Has anyone on GN got the right to give private information about you?

Until you mentioned wrapping up warm in your Teddy coat Urmstongran. Even the weather can trip you up!

Totally agree Doodledog.
If I came back with a new user name my lifestyle choices - batting between our two little homes - would be a dead giveaway. So then I’d probably have to change a lot of postings too. Less personal stuff (what the weather is like, what I’m doing hat day) and just limit to ‘opinion’ threads - political, styling etc. Otherwise it would be very apparent.

I don’t think I could carry it off for long.

nanna8

I don’t like reincarnations. Why don’t people just stay as they are? Are they ashamed of themselves or what ?

I don't have a problem with people reincarnating per se. Sometimes people just want a fresh start - possibly because they've said something they regret, or have made themselves unpopular. Much as in real life when people move house and start again. Also, sometimes people get locked out, or close their account then change their mind. Some come back with versions of their original name, but if they fancy a change, why not?

I think it's different when posters try to deceive though. Claiming to have been 'hounded' off the board but posting on threads where others are saying that about them, or denying that they ever said things that are in another name - that sort of thing is dishonest. Prolific posters can pretty much always be spotted anyway, I think. It would be difficult to post in a completely different style for any length of time, and we all have our 'hobby horses' and topics which attract us.

kittylester

Top secret, Calli.

Reader, I ate it

Top secret, Calli.

Callistemon21

^Somehow, I think the lady doth protest too much. The louder she shouts, the more ears will hear that she has a secret, which she is not going to reveal to them, so there!^

I doubt very much indeed that any secrets were revealed.

It's more likely that some posters have a very recognisable posting style; perhaps they may disappear for a while then return but other posters realise who they are and think they can chat on the same friendly terms they have done for years.

I think I saw the quote being referred to. It did comment on information being passed on by someone else. At the time, I thought ooooh, tattle but it wasn't about me, so...

I don’t like reincarnations. Why don’t people just stay as they are? Are they ashamed of themselves or what ?

FannyCornforth

GGravy ooh, an award! Thank you 😊

So relieved that you're posting this morning FannyCornforth. Did you eat the fish pie?
Or would that be tmi?

Whitewavemark2

I keep looking at this threads title, but haven’t read the thread tbh.

But what I will say for what it is worth.

Never, ever mistake social media with RL.

It isn’t, and however friendly you become with anyone, it isn’t remotely like “knowing” someone that you meet face to face on a regular basis.

So only divulge anything about yourself, that you would not really mind everyone knowing - otherwise keep your counsel.

Good advice.

Somehow, I think the lady doth protest too much. The louder she shouts, the more ears will hear that she has a secret, which she is not going to reveal to them, so there!

I doubt very much indeed that any secrets were revealed.

It's more likely that some posters have a very recognisable posting style; perhaps they may disappear for a while then return but other posters realise who they are and think they can chat on the same friendly terms they have done for years.

That sounds very much like my very humble abode.
My living room is lovely, but everything is else is a disaster!
I live in Derby though (this is not top secret information)

There have been many photos of lovely homes on GN. Urmstongran did a nice piece on hallways, I speculated to myself that someone I think in Leicester had a beautiful property, though all the other rooms might have been a tip!

Ooh, I once called out the nappy photo! Is it a thing?
Please let me know.

Joseanne but you do have an extremely lovely home

Riverwalk.

Top marks Elegran. I quoted that very xyz bit, probably clumsily, because it wasn't well received earlier! I speculate not.

One person on GN even told me that a personal photo wasn't actually my own and that I had lifted it from the Internet!

Joseanne was it a washing line of snowy white nappies fluttering in the breeze?

Attention seeking par excellence. Very sad.

Elegran well said and very wittily (and friendly) too!

The OP said in a later post "Imagine someone sent you a very friendly pm saying something like 'are you the wife of the famous actor 'xyz'- but don't worry I'll keep stumm. and you replied 'yes I am, but please keep it to yourself'. And then several posters make allusion to this piece of information, which is totally irrelevant to whatever is being discussed, again and again." which gives hints to what kind of information WAS given to one particular poster.

If *Fleurpepper genuinely didn't want the secret passed on, the simplist and most effective way to stop any rumour would have been to answer, "Good grief! Not me! You've got it wrong there." That would have stopped it in its tracks - whether the rumour was true or not. However she told one person, and we all know that when you tell one person a secret (particularly a stranger) they only tell two very good friends, who each only tell two very discreet acquaintances etc etc.

Then she makes a great fuss about broadcasting to the whole world, via GN and the internet, that someone has revealed her secret life. She doesn't begin by asking GN to get the references deleted - which would have minimised the spread - or contacting the perpetrators.

Somehow, I think the lady doth protest too much. The louder she shouts, the more ears will hear that she has a secret, which she is not going to reveal to them, so there!

Is this the most convoluted, yet thorough way, of ‘outing’ oneself?

MerylStreep

Fleurpepper
If you think posters don’t recognise a posters style of writing and comments you are sadly wrong.
In previous incarnations you have told us more about your life over the years than, imo, any other poster.
All you’ve done here is made people look over their shoulder, not nice.

I’ve just cottoned on to what this is very likely all about now.
I too did think it ages back. Styles of expression are pretty inherent and eventually the mask slips. But surely it’s of little or no consequence? Welcome back I say. It was your decision to do so FP.
😊

probably have got the wrong end of the stick as usual
That's exactly it, because until we really know or meet someone on here we could have formed completely the wrong opinion about them. But I'm not sure it matters to anyone if we speculate. I speculate about Meghan Markle's motives but haven't got a clue. On GN I speculate who wears M & S, who eats bananas for breakfast, who has a naughty dog, who has all their presents organised and wrapped etc. Just a bit of fun really.
However, I don't speculate and would never comment on any private info anyone has imparted to me, especially if they have asked me to keep "stumm". (I'll leave you to speculate why i dislike that expression.) That would be a breech of trust and the grans I have met from here could 100% vouch for the fact I am trustworthy.
It's interesting though as an individual the type of speculation I have received about my own posts. Most incorrect. One person on GN even told me that a personal photo wasn't actually my own and that I had lifted it from the Internet!

If this is what I think it is, it crossed my mind at the start but I discounted it as impossible because it is so widely known that even I was aware of it.

Unless there is a lot more to it than meets the eye, this thread seems a bit attention-seeking really.

There is no way of knowing who the person is to whom you are sending a PM. Therefore the rule is not to give out personal information. If you do, then Gransnet cannot take responsibility if the person shares that info. It is down to us as individuals to act with caution.

Fleurpepper
If you think posters don’t recognise a posters style of writing and comments you are sadly wrong.
In previous incarnations you have told us more about your life over the years than, imo, any other poster.
All you’ve done here is made people look over their shoulder, not nice.