Has anyone on GN got the right to give private information about you?

I wouldn’t pass on any info sent to me in a pm, unless it was nasty or offensive and then I’d report it to GNet. I expect GN Admin can see pms.

Leave it at that. Thanks.

HeavenLeigh

I agree it would disgusting if someone did that to another person, but I’ve always thought that nothing can be truly private on internet once you write anything it’s out there, but yes I’d report them…… the only person I actually trust is myself! Some people just can’t keep a secret! I’d name and shame

No naming and sharing, for sure. No reporting either. This is a basic question, about a basic principle, of 'etiquette' and fairness, on GN or any Forum for that matter.

Not only one GN member involved anyhow- but several. If a member chooses NOT to give detailed information about themselves, be it location, ethnicity, or whatever- then it should not be alluded to or boldly mentionned, again and again, in several posts and threads. Simple.

Anything else is wrong and rude.

It's not our business to be curious, or to speculate,*Ug*.

Fleurpepper is clearly upset about something, we should be supporting her, not spoon stirring. That's why these threads get banned.

I remember my mum saying to me years ago “if you can’t keep your own secrets then don’t expect others to do it for you”.

Fleurpepper I think you may have overshared something in a p.m. and are now regretting it? if I have the right end of this stick! I’d assume you trusted this person who exchanged a private message with you. Now you are upset/annoyed (I think).

Would it not have been better to simply contact that person direct and ‘have it out with them’? By doing it this way we now all know you have ‘something’ that you want to keep a secret and you have definitely piqued my curiosity!!

I’m thinking - are you famous? are you an old poster now returned? are you married to someone very wealthy? My imagination is running riot!

Go on - you might as well spill the beans!
Joke 🤣🤣

I agree it would disgusting if someone did that to another person, but I’ve always thought that nothing can be truly private on internet once you write anything it’s out there, but yes I’d report them…… the only person I actually trust is myself! Some people just can’t keep a secret! I’d name and shame

Can’t think why anyone would give out personal information whether pm’d or otherwise. If you do not want it repeated on a public forum then don’t say it in the first place. Job done!

Fleurpepper

Lucca

Agree Bluebelle. I don’t understand the issue !

As said, intentionally so.

Imagine someone sent you a very friendly pm saying something like 'are you the wife of the famous actor 'xyz'- but don't worry I'll keep stumm. and you replied 'yes I am, but please keep it to yourself'. And then several posters make allusion to this piece of information, which is totally irrelevant to whatever is being discussed, again and again.

Would that be correct and fair?

I would say that you'd been rather indiscreet about yourself if someone was able to make such a good guess from information in your posts.

I'd also say that it would be pretty vile of them to agree to keep it quiet and then broadcast it/allude to it on threads.

I'd report them and ask Gnet to ban them, because inability to keep confidential information confidential cannot at all be 'in the spirit of Gransnet'.

VioletSky

What on earth?

Thats awful

Don't worry, this is just an example and not for real. The question is vague, the example, irrelevant. So is the personal information mentionned again and again by several posters. Information which was NOT given.

Fleurpepper

Blondiescot

Tizliz

Once you post something on the internet or via email, DMs etc you are no longer in control of that information. Don’t post anything you are not happy for the whole world to know, you just do not know what will happen to it.

This, in a nutshell. Nothing - and I repeat, nothing - on the internet can be considered as truly private.

Of course, if you have given that information out on open Forum. What about if you have NOT given out that information? That is my point.

I get that - but anyone who knows anything about privacy on the internet will tell you the same thing. Nothing is absolutely private - once you post something, no matter whether it's in a pm or whatever, it's there - and could be passed on or shared to anyone (whether it should be passed on is a completely different issue).

I haven't noticed any allusions to personal info from several posters to one, but that's not to say it isn't happening.

I can't help thinking that this thread won't help though. If I see something like that now I am more likely to take it on board than I would have been before reading it.

Or suppose you returned to GN after a period of absence and somebody recognised you but undertook not to reveal your previous username.
And then didn’t.
Would there be a problem?

What on earth?

Thats awful

Lucca

Agree Bluebelle. I don’t understand the issue !

As said, intentionally so.

Imagine someone sent you a very friendly pm saying something like 'are you the wife of the famous actor 'xyz'- but don't worry I'll keep stumm. and you replied 'yes I am, but please keep it to yourself'. And then several posters make allusion to this piece of information, which is totally irrelevant to whatever is being discussed, again and again.

Would that be correct and fair?

Threads like this achieve nothing, but speculation and suspicion.
FP, you seem upset, so if you have an issue with someone, why don't you challenge that person? I would and have done so in the past.

Surely, you'd report the post as soon as you saw it - but have no idea how many others had read it. I haven't seen anything odd today though.

I saw an example of this earlier today. I have to admit, when I saw it I wondered why it was being done and why a member would do something inappropriate like that.

Fleurpepper

Blondiescot

Tizliz

Once you post something on the internet or via email, DMs etc you are no longer in control of that information. Don’t post anything you are not happy for the whole world to know, you just do not know what will happen to it.

This, in a nutshell. Nothing - and I repeat, nothing - on the internet can be considered as truly private.

Of course, if you have given that information out on open Forum. What about if you have NOT given out that information? That is my point.

It would be very wrong to repeat something on the forum that one had been told in confidence. I would have thought that you could get the moderators to remove the offending post. Though, of course, others may well have seen it and stored up the information for future use. Not everyone on here has a 'senior memory' and some have quite remarkable recall.

Agree Bluebelle. I don’t understand the issue !

No, I intentionally do not want this thread to be given detailed info. This is not 'coded'- this is a basic question, about a general principle about behaviour on a Forum like GN.

I ve no idea what this is about it’s very coded
I ve don’t think I ve ever noticed any personal information given by others but then I guess only the two people involved would know
Isn’t it better to have this out with the person themselves as no one is really sure what you’re meaning

Blondiescot

Tizliz

Once you post something on the internet or via email, DMs etc you are no longer in control of that information. Don’t post anything you are not happy for the whole world to know, you just do not know what will happen to it.

This, in a nutshell. Nothing - and I repeat, nothing - on the internet can be considered as truly private.

Of course, if you have given that information out on open Forum. What about if you have NOT given out that information? That is my point.

Tizliz

Once you post something on the internet or via email, DMs etc you are no longer in control of that information. Don’t post anything you are not happy for the whole world to know, you just do not know what will happen to it.

This, in a nutshell. Nothing - and I repeat, nothing - on the internet can be considered as truly private.

Unless someone has signed the official secret act they can pass on any information they want. It’s not very nice but it’s not against any law.
For my own part I mostly communicate by email with people I trust on GN. I don’t trust PMs.

I think it doesn't matter who or where you say"Don't tell",
someone will break your confidence. We ask people to be like ourselves but some just can't help it and some don't realise they have done it. So keep quiet if you have a secret you don't want people to know.
Even photos of you can appear on facetime etc. without your permission. Old school photos, parties people have been to.