Troll hunting and thread deletions

Starblaze is quite right. There are some posters that I just scroll past. Life's too short.

Not everyone is going to like everyone which is fine but that isn't based on disagreeing for most people. I like a lot of posters I dont always agree with and I think that's the case for many others. It really is personality that causes problems.

Some people are very out there and obvious to all.

Some people are very covert, will follow you around disagreeing and deliberately say things they know wind you up so you get fed up and lash out. They enjoy it though so the best way to be sure they get no enjoyment is to just ignore them.

When it becomes obvious, If you see their names, roll your eyes and scroll past. Makes Gransnet much nicer.

Not always easy on the difficult topics I know but gets easy with practice lol

I am confused.dont post much ,but previous name Nelliedeane...nothing to hide have been here since 2011..
Am sad as this always a lovely place to be

I think that's true, Bluebelle, after all, it's been done before, as long-standing members (why does that phrase always seem rude?) will know.

Well the poster who sent you the abusive private message should certainly have been banned
I can imagine them all back under new names after the flounce can’t you ?

Bluebelle I don't think there have been bannings, just flounces and threatened flounces.

Probably some yellow cards though.

What a to do !
I know the threads have been pulled but have the abusive poster or posters been banned ?
Perhaps I ve just missed that bit of info someone can update me

Natasha.

Thank you for your polite response. To my post.

You say :-

' Thank you for your suggestions, where possible we will try and include the reason for deletion.'

With all due respect this has been an answer from GNHQ before over the years but has not been taken further.
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' While we appreciate some posters don't like to report posts, it's really helpful if you do report anything that contains a personal attack, as we want Gransnet to be a supportive, welcoming place for all'

When there is a thread that has become blatently obvious there are issues perhaps knowing there are many posters who do NOT result to ' reporting' posts and prefer to keep things open and for all to see you could take an interest from your end under those circumstances rather than rely on what is often a poster /few posters who are losing a debate and cannot handle being on the receiving end of what they initially dished out. Hence the feeling of 'aiding and abetting' bad behaviour, you could take the initiative and control the thread. This will obviously be difficult and I am suggesting this for threads that have obviously gone too far and to which will be obvious from your end.

Thank you.

One GN has been in touch with me and she has left- not entirely over this spat but she went quietly and gracefully not wanting to make a song and dance about it. Nobody was abusive with her. GN is just not what she signed up for so good luck to her.

Lucca your apology is accepted, of course. ?

phoenix

*annsixty*, pretty sure you weren't one of the people who were given that particular instruction!

I was, and there was at least one other member named, as far as I'm aware. I didn't actually see the post in question, but still confident that you weren't included.

I think she was actually....

Nortsat. My apologies I mixed you up with blinko. So sorry.

annsixty, pretty sure you weren't one of the people who were given that particular instruction!

I was, and there was at least one other member named, as far as I'm aware. I didn't actually see the post in question, but still confident that you weren't included.

You may never know, annsixty as the evidence has been deleted.

Please don't f* off

Let's stay together
We'll be all right
?????? ?

I now assume I was one of the posters told to f... off as I said I thought someone was annoying.
Well that was wrong of me but I dont know who posted that, if indeed I was one of the recipients.
It gets more convoluted by the minute.

Blinko, that's why I'm so annoyed by all this. There are fragile people for whom GN may be a lifeline in an otherwise lonely world.
They should be able to post without having to worry about whether posters are genuine or not.

Nortsat

Lucca

Nortsat. By the way when you said some people must spend a lot of time on gransnet . Was that possibly a little “sneery “ ? At various times in life people can be lonely bored sad and not have much else to do ? Just saying

I did not say that, you are mistaken Lucca.
I would not join with or exacerbate unpleasantness. Neither would I be ‘sneery’.

It was me who said that. I'm exasperated that, like some others, I haven't a clue what all this is about, nor do I have any idea who's posted under different names, who does/doesn't get along with whoever else, etc. etc.

I understand that some people may be bored, lonely, or sad for other reasons and therefore find solace on online forums. They are surely the last people to wish be caught up in all this infighting.

There are some interesting, informative and also amusing threads on here. That's what I come for.

Geekesse, I'm glad to hear that you have had a positive experience on GN.
However, it is worth noting there will be members who have not had such a positive experience and that is why there has to be some level of consistency.

geekesse Doing anything that involves a degree of control over what people do, say, etc. is a thankless task. Organising an activity that others join in with is as bad. Whatever you do is wrong for half of them, and if that half are happy, the other half complain, but getting either half to take on an active role in planning or admin is like drawing teeth.

I think Norstat was quoting a post made by Orangerose, the "By the way when you said some people must spend a lot of time" etc, and adding her response, the "Was that possibly a little "sneery"? At various times etc" part, but might be wrong?

Agree with you Marydoll, consistency is key.

Can I just give a shout out to GNHQ? Moderating an online community is a tedious and thankless task - I know because I did it for several years (not GN). Whatever you do, some people will think moderation is being applied too heavily, and others will complain that it’s not moderated enough.

GNHQ do a great job, moderating with a light hand and responsively. They’ll never please all of the posters all of the time, but I for one am grateful that GN works as well as it does.

Lucca

Nortsat. By the way when you said some people must spend a lot of time on gransnet . Was that possibly a little “sneery “ ? At various times in life people can be lonely bored sad and not have much else to do ? Just saying

I did not say that, you are mistaken Lucca.
I would not join with or exacerbate unpleasantness. Neither would I be ‘sneery’.