Has anyone on GN got the right to give private information about you?

This is getting like the 'Some Posters' thing.

We are told that someone amongst us is a rotter who betrays confidences, but we are not to be told who it is, nor what sort of confidence she has betrayed - we are to guess, and suspect one another, and quite possibly make the wrong assumption. In any event, we are all supposed to agree that a betrayal has, indeed, taken place, that this is Wrong, that the OP is a victim of bad behaviour, and that the secret is as exciting as being married to a film star.

I don't know who the old poster is, but having seen a post suggesting something not very personal about FP's location, I jumped to the conclusion that that must be the 'big secret', but only because of the OP - I wouldn't have noticed it otherwise.

The point is that none of this would have come to light had the OP not drawn attention to it herself, but it is also worth mentioning that there will be many people reading this who feel completely excluded from the thread, are seeing thread police telling others what to post, people accused of all sorts of things and it gives the impression that this is a cliquey site with a hierarchy of 'monitors'.

This happens every so often, and whereas nowadays I sometimes have a vague idea of what might be going on, I remember feeling like giving up on GN when I first started posting, as it felt like a secret club with rules I didn't understand.

Callistemon21

GagaJo

Callistemon21

Somehow, I think the lady doth protest too much. The louder she shouts, the more ears will hear that she has a secret, which she is not going to reveal to them, so there!

I doubt very much indeed that any secrets were revealed.

It's more likely that some posters have a very recognisable posting style; perhaps they may disappear for a while then return but other posters realise who they are and think they can chat on the same friendly terms they have done for years.

I think I saw the quote being referred to. It did comment on information being passed on by someone else. At the time, I thought ooooh, tattle but it wasn't about me, so...

That was Fleurpepper surmising, I think Gagajo.

If someone's posting style is instantly recognisable for whatever reason, then many others will realise when someone who left returns with another username.

No need for anyone to reveal "secrets" and I doubt very much that anyone did.

No, Callistemon. I saw a post from a GN member, giving information on another poster. I saw it myself before this all kicked off.

Clearly there had been behind the scenes gossiping. I could name a range of those I suspect are involved but won't because that would make me as inappropriate as them.

I would never divulge personal information via a PM.

If I have an established and trusted relationship with another poster we exchange emails.

PM’s are not and have never been private GN can access them as and when they choose.

👋 pen pal

If a poster is an obvious reincarnation and has been reincarnated a few times, it might be difficult to recall which version disclosed what and inadvertently mention something out of turn.

Fanny I thought you were making a clever joke... maybe I misunderstood

Well personally, I think we’ve reached Tipping Point on this topic now.

VioletSky

Lol

Honestly, I’m sorry l, but do you do this ironically?
Has it got post modern meanings that I’m not aware of?

And yes, if anyone is asked about personal info by pm, this info should not make it on the general Forum. Anyone, by anyone

Well, of course.

But it's hypothetical, then.

Just an example, to illustrate my point about privacy.

If someone says they live in Scotland, fair enough to mention this in further posts.

If someone says they are Catholic, atheist, or Muslim, etc, fair enough to mention this in further posts.

If someone chooses to give any information about themselves, then fair enough to mention it.

Otherwise, as said above, it is nobody's business and should be respected.

And yes, if anyone is asked about personal info by pm, this info should not make it on the general Forum. Anyone, by anyone.

Fleurpepper

If you 'give things away', fair enough. I did not.

Information was asked by PM, with the assurance it would NOT go further. Simple enough, no?

From that post, I think we assumed you were referring to your own situation, Fleurpepper.

So are you now saying it was non-specific?

🤔

Oh that's good. So the case is now closed, and we can all be amicable friendly again.
Just saying though, there may be times when a poster says something like, "I have a hunch you are ... or I have a sneaking suspicion you....", so a bit of guessing might occur without it being sinister.

Lol

VioletSky

Every time someone says "that didn't happen" my mind immediately goes to the narcissists prayer

Does it now.
But enough about you. Tell me about me

Urmstongran

^All because you disliked the prior GN member^

That’s one big all encompassing leap GagoJo.
You don’t speak for me.

I didn’t then & don’t now. 👋

Me neither.

I may have argued with a certain poster who left but t doesn't mean I didn't miss her!
It would be a bland forum of nodding dogs if we all agreed all the time.

Anyway, we don't know for sure that she has returned.

Every time someone says "that didn't happen" my mind immediately goes to the narcissists prayer

VioletSky

The point is:

It's no one's business

Absolutely right!!

So it wasn't a good idea to start a thread with allegations against a non-specific poster with no evidence whatsoever that the suspicions are true.

In fact, there is ample evidence to the contrary.

GagaJo

Let's not forget this thread about someone breaking the confidence of another GN member. Anything else is speculation.

But that in itself is speculation and in all probability not true (as explained above).

It's really not very nice to point the finger at posters - it causes suspicion and wariness.

Years ago posters put photos of themselves on here so that we could visualise who we were chatting with, I can't imagine that happening now.

BlueBelle

I prefer Dr Seuss myself makes a lot more sense 🤣

😂😂😂

GagaJo

Callistemon21

Somehow, I think the lady doth protest too much. The louder she shouts, the more ears will hear that she has a secret, which she is not going to reveal to them, so there!

I doubt very much indeed that any secrets were revealed.

It's more likely that some posters have a very recognisable posting style; perhaps they may disappear for a while then return but other posters realise who they are and think they can chat on the same friendly terms they have done for years.

I think I saw the quote being referred to. It did comment on information being passed on by someone else. At the time, I thought ooooh, tattle but it wasn't about me, so...

That was Fleurpepper surmising, I think Gagajo.

If someone's posting style is instantly recognisable for whatever reason, then many others will realise when someone who left returns with another username.

No need for anyone to reveal "secrets" and I doubt very much that anyone did.

I prefer Dr Seuss myself makes a lot more sense 🤣

FannyCornforth

Fleurpepper if you have any concerns then you should direct them to GNHQ as LilyGN asked you to.
This is getting a bit silly

As said above, NO, this is not about me, or another, or other posters, as such.

About a basic principle. Unless someone has clearly CHOSEN to give information about themselves on a Forum, about any aspects of their lives- it should not be guessed, sumised, alluded to in posts- especially not in order to 'out' that person, or 'attack' them, or their posts.

Maybe the gossiping and nastiness, could you know, just stop?

This is just an online forum. It isn't real life. Why have we got to have bullying, pile ons (not referring to now and this, just in general) and attempts to hound people away? FFS, we are adults! Have those that do it really got nothing better to do?

Fleurpepper if you have any concerns then you should direct them to GNHQ as LilyGN asked you to.
This is getting a bit silly

Erm

Beg to differ

Kalu

I have no idea which poster is being referred to by Fleurpepper
I personally feel the OP is the one who should be ashamed at starting a thread which she surely knew would inevitably cause Ill feeling and trouble. Of course it is the OP’s business but why start a thread to get everyone guessing ;
A. What is the OP’s secret
B. Who done it?

I never do as I am told either GagaJo.

This is not at all the aim of my post here, not to out one person or complain about one person. It is about a basic principle, not a guessing game, nor a blaming one.

If a poster has not given information about who they are, where they live, their religion, ethnicity, professional or other background- then posts should not regularly mention, allude or allege such.

If someone gives said info, be it locality, or other- then it is fair to allude to it in other posts. If that person does NOT give that information, then it should NOT.

If someone guessed, or was told by someone, that a poster is Jewish, should this be mentionned when the poster themselves have never said they were?