Let's talk dating apps with Lumen

I’ve not used dating apps myself- nervous of the safety of it- but my daughter has a couple of friends who have met their “ Mr Rights” on them.

I've never tried a dating app but I don't see why not in the future.

I have been happily married for 38 years so never used a dating app. One friend of my age successfully met a partner on one.

i'm very dubious about dating sites ,after all the photo might not be of them anyway. i remember being on plenty of fish. picked this nice man .or so i thought ,average guy brown hair medium build .who turns up a guy who looks nothing like his pic .a lot over weight. ok dont judge a book by the cover. took me out for supper.....hmmm. bought me wine. (i dont drink) he got angry.saying as he was paying i should drink it. ...i asked him whats with you telling lies.? about appearasnce he said if he had told me the truth i wouldnt have gone out with him. told him yes and i not staying here with a liar and walked out....i never been on a date where they tell the truth...so a dating site .no thankyou not anymore..

After my last relationship ended I waited a while and then decided to use a dating app to find the usual companion, dinner date, possible holiday friend and so on that I thought was missing from my life. I felt a bit like Bridget Jones, everyone had a partner apart from me. I took a one month subscription and I lasted a sum total of 8 days. Most men are looking for younger women, that immediately catapults me into very ancient territory, some young men, younger than my son are looking for older women...why? Some men can’t be bothered taking a decent photo of themselves, this is telling me something. Some men want to talk about why their last relationship ended, set for a sparkling evening out then. At times I felt like like I was looking through mug shots, not a great or natural feeling. I very quickly came to the conclusion that for me it all felt a litttle too forced and I’d be better leaving my chance of true love to destiny. Isn’t that really the way it should be?

Fortunately still married so not had cause to use them. Unfortunately, having heard many horror stories from friends - I think I'd be terrified!

Not interested, but prior to finding my partner (in the real world) I met up with a few people that I first met online, not on dating sites but it was a similar situation in various ways, it helped me to work through a difficult period of my life, however in hindsight I realised it was very risky and I was careless, so I wouldn’t recommend it, perhaps double dating with a friend would not only be safer, but a more enjoyable option too.

Never used them myself - no need as happily married - but I know lots of people who have found successful relationships/partners via dating apps. I think it's a good way of meeting a wider range of people than would be possible if you stuck to traditional ways of meeting. I think you have to be very selective in your choice of dating app though, and take safety measures when meeting up for the first time.

I’ve tried a couple, my friend signed me up to me as she was convinced that I needed to meet a man. I must say they really are not for me! I used them for a few days and was quite horrified at the type of messages received and at the cheek of some of the men out there. I had rude messages, all sorts. Now I’m no prude, I can swear and enjoy banter with the best of them,,, but seriously, men expect women to be interested enough to go on a date with them after they’ve been so rude from the outset!?! I had one man who I had been chatting with on and off for a day. He seemed nice, funny, polite etc. Then he asked to me to meet him for a date the following day. I declined and said it was a bit quick and I would like to get to know him a bit better via message first. He told me I was leading him on and that “this is a dating site, not a chat room”! Have to say I was pretty shocked at that, is that what people do, meet up with strangers after only a few messages?! So I decided that dating apps definitely weren’t for me after all and haven’t used one again since!!

After coming out of a 30 year relationship & having had a short, bad marriage prior to this, I’m not interested in any kind of dating. If I was, not sure I’d go down the online route, for many of the reasons others have mentioned. It’s far too easy for men (some women too) who are on the narcissistic spectrum to target women on these sites. Fast approaching 60 (when did that happen?) & having never really lived on my own, I’m now relishing this. I no longer want to compromise (can’t stand pets/dogs & wouldn’t share my home with them), have a disability/long term health conditions. This could lead to prospective partners taking advantage, plus couldn’t face explaining it all to someone new?

This year I decided to to try online dating after being single for 7+ years.
I had used them in the past (POF) and met an ex via online dating.
I'm tech savvy, setting up was easy, posting a picture etc. I'm not great at talking about myself though so that bit was quite sparse....

I'm a young grandma (40s) and seemed to be attracting younger guys. Some were very nice to chat with, some clearly had one thing on their minds! I went on quite a few dates.
I still chat with a few via WhatsApp and see one or two casually. No boyfriend/partner to speak of.
I deleted the accounts (POF & BADOO) when I became bored of the same faces/smutty comments....

many years ago i was talked into trying online dating, got bombarded with married men who were looking for a mistress, the classic, my wife says its ok, became the norm, they went in the delete bin, didnt seem to be anyone normal out there, i went on one date with a good looking man dark hair brown eyes, when i met him he confessed he sent a pic of his brother as he was better looking, date number 2 bitched all night about what everyone in the pub was wearing, i got sick of the what does she think she looks like in that dress, then asked his place or mine, i legged it out the back door and went home, luckily he didnt know where i lived, in a recent artical it said 9 out of 10 people lie on dating sites, yip, i met most of them, single now have been for last ten years and more than happy to be so,

I haven't used dating apps recently but when I did I had a mixed response. Relying on photos can be misleading as some were obviously taken a long time ago! I have met a few nice men but have decided the best way to meet is through introduction or by joining something where there is a mutual interest. I'm presently dating a man I met through our mutual love of dancing.

Sadly my partner is in a care home (only 62) so I’m single but not if you know what I mean. The whole idea of starting again when his dementia journey comes to an end fills me with horror. I can imagine ever going in a dating site or even dating again.

I can't imagine ever using a dating site, after being privy to the experiences of a colleague a few years ago. She met up with a couple of real oddballs that she quickly got rid of, then thought she'd hit the jackpot with what seemed to be her dream man. The relationship was progressing well and they were planning on moving in together, when she realised that his main interest was her teenage children. It was an awful shock for her, but thank goodness she found out in time.

Sign of the times I suppose but glad it came too late in my life and I don't have to make a choice whether to use or not.

I have never used an online dating app because I met my husband 16 years ago and hadn’t really heard of it. Today though it is very popular and is what a lot of people do nowadays.

I've always been scared of dating sites, i've heard so many bad things (but also good things too) but it's enough to put me off trying it. I'd much rather meet someone face to face.

I am early 70’s, and had dismissed ideas of dating at my age. Then two good friends met men after some years of being quite persistent I must add. It had made big differences to their lives. So thinking nothing ventured I have ventured forth and will go live next week! I do not have high expectations, am prepared to travel, as I love driving around, and I do not expect to find a new husband. I would like new experiences, I enjoy meeting new people and if I find a good friend out of it then that will be a real bonus. I’m probably at the optimistic stage and will try not to take rejection too seriously!

I have not used any of the dating apps. The people I know who have used them have gone on to have long and happy relationships. I think it's the way people meet now instead of meeting at a dance etc as it used to happen.

have never used one and really can't imagine doing so, they seem so souless

Waste of time in my opinion.Most people are either swingers in reality or have totally unrealistic expectations.Not to mention a lot telling almost as many lies as Boris Johnson.And then most seem to post fake photos too,filtered,digitally enhanced etc Although still on one do not think I would meet anyone as in effect it would be like a blind date ! And then there are the interests.If your life does not revolve around booze you've no chance

I'm quite comfortable using dating apps, but I'm not really sure they're for me. I don't think that I would find the right person for me from them. Never know though.

I am curious to know what is the success rate with dating websites. Men of a certain age just seem to be looking looking for a housekeeper/cleaner. My friends and I have not been lucky although we always have fun discussing the aftermath of bad dates

I personally have never liked the idea of dating apps/sites because people you meet on the internet aren't necessarily who they say they are. So it can be quite risky, especially for those who are young and inexperienced in life.