Troll hunting and thread deletions

Geekesse, I'm glad to hear that you have had a positive experience on GN.
However, it is worth noting there will be members who have not had such a positive experience and that is why there has to be some level of consistency.

Nortsat

Lucca

Nortsat. By the way when you said some people must spend a lot of time on gransnet . Was that possibly a little “sneery “ ? At various times in life people can be lonely bored sad and not have much else to do ? Just saying

I did not say that, you are mistaken Lucca.
I would not join with or exacerbate unpleasantness. Neither would I be ‘sneery’.

It was me who said that. I'm exasperated that, like some others, I haven't a clue what all this is about, nor do I have any idea who's posted under different names, who does/doesn't get along with whoever else, etc. etc.

I understand that some people may be bored, lonely, or sad for other reasons and therefore find solace on online forums. They are surely the last people to wish be caught up in all this infighting.

There are some interesting, informative and also amusing threads on here. That's what I come for.

Blinko, that's why I'm so annoyed by all this. There are fragile people for whom GN may be a lifeline in an otherwise lonely world.
They should be able to post without having to worry about whether posters are genuine or not.

I now assume I was one of the posters told to f... off as I said I thought someone was annoying.
Well that was wrong of me but I dont know who posted that, if indeed I was one of the recipients.
It gets more convoluted by the minute.

You may never know, annsixty as the evidence has been deleted.

Please don't f* off

Let's stay together
We'll be all right
?????? ?

annsixty, pretty sure you weren't one of the people who were given that particular instruction!

I was, and there was at least one other member named, as far as I'm aware. I didn't actually see the post in question, but still confident that you weren't included.

Nortsat. My apologies I mixed you up with blinko. So sorry.

phoenix

*annsixty*, pretty sure you weren't one of the people who were given that particular instruction!

I was, and there was at least one other member named, as far as I'm aware. I didn't actually see the post in question, but still confident that you weren't included.

I think she was actually....

Lucca your apology is accepted, of course. ?

One GN has been in touch with me and she has left- not entirely over this spat but she went quietly and gracefully not wanting to make a song and dance about it. Nobody was abusive with her. GN is just not what she signed up for so good luck to her.

Natasha.

Thank you for your polite response. To my post.

You say :-

' Thank you for your suggestions, where possible we will try and include the reason for deletion.'

With all due respect this has been an answer from GNHQ before over the years but has not been taken further.
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' While we appreciate some posters don't like to report posts, it's really helpful if you do report anything that contains a personal attack, as we want Gransnet to be a supportive, welcoming place for all'

When there is a thread that has become blatently obvious there are issues perhaps knowing there are many posters who do NOT result to ' reporting' posts and prefer to keep things open and for all to see you could take an interest from your end under those circumstances rather than rely on what is often a poster /few posters who are losing a debate and cannot handle being on the receiving end of what they initially dished out. Hence the feeling of 'aiding and abetting' bad behaviour, you could take the initiative and control the thread. This will obviously be difficult and I am suggesting this for threads that have obviously gone too far and to which will be obvious from your end.

Thank you.

What a to do !
I know the threads have been pulled but have the abusive poster or posters been banned ?
Perhaps I ve just missed that bit of info someone can update me

Bluebelle I don't think there have been bannings, just flounces and threatened flounces.

Probably some yellow cards though.

Well the poster who sent you the abusive private message should certainly have been banned
I can imagine them all back under new names after the flounce can’t you ?

I think that's true, Bluebelle, after all, it's been done before, as long-standing members (why does that phrase always seem rude?) will know.

I am confused.dont post much ,but previous name Nelliedeane...nothing to hide have been here since 2011..
Am sad as this always a lovely place to be

Not everyone is going to like everyone which is fine but that isn't based on disagreeing for most people. I like a lot of posters I dont always agree with and I think that's the case for many others. It really is personality that causes problems.

Some people are very out there and obvious to all.

Some people are very covert, will follow you around disagreeing and deliberately say things they know wind you up so you get fed up and lash out. They enjoy it though so the best way to be sure they get no enjoyment is to just ignore them.

When it becomes obvious, If you see their names, roll your eyes and scroll past. Makes Gransnet much nicer.

Not always easy on the difficult topics I know but gets easy with practice lol

Starblaze is quite right. There are some posters that I just scroll past. Life's too short.

One of the main points raised here was unsolicited , nasty PMs.
That's a different, cowardly ball game, I'm afraid ☹️

Oh Phoenix I feel you have material there for one of your much loved threads

In appreciation of the long standing member

Marydoll totally agree but then again most bullies are cowards.

Especially when they're in a group GrannyGravy.

I must admit I havent read all of this thread so apologies if I've got the wrong end of the stick!
I must have been on Gransnet nearly five years although I dont think I posted much before this year.
I've always viewed Gransnet as a very positive place , I think it still is.
Up until recently I always looked forward to my daily email and usually just read the threads on that. Now I look on more forums that I think might be interesting. They are interesting, informative and entertaining. There is also a great deal of support and kindness on here.
Recently I have been more aware of more bickering. Sometimes it's just a difference of opinion which is fair enough. Sometimes however there feels there is an underlying unpleasantness where on a thread a few posters seem to pick on another poster and be quite demeaning or unkind. Maybe it's always been there and I just havent picked up on it.
I do wonder if it's a more general problem. I'm also on a diabetes forum which very similar in nature to gransnet and usually very supportive. Over the past few weeks however people seem to be increasingly angry.
I'm currently on a thread there concerning Covid safe workplaces with schools in particular being a concern. As time goes on people are becoming increasingly angry. If we were in a real room coffee mugs would be slammed on tables and doors slammed!
Everyone is angry/ concerned/ scared. I cannot imagine there is anyone who has not being affected by Covid to some degree. Sadly we have gone from what appeared to be a genuine concern for others during lockdown to people taking a stand and increasingly showing hostility to those who dont agree with it. Not everyone of course,thankfully there is always good in the world.