Has anyone on GN got the right to give private information about you?

"Oh yes you told!"
"Oh no I didn't!"
"Waaah! Not fair!"

Good job it's pantomime season.

GGravy ooh, an award! Thank you 😊

^ FP I do t think it was actually top secret information in the first place^

Fanny that gets the award for the most understated post of 2022

The penny has dropped here, on reading that.

Nana3

I think I know what's going on, but probably have got the wrong end of the stick as usual.
Not my beeswax anyway.

Everyone is going to know at this rate, whether they care or not!
FP I don’t think that it was actually top secret information in the first place

Exactly FannyCornforth if the troublesome post has been reported immediately with reasons, GNHQ would have removed it simples.

I think I know what's going on, but probably have got the wrong end of the stick as usual.
Not my beeswax anyway.

I’ve seen it now too.
I don’t see why it’s a problem tbh.
I wouldn’t have thought anything of it if you hadn’t started this thread.
FP, If it really bothered you why on earth didn’t you report it and explain why?
The mods would have taken it down. Problem solved.

I have no idea what the op is talking about which is most likely a good thing.

Joseanne

MaizieD

It's not our business to be curious, or to speculate,*Ug*.

Fleurpepper is clearly upset about something, we should be supporting her, not spoon stirring. That's why these threads get banned.

Whilst I agree with your second paragraph Maizie, I don't see why we shouldn't be curious or speculate when the OP themselves already gave us an example scenario of "are you the wife of the famous actor xyz." Of course that encourages curious minds to tick. Well it does mine anyway.

What I was saying was, that however curious we were we should keep it to ourselves and not express it in public. Haven't enough of these threads ended up being removed because 'curiosity' leads to speculation, leads to recrimination and inevitable upset?

I keep looking at this threads title, but haven’t read the thread tbh.

But what I will say for what it is worth.

Never, ever mistake social media with RL.

It isn’t, and however friendly you become with anyone, it isn’t remotely like “knowing” someone that you meet face to face on a regular basis.

So only divulge anything about yourself, that you would not really mind everyone knowing - otherwise keep your counsel.

I've seen it now

Not OK and irrelevant to discussion

Nor me, and I usually pride myself in knowing all the goss!

annsixty

Well I think I know what this is about and who.
I may be wrong but please don’t ask me to explain or, as is said, I would have to kill your

You’re wiser than me then .

I have no idea.

Well I think I know what this is about and who.
I may be wrong but please don’t ask me to explain or, as is said, I would have to kill your

This thread has given me a headache! I’m more confused at the end of it than I was at the start

And Fleurpepper did start the thread.

MaizieD

It's not our business to be curious, or to speculate,*Ug*.

Fleurpepper is clearly upset about something, we should be supporting her, not spoon stirring. That's why these threads get banned.

Whilst I agree with your second paragraph Maizie, I don't see why we shouldn't be curious or speculate when the OP themselves already gave us an example scenario of "are you the wife of the famous actor xyz." Of course that encourages curious minds to tick. Well it does mine anyway.

I agree with Bluebelle especially about the thought processes behind your post.
I too am nosey, I also love solving a mystery, and like someone said earlier a "remarkable recall" can be of use sometimes. With all that in mind, I would say the problem might relate to someone disclosing your location which you wanted to keep secret for a reason. I think that it was wrong for them to do so and that you should explain to them how upset you are.
On the other hand I might be barking up completely the wrong tree.

What BlueBelle says.

You need to talk to the poster personally (I mean not on a thread like this as it means nothing to most posters) Sort it out between you

Of course breaking a confidence is wrong you know that, we all know that, it’s common sense so I don’t understand why you are asking ? Unless you want to draw more attention
You know the answer to your own question so why post that question into the public domain, HQ have offered to help but you don’t want that, so what do you want ?

The OP specifies that the information was NOT given, so how did the other person know it?
I agree that this is not a good way to solve the problem, whatever it is. Clearly distressing for the OP

Curiouser and curioser

i think it's like real life.
you may tell someone something in confidence, but you have no control over what they do with that information.
they may not keep it confidential.
that is a risk whether irl or on here.

I am with UG here. Before reading this thread, I didn't even know that there was something that I didn't know (if you see what I mean) Since reading it, I now know that some posters have alluded to something about Fleurpepper that she admitted to another poster, and asked them not to mention. I am not in the least interested in ferreting out what it was, but if any member IS nosy, they have by now been well alerted to the fact that there is something to be nosy about

The right thing to do in this case was to PM the poster you first told this private information to, and ask them why they broke their promise not to repeat it. Then you should have reported it to GNHQ, who could have added something to the guidelines, pointing out the general principle that you are trying to establish here. If you consider it an important issue, then the moderators should be aware of it.