ve been posting here for. Few years but less and less recently because of exactly what you describe Lara . I hope things can be kinder all round .

And yes of course people are entitled to complain about their hair at this difficult time. I just had a bit of a 'moment' . It's not all about me!

Yes Riverwalk that's me Thank you. Personally I love to hear about everyone's families, see their photos etc. I don't want to argue.

Kate your post illustrates how problematic it can be when posting on a public forum.

If I remember correctly, you had a very difficult childhood and lost all your hair (I could be mixing you up) however you have had a very long and successful marriage - something that many of us weren't so good at! But I don't take umbrage at those who post about their anniversary celebrations, particularly if attended by their adult children who've never given them a moment's worry

I don’t want to read bland opinions but dislike verbal aggression. Feelingmyage I'm afraid, IMO, yer have to take the rough with the smooth, or things will be very bland!

Thank you Lara.

I am pleased GNHQ has raised this. I know several GNs who no longer post, or visit, simply because they are afraid of the response from some, this stifles debate and results in posts just being from the same people agreeing with each other.

I try never to post anything that might be construed as hurtful or insulting. I never join in anything contentious (wimp that I am). I try to consider other people's feelings/ problems when posting. Many times I have started a thread and deleted it for fear of hurting or upsetting someone. I did it today when yet another 'lockdown hair' thread appeared. Having lost all my hair, I find all these threads upsetting but deleted my post for fear of making anyone who had posted feel bad.

Well said sat53

Thank you Lara. I have barely posted in the last few weeks in case my contributions take a turn in an unexpected/negative direction. Thankfully Mick’s lovely good morning thread and soop’s kitchen remain safe places. Credit to both Mick and Soop for gently ensuring and reiterating that they are kind threads. There is true in the old cliches

Agree to disagree

If you’ve nothing nice to say, say nothing

One bad apple spoils the bunch ( from the Old Testament - one bad influence ..... )

I don’t want to read bland opinions but dislike verbal aggression. There are many very interesting and kind people on here and I have been reminded of the importance of listening and in particular, learnt some apt phrases for offering comfort and consolation that I have been able to take into real life situations to express feelings. Thank you to all who listen, reply, offer reassurance and an alternative point of view in a positive way to help me see a different perspective.

Thanks Lara.

Thanks Lara

Thank you. As a new Gransetter I've been shocked at some of the responses.

Message deleted by Gransnet for being in the spirit of the site. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Thank you

I dont think this is particular to GN , I think we have started to want to win an arguement rather than debate.

Good that this has come from GNHQ when 'netters' have raised the issue it hasn't been well received.

I have read, and concur fully with the sentiments.
Thank you.