Do you remember wayback when.........

I have been here for six years I have noticed a few members have gone to other sites or have disappeared because of issues with other posters. Of course we have lost members sadly because of illness and death who will be remembered fondly.
Sometimes a thread is overtaken or side tracked by posters and the subject matter is lost through banter. But overall this site can be a lifeline for those in need of advice and support. It has to be said overall most members are reliable and give good advice to those who are troubled.

When I first started I nearly left in the first month because it was, bluntly, nasty. I think it is far better now . We all see things from a different angle, don’t we?

TerriBull

I joined a couple of weeks after it was set up, yes I agree with others there was always a certain amount of sword crossing, I think that's kind of inevitable really.

I could have written that post except I think that the sword crossing is nastier and, because GN is busier, there are more people doing it.

I have been around for some time, joined when I wintered in Asia and was a way of keeping in touch. There were more light hearted moments and laughter but there was also a lot of catty remarks I just remember being horrified at some of the remarks

People just need to remind themselves that there are real people with real feelings and problems behind those names on the screen. Some posters seem to forget that and it can lead to some unedifying behaviour.

I think it’s good that some on GN choose to meet up in RL, but it’s not something I want to do.

Am quite happy to just read and post, and have a mental picture of what others look like. Probably nothing like I imagine.

boheminan that was my experience too.
I joined many years ago, posted on what I thought was a fairly innocuous discussion thread, I think it was about school lunches ?, and got jumped on and shredded by one poster who then proceeded to do so on other threads and I left. However, I gave myself a talking to, told myself not to be daft, I don't know these people and not to take any of it seriously and then rejoined.

Ps I think I was feeling vulnerable when I first joined, having lost someone dear to me, and I thought GN would fill a gap in my life. It was the wrong time.

I’ve been here for about 10 years, I don’t really think it’s changed much. I don’t often post usually because what I was going to say, has already been said, or the post doesn’t interest me.
Gransnet is a cross section of society, there will always be people with differing points of view and experiences of life. I don’t think it’s necessary to rudely put people down for their opinions, but reasoned comment might encourage a different point of view.
I must say reading a recent thread replaced reading my current book! It could have been a book in itself!

As you say boheminan "it's still swings 'n' roundabouts".

No, I’ve only been here for around 3 or 4 years and I’m still feeling like a newbie in many respects. Gransnet was a lifeline during lockdowns and a comfort during illness. I have found a home in Mick’s Good Morning thread and Soop’s Kitchen. I read many threads, I comment on a few and I love the variety.

I’m a relatively new member so don’t remember the better times but mostly enjoy reading posts, I only ever reply to posts that interest me but have not yet started a thread. I just take it for what it is, I’ve found most of the threads I’ve joined in on have been quite positive. Even amongst a group of friends you get people who occasionally irritate with their opinions, overall I’m enjoying the app. I’m sitting in the garden with a coffee now just having a quick scroll.

I have thought a few times about leaving due the nasty comments you receive when posting, thinking about it after the last lot , it was not good

There is no use complaining, If something is not to your taste change it.

Not sure about Ye Goode Olde Days, but it is a fact that several factors in the last 6 years (and I let you guess which 2 major one, 1 person and 1 'event') have caused huge divides in society, with a lot of resentment, and currently, real fears- and it is not surprising that it is reflected here.

I haven’t been posting very long at all, I’ve not really seen any nastiness, I’m the type that would take the rough with the smooth, I’m quite thick skinned and realise that people have different experiences of life, but if I noticed anyone I thought that was being nasty or very harsh to another poster, yes I’d call them out on it, so far I’m finding everyone nice

I think the ‘lighthearted” threads mentioned in the OP are harder to introduce because (to a certain extent rightly) other people may say “How can you worry about whether pink suits you when there’s a war in Ukraine, there’s climate change, fuel costs are soaring” etc.
Each to their own, but I’m not a fan of the ‘silly’ threads with wacky humour which either appeals to you or not.

re GN, I agree with DannieRae.
Posting on MN can get some really vicious responses, so I’m more a lurker there.

how can you hide a thread.
there doesn't seem to be a button for it, unlike MN.
i would prefer the games to have their own section, as they are not discussions like the rest here.
i find discussions by clicking on active, and esp at night it is almost full of games, few discussions.

Welbeck, There are things I can do on my iPad or computer that aren’t available on my phone. Perhaps someone else will know.

The only difference imo is that it’s got more political, because the country has become more political and tribal ( divide and rule and all that). But, like most forums there’s no reason not to just stick to none controversial stuff.

Fleurpepper

Not sure about Ye Goode Olde Days, but it is a fact that several factors in the last 6 years (and I let you guess which 2 major one, 1 person and 1 'event') have caused huge divides in society, with a lot of resentment, and currently, real fears- and it is not surprising that it is reflected here.

Just what I was thinking while catching up with this thread, Fleurpepper. In some ways the world has become nastier and more scary over the past few years for the reasons you almost mention, and I think we are all more likely to fly off into a tirade than we might once have been. I still think GN is an interesting site, and that I have gained an insight into the lives and opinions of people I would never otherwise have encountered.

to you all.

welbeck

how can you hide a thread.
there doesn't seem to be a button for it, unlike MN.
i would prefer the games to have their own section, as they are not discussions like the rest here.
i find discussions by clicking on active, and esp at night it is almost full of games, few discussions.

If you go to Mobile site (click on that at the bottom of the page) then click on a thread you want to hide, a little red arrow shows on the right. Click on that for the option to hide

One of the saddest things to happen to GN recently is that people need to say when a thread is lighthearted.

I think that is an indicator of the nastier nature of the group.

I was going to start a lighthearted thread about a fly in my wine but couldn't be bothered because I knew somebody would find fault with it.

Caleo Wed 31-Aug-22 11:30:34
There is no use complaining, If something is not to your taste change it.

This made me laugh. I'm sure that wasn't the intention, but it tickled me. Perhaps the poster would like to explain, HOW?