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Beswitched Tue 15-Feb-22 21:13:32

Really riled about this. A poster started a thread earlier today about bossy pisters trying to control threads. A lot of other posters agreed and said they too had often been made to feel uncomfortable, belittled or jeered at by a minority of posters.

A couple of posters then came on accusing the OP of stirring it and saying people should Name names. Other pisters quite rightly pointed out that this was inappropriate and against rules. The thread was then abruptly zapped as 'not being in the spirit...'

Concerned, I started a thread wondering about the zapping and requesting an explanation. Again a majority of posters agreedand also asjed for an explanation. Again, a couple of posters came on saying they didn't like the original thread, and also objected to my thread.

Once again HQ zapped the thread with no proper explanation. What is going on here!

nanna8 Wed 16-Feb-22 11:50:47

I must go around with blindfolds on then. No idea what is going on half the time, clearly. Perhaps they delete everything before it gets to us over here but that doesn’t work because we are a day ahead of the rest so I just don’t know. As I have said, once or twice, when I first joined a while back there was a coven of witches who all flew off into the night in high dudgeon and since then ,as far as I’m concerned, it has been 99.9 % pleasant.

Nicegranny Wed 16-Feb-22 11:47:14

rafichagran

It's true, these threads do not end well, but I have seen posters driven off this site due to some of the nasty personnel things said to them.
I also had people gang up on me once, rudeness, bullying, and one poster even made a shocking assumption. I just thought Fuck em, but some posters get upset by it. Before people ask I cannot quote the thread.
I also notice if some posters do not like a thread they try to derail it, why not just ignore it.
Yes as a poster said upthread, it is playground noncence, but playground noncence happens in the work place, it happens in clubs, it happens in all sorts of situations and carried out by adults. Let's not underestimate the effect it has on others.

rachifagran

How come you can actually say “Fuck” in your post when l was bullied and mocked by the bullying nasty women on here for saying “Camilla is an old trollop”.
I mean they were really mean and nasty.
Not the sort of people I would associate with.
But fuck that’s far worse than trollop.

Rosalyn69 Wed 16-Feb-22 11:46:50

Clique is the word of use.
I don’t feel intimidated but usually ignored and never welcome.
It’s cool as I really don’t care but I don’t post as much as I’d like.
It’s the nature of message boards or online groups I think.

Yammy Wed 16-Feb-22 11:37:44

"Cabal "an inner group of posters who think they rule and can set rules because they have been on Gransnet longer than others. They always back each other whether it be kind or hurtful. Things are often pointed out and could be distressing if you are on the receiving end and only recently joined.
They are wanting me to put Transnet again.
Surely new people should be welcomed and their ideas listened to, it is meant to be a forum for all. If people start stopping posting there will be no more Gransnet just the inner cabal . sad

Freya5 Wed 16-Feb-22 11:17:12

rafichagran

It's true, these threads do not end well, but I have seen posters driven off this site due to some of the nasty personnel things said to them.
I also had people gang up on me once, rudeness, bullying, and one poster even made a shocking assumption. I just thought Fuck em, but some posters get upset by it. Before people ask I cannot quote the thread.
I also notice if some posters do not like a thread they try to derail it, why not just ignore it.
Yes as a poster said upthread, it is playground noncence, but playground noncence happens in the work place, it happens in clubs, it happens in all sorts of situations and carried out by adults. Let's not underestimate the effect it has on others.

Very well said. Those that disagree with your view, and there will be many, and that’s the idea, would be boring if all agreed, but name calling eg people stupid and other unsavoury terms is totally unpleasant .

