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EmmaGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 28-Sept-17 11:41:23

Thinking ahead to a time when you will no longer be here is undoubtedly not a pleasant thought. The majority of us plan other big life events such as birthdays, weddings, baby showers and/or anniversaries down to a tee, however when it comes to funerals very few of us have detailed plans in place. If there's something in particular you have in mind, whether it’s something beautiful, something personal, or even something humorous, Co-op Funeralcare would like to know.

Here’s what David Collingwood, Head of Operations for Co-op Funeralcare has to say: “Funerals are very much about personal choice and reflecting the personality and interests of an individual. This is becoming increasingly evident through the growth we’ve seen in people choosing to pre-plan their own ceremonies using a funeral plan.”

Do you have a specific piece of poetry that you want read out by a certain someone? Maybe you’d request that all of your friends and family turn up in fancy dress? Or perhaps you already have in mind a certain song that will put a smile on everyone’s face...Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’ and Frank Sinatra’s ‘My Way’ are popular songs requested for funerals!

Co-op Funeralcare would like to know what your funeral wishes are, so please share them below and all who comment will be entered into a prize draw, where one lucky GNer will win a £300 voucher or their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
GNHQ

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bikerbill Thu 05-Oct-17 21:23:00

I would like to have a bargain funeral. I wouldn't like the family to spend more money than they need to. After all I won't be here to take an active part in it.

maclinks Thu 05-Oct-17 22:46:31

I don't want any fuss, after all I am not there, a simple cremation one flower , no songs no pomp no wasted money. Spend the money on a good cause instead

MamaCaz Fri 06-Oct-17 18:18:27

I have a feeling that the sponsors of this thread will not be at all happy with what the vast majority of us seem to be saying - that we want as little spent on our funerals as possible. grin
What's more, the thread on top of the very recent loss of a loved one (my dad), has prompted me to discuss my own feelings on this matter with my loved ones!

Funkyferret Fri 06-Oct-17 20:17:16

Simple, no fuss, no unnecessary expense. Ashes scattered at my favourite place. And for those left behind to get together, and have a great night out in my honour, no miserableness!

Synonymous Sat 07-Oct-17 00:00:30

I am not a fan of expensive funerals and DC know that. Not a wicker coffin for me either as when they brought my friend into church in hers the wretched thing creaked dreadfully. I could just imagine the pair of us in fits of the giggles and it was that which made me cry buckets!
I think it was the last late Duchess of Devonshire who had a wooden box and lid made years in advance and she decorated and fitted it out for herself and then used it as a blanket box at the end of her bed until it was needed. Very practical I thought so I might emulate that. Then the D.C. can take me in our car (because the seats fold down) to the church for a short thanksgiving service and down the road a short distance to pop me into my grandparent's plot. Church family will put on a 'bring and share tea' as they do - and are very good at. Service is all sorted already and so job done! Exactly the same for DH and all very simple, DS is pretty good at woodwork so we know he would do us proud if we haven't got the wooden boxes done ourselves in time. Well, he made all the doors and fitted cupboards in his house and they are lovely. Families used to do these things themselves in years past so it is only going back to basics and probably very therapeutic too. One thing for sure is that we are all going along the same path albeit in different styles!

Sellins Sat 07-Oct-17 08:44:34

I don't want a funeral. What's the point? Cart me off on the final day and everyone can move on.

heavensjoys Sat 07-Oct-17 11:23:12

Nice and simple for me too. No extravagance, lots of colours. No sadness and lots of laughter. If offered, only donations to charity.

gd Sat 07-Oct-17 21:04:39

Put me out with the rubbish - but do I go in the recyclables or non-recyclables bin?

WombleLancs Sat 07-Oct-17 21:49:41

I want the NHS to use as much of my body as it possibly can to help other people, whether it be through organ donation or research. Whatever is left, I would rather like to be cremated, and then the ashes buried and a tree planted on top of me.

