Private messages -are they?

Maybe it’s just me, but I would expect GN to have access to private messages. There’s loads of vulnerable people out there, and I wouldn’t expect them to be at the mercy of a pm which is unpleasant. It shouldn’t be a problem if everything is above board.

Just to say that I have emptied my inbox , all the messages were old , some were definitely from people who no longer post , so that scuppers the idea of messages being deleted if one leaves the forum ..
Actually some were from marydollwith answers or corrections from her “school” .!

lemongrove

So when you see ‘message removed at users request’ it’s simply the poster who sent it having a tidy up of their inbox.
Annoying though, if you haven’t yet read the message.Will GNHQ be able to resolve this?

It's not just the sender. It was another recipient in my case.

Makes sense. Ive just had a look at my inbox - The only message which has been deleted at senders request was from MawBroon so that was obvs a long time ago as she has had several reincarnations since then! And presumably it was deleted when she left.

So when you see ‘message removed at users request’ it’s simply the poster who sent it having a tidy up of their inbox.
Annoying though, if you haven’t yet read the message.Will GNHQ be able to resolve this?

Could it be that some users regularly clear out their mailbox once a correspondence is over?

I was about to ask MawB2 whether the deleted posts were ones that she had sent as MawB, as I have found that if a poster leaves GN their PMs also vanish with them. Too late - GNHQ have explained it.

It is annoying, as there might be something in a private message that you want to keep - a phone number, perhaps.

I guess the only way for messages between two members to be completely private then is for people to give others their email addresses, thereby totally cutting out the GN connection.

I can’t think of any other way.

Of course some people would be reluctant to do that bearing in mind the hoax threads which, unfortunately, occur from time to time.

HQ certainly had a busy time on Monday as they had to send a lot of emails reminding posters of the rules.

I'm relieved to hear it's not all my fault. Perhaps GNHQ should be alerting the techies to this and come back and update us here.

I don't think there is anything sinister going on, but a technical issue here.
After twenty years of being heavily involved in Education IT, nothing surprises me. Strange IT situations arose, with people making all sorts of allegations, and they turned out to be technical issues.

In saying that, I'm sure HQ, as administrators and owners of the site, can access our PMs if they wish.

As for no moderators being involved on a Sunday, I too wondered about that, * Kitty*, after that terrible thread on Sunday.☹️

The one I had deleted was on Sunday - luckily I had read it but could quite easily not gave done considering the fun and games on the threads that night.

On another point, do gnhq not moderate on Sundays?

I have often wondered if the PMs are truly Private, and it now appears not!

Hmm will be guarded now in divulging anything personal, as I think should we all.

The one deleted from you Maw was dated August 6th and one from Callistemon August 7th so Marydoll is blameless for those.

No I have never removed one BlueBelle ??

I have lost posts like that the first time it happened I was mortified as I thought I d said something to upset the person but when I plucked up courage to ask them they told me ‘No I haven’t removed anything’ then they told me mine had gone from theirs as well
maw yours always go the next day but I presume you do remove them yourself Don’t you ?
All very weird

maddyone

I’ve had loads of messages deleted at user’s request including some from you Maw
and from other Gransnetters who I don’t think have requested removal. I think it’s very strange, something strange is going on.

I suspect for the same reason I gave Lucca - my apologies!

i thought it was obvious that PM are not private to GNHQ. it is their platform after all. they are private in the sense that they go to the chosen person, rather than be visible to everyone anyone reading these forums.
until they are deleted of course. it does sound odd, but then again, their platform their rules.

I’ve had loads of messages deleted at user’s request including some from you Maw
and from other Gransnetters who I don’t think have requested removal. I think it’s very strange, something strange is going on.

Doodledog, when you join GN, you are given the option of being emailed if you have PM.

Go to INBOX, then SETTINGS and tick the box to receive notification of a PM.

How do you know if someone has sent you a PM? I have had very few, but I found the ones I do have by accident as I can’t see any settings that notify the recipient.

For what it's worth, I've also had my sent messages deleted.
It still makes no sense to me.
Why delete things in the other person's mail box, in or out?

Drink up your nice cup of cocoa and get a good night's sleep.

You are correct, Callistemon, in an email system, a deletion shouldn't affect everyone else's PMs, including the sender's.?

Today on GN has not been my finest hour! For a number of reasons.☹️
I'm going to bed and pulling the covers up over my head and hiding from the world. ?

For future reference, if you can't access a PM and it shows this message about being deleted at user request, it's because the other user has deleted the PM from their inbox.

But surely that means there is a glitch in the system?
If someone deletes all the messages in their mail box it shouldn't affect the messages in another person's mailbox that were received from or sent to that person?

It doesn't happen with email accounts.