Do you wear shapewear?

Hope you find them as comfortable as I do, carol. greatnan and annobel, finding that a man was interested in high heels was always a complete turn–off for me! Sign of stupidity in my view, which I don't find attractive in a mate. At least they should keep their stupidity under wraps. I should add that this attitude never put me at a disadvantage with either sex. Women or men who want to scoff at me for not being 'fashionable' can scoff away. Fat lot of good it does them and meanwhile I proceed merrily on my comfortable way!

I've always worn flats as well. I'm tall, and partner is a bit shorter so if I wore heels I would tower over him. Nowadays that doesn't seem to matter the same, but I've never 'managed' high heels anyway. I'm ME and what you see is what you have to put up with!

Heavenly Sloggis and Mary Jane shoes...bliss!

Oh yes - Hurrah for Sloggis.
I wore heels last night for all of 25 minutes and am paying for it today

Are Sloggi bras supportive enough, though?

I am told on good authority that the thing about high heels is that they make your bum stick out. And that when it comes to such things even men with high IQs can be rendered stupid...

Depends what you're doing, green. Not supportive enough for jogging or Scottish dancing but fine for everyday walking about, gardening, housework, etc.

And I guess my bum never needed any extra help with sticking out!!

Or, to put it the feminist's way: wearing high heels, therefore, is a tacit admission of inadequacy in the bum department — yet another reason not to wear the damn things!

Mine neither. I am told it one of my best features. Don't really get it myself but given the amount I had lopped off right breast then being married to a fan of the derriere is fortunate.
I agree heels (and other uncomfortable clothing) are spawn of devil and even if Diana in her grave, flatties are still quite fashionable. I wear trainers most of the time. And the boot season is upon us.

I read that high heels serve the same function as 'hobble' skirts in men's minds - they make women look helpless and vulnerable.

Well they certainly do make them helpless and vulnerable. Like chinese foot binding.

Does the 'I'm ME' philosophy only apply to those who wear 'comfy undies'? If I am comfortable (and I stress the 'comfortable') and choose to wear underwear which I like ( and I stress the 'I') does it make me an oddity? Or anti-feminist? As we are all entitled to wear what we choose (unless you opt for the burka in France) then what's the fuss about? I dress to please myself and not men - or for that matter other women!

That's completely fine, em. I was thinking exactly that as I was doing the washing-up just now. But I don't think you can separate the wearing of high heels, hobble skirts and the like from the effect these things have on men, by their own admission. Just as you can't separate shrouding women in black sacks from the oppression of women – mainly because the practice originates in areas of the world where women are oppressed. Whether the women like wearing burkas is irrelevant to that argument.

Going off at a slight tangent - sorry... but does everyone except me wear matching underwear? I will admit to just taking the first pair of knickers and bra off the top of the pile and nothing ever seems to match. Oh dear - if I was run over by that bus I'd look a complete mis-match

Mine match - they are all grey!

yoga, if you were run over by a bus, your underwear would be the least of your problems. What matter, as long as it's clean?

Mine occasionally match and |I do remember my Mother saying how important the bus thing was, as you say Annobel I don't think at that stage it would be your top priority. Have given up shapewear , it made me uncomfortable and a very strange unnatural shape, I just let it all hang out.

I think if you were run over by a bus your underwear would no longer be clean. I won't go into the colour problem — too gory by half! Never did much like red underwear myself.....

Have to laugh at how GN threads go wacky after a while, don't you?

Never have worn hobble skirts or skimpy tops - nor burkas for that matter! No longer wear high heels - but that isn't entirely a matter of choice. Do like matching undies as well as some shapewear (which is just another name for an all-in-one) but agree that neither the colour nor the 'matchingness' would be top priority if the bus were to hit. Would the all-in-one have less of a sexual connotation and would it keep the objectors happy if I pointed out that you don't need a vest when you go for this option??

Does anyone remember the horrible 'corselettes', which had suspenders attached and flattened your bust?
My mother' bras were always peach coloured and had wide straps - I think they were by Ambrose Wilson. What strange things one remembers!

Greatnan my mother had those too. I remember the advertisements for them in the women's magazines. If I'd ever considered wearing one, those would have put me right off!

It certainly put my dad off - they didn't sleep together after he was about 50. My mother said it was because she had 'restless legs'!

The Spirella lady who used to come to the house and measure up. All those hooks and eyes and whale bones