Grandmashe43 Wed 16-Feb-22 11:10:48

Well, well done to the ladies who have tried to make a joke out of a subject which is very far from amusing.
It must be awful to be shy or under confident and try to make a valid point, and no wonder so few people are able too. They just give up.
No matter what it’s called, being, dismissed, domineered, ridiculed, is appalling behaviour.
I haven’t been on the receiving end before, however, I will be much more proactive in future and I will not be any bodies
Fall guy for stating my opinions,

tickingbird Wed 16-Feb-22 11:08:27

GN Clique = posters with shared views that differ from yours AKA The Pile On Set

Yammy Wed 16-Feb-22 10:36:09

It strikes me you are damned if you do and damned if you don't[make comments back to objectionable posts] If you do make comments back and might include something said in a former post then your answer is deleted. If you don't answer and just soak it all up you are not really telling your true feelings and they have got away with what they have said to you and often repeat it.
By the way, Coastpath good one but you have just missed a Clinique offer at Fenwicks though John Lewis should be coming on tap in a few weeks.

rafichagran Wed 16-Feb-22 10:35:56

It's true, these threads do not end well, but I have seen posters driven off this site due to some of the nasty personnel things said to them.
I also had people gang up on me once, rudeness, bullying, and one poster even made a shocking assumption. I just thought Fuck em, but some posters get upset by it. Before people ask I cannot quote the thread.
I also notice if some posters do not like a thread they try to derail it, why not just ignore it.
Yes as a poster said upthread, it is playground noncence, but playground noncence happens in the work place, it happens in clubs, it happens in all sorts of situations and carried out by adults. Let's not underestimate the effect it has on others.

J52 Wed 16-Feb-22 10:26:43

Coastpath

GN Coven = bossy posters who aren't in your clique
GN Clique = posters with shared views that differ from yours
GN Clinique = people who only post on the Style and Beauty forum

???

Witzend Wed 16-Feb-22 10:25:57

welbeck

pisseur de copie ?

I’ve recently read a novel where someone accused another of being a ‘pisseur de copie’ and now I can’t remember which it was - very annoying!

Maggiemaybe Wed 16-Feb-22 10:25:25

Never heard of the Inner Circle, Fanny?

Very few have (taps side of nose knowingly).

Blossoming Wed 16-Feb-22 10:22:31

Good morning fellow pisters.

Oops, wrong thread grin.

Lucca Wed 16-Feb-22 10:21:18

Nice one coastpath

BigBertha1 Wed 16-Feb-22 10:17:30

That's me GN Clinique.

Coastpath Wed 16-Feb-22 10:15:10

GN Coven = bossy posters who aren't in your clique
GN Clique = posters with shared views that differ from yours
GN Clinique = people who only post on the Style and Beauty forum

FannyCornforth Wed 16-Feb-22 10:11:44

Maggiemaybe

And are they both the same as the mysterious GN Inner Circle?

I’ve never heard of them!
Are they like the Knights Templar?

GillT57 Wed 16-Feb-22 10:09:22

Maggiemaybe

Is the GN coven the same as the GN clique?

Coukd be,but as Groucho Marx said "I wouldn't want to be a member of any club that would have me as a member".

Maggiemaybe Wed 16-Feb-22 10:08:57

And are they both the same as the mysterious GN Inner Circle?

Maggiemaybe Wed 16-Feb-22 10:04:43

Is the GN coven the same as the GN clique?

GillT57 Wed 16-Feb-22 09:56:23

I agree Tina and at least on MN you can cuss a bit without people fainting.

Coastpath Wed 16-Feb-22 09:55:33

The first rule of the Gransnet coven is that you are never a member of the Gransnet coven.

Tina49 Wed 16-Feb-22 09:20:27

Millie22

Oh fgs if this continues I might go back to MN. It's all sweetness and light there.

???

gringrin

Maria59 Wed 16-Feb-22 09:16:29

Bossy posters can report threads they do not like and then they are removed.
Perhaps GN should refer to previous reports to check if its malicious reporting same for those members who are often reported

Iam64 Wed 16-Feb-22 08:46:04

Miss a day and I always seem to miss a riot. Love your post about loonie lefties and Boris babes Luca. Also enjoyed tickingbird on the gransnet coven ?