Has anyone on GN got the right to give private information about you?

GagaJo

Callistemon21

But there has to be evidence.

So far I haven't seen or heard of any.

And Fleurpepper did say that it is:

^Just an example, to illustrate my point about privacy^

So it's a non-event, a hypothetical situation.

You were present for the huge blow-up on here Callistemon. Someone had been unkind to another member and had been banned.

These aren't non-events. They hurt people. And usually, sadly, the bullies pick on the vulnerable.

Oh, I know only too well, Gagajo, having experienced it when I first arrived, looking for friendship and solace.

GagaJo

As we all know, telling the teacher about your bully often isn't successful.

Well quite. Far better to speak to the alleged bully direct. Spreading rumours about her isn't likely to work either, and you might have got the wrong end of the stick.

And we are supposed to be the adults !!
What the hell is wrong with some of you -grow up.

As we all know, telling the teacher about your bully often isn't successful.

Callistemon21

But there has to be evidence.

So far I haven't seen or heard of any.

And Fleurpepper did say that it is:

^Just an example, to illustrate my point about privacy^

So it's a non-event, a hypothetical situation.

You were present for the huge blow-up on here Callistemon. Someone had been unkind to another member and had been banned.

These aren't non-events. They hurt people. And usually, sadly, the bullies pick on the vulnerable.

If I thought a poster had stepped out of line, I would take it up with the poster. This is not school. As adults we should be able to talk to one another and ask if someone has passed on information or not. Give them a chance to confirm or deny before plastering accusations all over the boards.

But there has to be evidence.

So far I haven't seen or heard of any.

And Fleurpepper did say that it is:

^Just an example, to illustrate my point about privacy^

So it's a non-event, a hypothetical situation.

Oo is that about me?

No can't be

I didn't get banned for reasons people say ( I've been told what they say) I got banned because I gave as good as I got in an argument and discussing with gransnet, my mental health was clearly malfunctioning. Gransnet put it more kindly obviously.

I'm the same person now as I was before thyroidtoxicosis and will ever remain so now I know I have Graves.

Also I apologised profusely for my part in arguments

Also, no one left because of me, maybe switched username which is fine if people want to do that

Nevermind

Well said Doodledog. I too am aware of the one you refer to, and only that one. I am aware of other posters that were banned and never allowed back, some of whom are very missed.

There really was no need for this thread and the speculation that has followed. The OP should have asked GN to remove the offending post and taken any grievance up with the person she thought responsible for the betrayal.

I don’t get all this at all.

If Fleurpepper thinks someone has stepped out of line why doesn’t she just report it?

I mean what’s the point of telling us, posters can’t do anything about it?

I really don't think it is as simple as that unless you know more than the rest of us, GagaJo, in which case it is hardly fair to take the moral high ground. It is true that the OP is accusing an unspecified poster of betraying an unspecified confidence, which none of us would have known about otherwise, and it is not 'picking on her' to say so. That really is the language of the schoolyard.

As for the veiled threats about people needing the mind their Ps and Qs - again, that is between them and HQ, unless you are hinting at information that should be private. I am only aware of one poster who was banned and reinstated and has been responsible for the loss of valued posters. (She made a public declaration about it and has referred to it since, so I am not breaking a confidence here). If there are others, it may have been public knowledge at the time, but it isn't now, so it strikes me that you are guilty of the speculation of which you are accusing others.

Urmstongran

Well my money’s on Mrs. White in the library with the lead piping.

She who has seen ‘em all come and go. 😂

GagaJo
You appear to be the only person on here who knows who the other person involved is.

hazel93

Anyone prepared to get out of the playground now ?
No idea what this is about nor do I wish to but appears ridiculous.

It's as simple as a few members picking on someone they don't like. It's happened before. At times, the member is driven away from the site.

Some older people depend on this site for friendship and companionship. It isn't the same as hazing on social media for younger people.

Anyone prepared to get out of the playground now ?
No idea what this is about nor do I wish to but appears ridiculous.

Well my money’s on Mrs. White in the library with the lead piping.

Because the thing is, I'm sure GNHQ have records of those previous misdemeanours, despite all the protestations of innocence of the fan club on here.

There are a few posters on here who have already been temporarily banned. They'd do well to remember that and keep their noses clean if they really rely on the site for friendship and support. They're not innocent victims by any means GG13.

New members haven't seen their shenanigans, but some of what has gone on wasn't good at all. It was horrible and very unkind.

I agree Meryl and GrannyGravy

GranyGravy
It wouldn’t be the first time.

If I were to be a conspiracy theorist I would say that this thread was all about trying to get a poster banned by any means, fair or foul.

Fleurpepper

Kalu

I have no idea which poster is being referred to by Fleurpepper
I personally feel the OP is the one who should be ashamed at starting a thread which she surely knew would inevitably cause Ill feeling and trouble. Of course it is the OP’s business but why start a thread to get everyone guessing ;
A. What is the OP’s secret
B. Who done it?

I never do as I am told either GagaJo.

This is not at all the aim of my post here, not to out one person or complain about one person. It is about a basic principle, not a guessing game, nor a blaming one.

If a poster has not given information about who they are, where they live, their religion, ethnicity, professional or other background- then posts should not regularly mention, allude or allege such.

If someone gives said info, be it locality, or other- then it is fair to allude to it in other posts. If that person does NOT give that information, then it should NOT.

If someone guessed, or was told by someone, that a poster is Jewish, should this be mentionned when the poster themselves have never said they were?

But, you have complained about one particular GN member which leaves others to guess which poster is to blame for revealing your secret. And, in previous posts, you have said what your nationality is and where you live including other personal facts.

This is no secret to many who, having known you for years can easily recognise you. I don’t understand why this is now a secret and you want to place the blame on one particular poster whoever he/she may be for revealing your secret.
I repeat, no one contacted me to reveal who you are, you revealed that to me yourself.

Doodledog

Very good summing up.
Sometimes GN feels like wading through treacle.


“And so, as Tiny Tim said, 'A Merry Christmas to us all; God bless us, everyone!”

I think ultimately what this shows is that any GN member can trust no one on here. Regardless of how well you think you know them.

Things on here haven't been as nasty of late. But there can be bullying and victimising. There are members on here who have done it and been allowed back. All I would say to newer members is to be careful who they confide in. Not everyone can be taken at initial 'face' value.

Good post DoodleDog sums up the thread.