Posting on threads to put them down

Yes I agree Beswitched, I very nearly commented on the other thread about pj's - usual person commenting with rude remarks. That very person closed down a thread (about 2 years ago) and people left never to return!
If you don't like it, move on.

easzybee is absolutely correct.

My pet peeve in that department is the C-word threads (apologies for mentioning such a thing in March) which are posted on by people like me who start their various types of preparation very early.

There is invariably someone popping up to say they hate the C-word, often with a reason why, nobody should be posting about it until December, it’s so over-commercialised, etc. etc.

Why on earth anyone bothers even to read a quite obviously C-word thread when they’re so anti, I don’t understand.

can anyone remember the lasagne thread?

people just came on the thread to be spiteful about lasagne

Oh I love Lasagne and Christmas. Not together though.

Urmstongran

I thought AIBU threads are for that reason? Opinions.
Perhaps better to put some topics under ‘Chat’ instead?
?

There are similar posts on here to UG's but this is the shortest to quote.

If they had an opinion to state, that would be OK., but the people Beswitched is talking about don't post opinions. They don't have any, because they have no interest whatsoever in the subject. So why are they taking the trouble to reply, just to tell us the fascinating and unmissable fact that they know nuffin and care less? The only reason I can think of is that they like to see their username, just as some people like to hear the sound of their own voice and would recite the phone directory if that was the only way to hear themselves.

I totally agree OP .
There was a time when I would have quite happily started a new GN thread, but I don't bother now for the reasons mentioned above.
So I stick mainly to lurking or if going somewhere new, I will ask for advice on the Travel threads.

For the more serious issues such as Covid and Ukraine war, I find Mumsnet more informed.

My ‘peeve’ is when a poster reports the death of someone - an actor/author/sports person and someone immediately replies ‘never heard of him/her’. Why bother to do that?

Good thread Beswitched I've often thought this. It's even happening on here.

Exactly Elegran

If someone wants to post about the quality of M&S crumpets or the price of take away coffee or whatever they're perfectly entitled to. They don't need people posting yawny bored replies such as 'why would you start a thread about this' or 'First world problem.'

And the question 'is this all you have to worry about' is so insensitive.

People often post on Gransnet as a distraction from their worries.
Can you imagine how someone who is grieving, going through a marriage break up or worried about losing their home, feels when some idiotic stranger supercilliosly asks them this stupid question because they dared to start a thread on something light hearted and unimportant to take their mind off their problem for a few minutes?

Thanks Elless

Georgesgran

My ‘peeve’ is when a poster reports the death of someone - an actor/author/sports person and someone immediately replies ‘never heard of him/her’. Why bother to do that?

God yes.
I’ve started several of threads where this has happened.
So rude and ignorant

But this is behaviour I see on all sorts of threads. I was furiously berated by someone recently for posting about some ordinary dilemma because there is a war in Ukraine and I shouldn't be chatting about something so trivial.

Oh yes - the "first-world-problems^ put down.

Looking at the Wiki definition of the 'first world' is illuminating... what it used to mean and what it means now.

I really don't understand why people do this. If you mention poverty here in the UK, they will tell you that you don't know what poverty really means because someone in South Sudan is much poorer. Is it a way of silencing dissent? Virtue signalling? Maybe they don't approve of your stance on an issue and this is a way of shutting you up? I don't get it.

Overall, I think it depends. If it's the inevitable 'lets slag off M&H' threads, I think those that respond negatively to that are quite within the bounds of what is reasonable. After all, if you start a negative thread, you have to accept some people will hold a vehement opposite opinion.

As for other threads, if it's my thread with negative comments, I'm not bothered. There are enough positive people to drown out the negative. I'm aware not everyone is as thick skinned as me though.

Personally I don't like threads that end up as a tit for tat between two posters with their own agenda, very boring for others reading the thread.

That reminds me, Beswitched I have crumpets in the freezer that need eating up. I must get them out. Thank you, rambling conversations about minor things can be very useful.

That again reminds me that I was tempted by this "wonky bread box" from Earth and Wheat, but I didn't act on it because I already had no room in the freezer to store it all. www.earthandwheat.com/
If anyone tries it, I'd be interested in hearing what the stuff is like.

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

eazybee

Caused by an inflated ego combined with a perceived lack of attention.

I’m quoting this as I think it needs repeating.
Very pithy eazybee

MawtheMerrier

I think they used to makyth man !

With respect , as someone who is vaguely uncomfortable with threads which pose what I find intrusive questions, such as personal hygiene, I think I am entitled to say so.
Everybody is different, but on the whole I regard chat threads as an online equivalent of chatting with friends and these are not topics I would expect in our conversation.

You're certainly entitled to say you think something is an intrusive question. But not more entitled than the person who asked it is entitled to ask intrusive questions.

The way to deal with such things if one finds them unpleasant or intrusive is not to answer the question. Presumably the people who do answer such things don't think they are intrusive.

Sorry, besw, just seen you reply saying the same thing. I'd only got that far in the thread from the beginning ?

Also, sometimes certain posters manage to drop in how they are obviously more intelligent and academic than the average GN’er. They have degrees in this and that, have held down marvellous jobs all over the world, just to let others know that they really don’t have the time or inclination to waste on such trivial posts.

GagaJo

Overall, I think it depends. If it's the inevitable 'lets slag off M&H' threads, I think those that respond negatively to that are quite within the bounds of what is reasonable. After all, if you start a negative thread, you have to accept some people will hold a vehement opposite opinion.

As for other threads, if it's my thread with negative comments, I'm not bothered. There are enough positive people to drown out the negative. I'm aware not everyone is as thick skinned as me though.

But in that case surely come on and say some like:

I still find their food delicious. I've no idea why M & S come in for so much criticism lately.

Rather than:
'Why have you started this thread OP?'

'Meh. First world problem'

'Is this all you have to worry about? Lucky you. Try living in Ukraine'

The first response is offering an opinion on the subject under discussion.

The others are rude, sneery and irrelevant.

Yes it's a relief when some posters move away. Because I've lived in France for a long time I find all threads interesting as a window into a life I didn't lead.

Grannynannywanny

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

I don't think they bother to read the thread, or even the OP. Just moan and out...

Witzend

My pet peeve in that department is the C-word threads (apologies for mentioning such a thing in March) which are posted on by people like me who start their various types of preparation very early.

There is invariably someone popping up to say they hate the C-word, often with a reason why, nobody should be posting about it until December, it’s so over-commercialised, etc. etc.

Why on earth anyone bothers even to read a quite obviously C-word thread when they’re so anti, I don’t understand.

Took me a while to work out what you meant by C-word threads, witz! I was thinking, what? witz wouldn't use that c-word, surely? Then I realised!!

Which shows, I've also realised, how little significance the C you were talking about now holds in my head. That was a nice realisation ?

Grannynannywanny

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

I think that this tends to happen when threads are mentioned in the GN email newsletter thingy.
Threads always go a bit peculiar.
I think that some people think that they are duty bound to comment; regardless of whether or not they have anything of interest to add.