Keeping items of loved ones.

Just realised ive added my thread in the SPORTS section !!!!

Sorry .....

Ohhhh thank you for your posts, a lot of you are in the same position, well, i dont know if position is the correct term, but we are all the same.
Some things you can discard without thinking twice, some things you gladly throw in the bin ( things you've wanted to throw for a long time*) but things that are a *link with our loved ones, just way, way tooooooo precious to haul in the bin.

Thank you for your replies. I will never, ever throw these things away, well, her ashes wont be thrown, i meant scatter them.

My mother liked her sweets. After she died I found a bag of mini eggs in her gardening coat pocket. The coat containing the sweets continued to hang in the shed until we sold the house after my dad died. Every so often I would slip my hand inside….

Serendipity No it isn't just you. I think wanting/needing to keep certain things that belonged to loved ones is just showing you have a soul.

I have kept my dad's bunnets. There are three of them and I couldn't bear to part with them. However they will go in the dressing up box for my grandsons when they are big enough.

I have my mums coat and scarf on my coat rack, her handbag is under my bed. There is nothing that could make me remove them ?

My DH died just over two years ago now.
I have parted with some o his possessions but there is alot to go, but where I don't know and am at a loss whether to get rid or not.
His ashes are still here, he told us where he wanted them scattered but because of covid and all the restrictions which came with it we have still got everything here

It's not just you. Some things are just so personal, full of memories and love that you can't part with them and there's no reason why you should.

My mum loved Christmas, the food, the ritual of it all and especially Stir Up Sunday...all the family together making wishes and the promise of Christmas just around the corner.
I kept her Christmas pudding basin. I could probably buy another similar basin in any shop in town....but it wouldn't be mum's.

If having her handbag and her ashes is a comfort to you than let them stay right where they are. If that ever changes....then you can let them go, but only if and when it suits you.

grandMattie xx

Well, i thank you for your post Baggs, i dont know, i suppose there is no harm in keeping them, its just that i thought I cant part with her bag then camè the question * is this just ME?* i havent heard any of my friends say they have done similar.

I mean i have all her china cups and saucers and cut glass upstairs, but this bag is like i dont even want to TOUCH it, i want it to remain just as it was when my mum last touched it...

Its weird.....

I’m the opposite. As you probably know, our son died in September, we have his ashes in the study. I can’t wait to bury them, but want his brother to come over from India where he works to be present.

I have kept very little of my parents - they were not kind to me in adulthood. My boy? I’ve got silly things like an R2D2 timer, an apron, things like that.

Why must you part with your mum's ashes? Surely there's no harm in keeping them?

Similarly with the handbag. If it is of some comfort to you to leave it where it is, untouched, then do so.

Neither of these things harm anyone.