Anak12 Sun 08-Oct-17 11:55:56

I would like a simple religous burial in my home city’s graveyard

ELSIEMART Sun 08-Oct-17 12:28:37

I don't want to have a funeral, pop me a cardboard box and cremate me. Have a party, donate to charity and then my children to scatter my ashes by the sea..they know where.

benhamslc Sun 08-Oct-17 13:28:04

I would like everyone to know that I have lived my life as I choose and would like the cheapest funeral, its not going to worry me if they turn up in their own cars. No hymns that no one sings to maybe Keane Somewhere only we know or Chris DeBurg Carry Me. Look after yourselves and my ashes scattered in the rose garden with my parents at Crawley crematorium

futuregran1 Sun 08-Oct-17 17:42:11

I would like to be cremated in a cardboard coffin and have a short funeral where where everyone is told how much I loved and appreciated my lovely family and friends.

One of the songs I'd like played is Pat Boone's 'Wonderful time up there'

clairewoods137 Sun 08-Oct-17 17:58:04

I don't want anything religious. Pop music played and more like a party.

shirlz51 Sun 08-Oct-17 20:10:16

the cheapest possible funeral,cardboard if possible.I cannot understand the pricing for funerals I think they are astronomical,and completely a waste of money and time,I do like hymns so would like a nice recording of a choir singing Nearer My God To Thee.

Bsummers Mon 09-Oct-17 16:26:24

I want my family to have a celebration of my life, to enjoy themselves and remember the good times with me, I'd hate it if they were depressed/sad for months after I was gone.

I want a simple burial, and want to be buried next to loved ones who have passed away.

gizmos12 Mon 09-Oct-17 17:45:10

I want as cheap as possible, no need to spend thousands to bury or burn when kids and grand kids can use the money to by something useful

angela121262 Mon 09-Oct-17 23:27:22

I would like my funeral to be cheap and cheerful, the money spent on the wake!

angiehoggett Tue 10-Oct-17 11:43:40

I just want people to remember me how they want to and however way feels best to them, I personally wouldn't want a huge expense or fuss but to be honest it won't be for my benefit!

purplepansyem Tue 10-Oct-17 19:55:41

I'm terrified of dying and can't even write a will yet. I haven't thought about my funeral other than I don't want to be buried because the idea of rotting and being eaten by bugs doesn't appeal to me!

bubbleybooboo Wed 11-Oct-17 09:09:23

I want people to celebrate my life and be happy for me rather than sad. I lost my son when he was three years old and i have his ashes in a teddy bear. I want to be with him and i want my family to be happy that im back being his mum. Other than that they can do what they want as it wont affect me as i wont be here. I dont want them using all their money on anything too big and elaborate as they have better things to spend it on

Breeze81 Wed 11-Oct-17 13:54:01

I don't believe in any sort of afterlife so I've asked my family to do whatever works for them. Afterall, I'll be dead.

cookiemonster66 Thu 12-Oct-17 10:07:10

As I've tried to live an eco friendly kind of life I want a natural burial in a deer park. I don't want to be pumped full of chemicals. Laid out to look pretty just put me back in the earth in a natural state so I can biodegrade. Its all arranged and organised. I did it in my 30's! I don't like the way grieving family are almost guilt tripped into spending thousands on funerals. Remember the day is not about the person who died they don't care how much you spend they are already gone. It's for the one's left behind to say goodbye and get closure.

EmmaGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 12-Oct-17 16:29:33

Congratulations to LynneH whose name was pulled from the prize draw to win the £300 voucher! smile

strawberrinan Thu 12-Oct-17 18:20:58

My plans are already in place. My family know my wishes about organ donation, that I want to be cremated, that I don't want ANY money spent - or the very least as possible. I have provided all this in a will so they don't have to agonize about what I might or might not have wanted.

I want a small ceremony (for them, not for me) and I have a song selected which I have specified in the will.

I want to be scattered in the Lake District.