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Clearing out my wardrobe ?, definitely need a kick up my bum!

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loopylou Wed 18-May-16 11:39:08

Help!
I'm sitting on the bed with an obscenely huge heap of probably more than 35 skirts, and there's goodness knows how many teeshirts, sweaters and shirts.
I'm now retired, certainly I don't need 90% 80% of it but how do I decide what to give to the charity shop?
Do people wear skirts at home? What do I really need? I'd love to dress more smartly but instead slob around in ancient jeans and fleeces, I never wear makeup, should I make more effort?
And that's just my winter clothes.......?

Flossieturner Sun 22-May-16 15:05:10

Ok at the risk of sounding a total nutcase, this is the Kondo method.

When you open your wardrobe or open a drawer, does the sight of everything hanging or folded neatly, fill you with joy. Or do you shuffle through stuff choosing the least worse.

I have decided that Life is too short to wear uncomfortable ill fitting clothes that sap my self esteem. If I am relaxing at home, then I wear the things that are comfortable, if I am going out wear what makes me self confident.

The new me had a radical hair make-over, once I stopped feeling dowdy.

If you look on YouTube , she shows you how to fold your clothes to free up space. Sounds crazy when you first watch but I have converted several friends.

I threw away 45 coat hangers on my first session. I had so many clothes for gardening, so many clothes for housework. Goodnes knows why I thought needed 8 pairs of old jogging pants.

I did not stop at clothes, I Kondo''d my whole house. She says that you have to put things that are the same in the same place. I gathered up enough medicines to start a pharmacy. Six bottles of cough medicine, 5 packets of plasters pain killers and ointments, many out of date. I am too embarrassed to tell you how many rolls of sellotape and how many pairs of scissors I had around the house.

One of the best things was, that seeing the difference I made to my things, my OH finally cleared out 30 years of paper work, freeing up half of our spare bedroom.

No, I never run out of clothes to answe your question. Sorry for the essay?

Parsleywin Sun 22-May-16 10:42:18

Flossie, having space sounds very luxurious to me! Do you feel though that you 'have enough' of all the categories of clothing to choose from? Or is part of the joy that you have fewer choices to make? I need to get a bit radical and stop holding on to things just in case. I know that I'm unlikely to wear many of them again, but something still holds me back from getting rid of them.

Flossieturner Sun 22-May-16 08:27:42

Have you read Marie Kondo the life changing magic. This really has made me overhaul everything in my life.

Having just had to clear out my mum's house following the death of her and my stepfather, close together, it made me realise how much stuff I don't need.

If you look at each item of clothing and ask yourself,
Is this comfortable?
Does it fit well?
Does it suit me?
Do I feel good when I wear it?
Would I still buy it if I saw it in a store?

Unless you can say yes to all questions,nit needs to go. I cannot believe how much space I now have in my wardrobes and drawers.

rubylady Sun 22-May-16 02:13:45

I have more regrets of not now owning a couple of items from being a youngster. I had a beautiful full length gown, in moss green with lace and tiny yellow flowers which I wore to go out on Christmas Eve and I felt so special in it.

I also had a "Paris" blouse, round collar, red with prints of the word Paris all over it and other pictures. I felt special in that too and I so wish I had kept hold of them but I do think they got thrown away when my back was turned. I must have been about 10 years old or so.

I don't own a lot of clothes now. I do have kaftans and kimonos though, nice and cooling and loose for this weather and in vibrant colours too so cheering. I have more dressy clothes for going out and I have slouch clothes for when I am feeling under the weather or trying to get better. I call them all my party clothes:-

Liberal : - my kaftans and kimonos.
Conservative : - my going out clothes.
Labour : - my working hard to get better clothes.

grin

Deedaa Sat 21-May-16 20:19:05

I started on underwear today. Why had I got nearly 30 pairs of knickers? Have slimmed it down to ones I actually wear plus their matching bras. Should probably start on handbags but might leave them for a bit.

tanith Sat 21-May-16 19:00:25

I have so many pairs of just in case trousers/shorts just counted them and I'm horrified.

2prs best blue jeans
1 black 1 white best pairs jeans
2 everyday pairs jeans
2 prs of best jeggings
2prs of everyday jeggings I wear for gardening/shopping
1 pr loose cotton trousers
2 pr in the garden shorts
3 prs going on holiday shorts
3prs capri trousers in various colours.
1 pr black going to a funeral trousers.
3 prs black cut off leggings..

Oh my I need help!!

Tizliz Sat 21-May-16 18:41:09

You all have made me sort out my wardrobe. Only threw a few things out but saved me buying some new stuff when I saw how much I had.

Nonnie1 Fri 20-May-16 11:29:57

Loopylou

Go shopping now.

For each new item you buy, get rid of an old one unless you wear it currently.

Never let this happen to you again !

Another good tip is not to keep anything for best. Just wear 'em smile

Oh that I should practice what I preach !

Candelle Fri 20-May-16 11:06:23

What a relief to read this - I am not on my own.

I have wardrobes, in several rooms, choc full of clothes and... half a dozen enormous plastic storage boxes full too.

My husband refuses to let me put any clothes into the attic (probably quite right too) so they are all in the bedrooms.

What do I wear? The same few things over and over but I need the others, you see, just in case...........

I also fluctuate with my weight so have fat and thin clothes. Those are still needed for holidays either in the States or on a ship as I can't resist as 'I'm on holiday' and return at least ten pounds heavier than when I left.

I keep promising myself that I will weed things out (as someone said, why do you need X pairs of trousers?) but when I go to do it I see that I need the first pair to wear with flats, the second with heels, the third with very high heels (yes, I still try - for about 100 yards and then have to take them off but I won't give up!) and so on. One pair would be wide-leg and another sim... in those different leg length and before I know it I have a wardrobe full.

This is really a mini-moan as no one is stopping me from culling my wardrobe.... except me.

I will do it... one day......one day.... one day... but I'm so busy this week.........

loopylou Thu 19-May-16 19:29:10

Needs must in my case dustyangel, the rail in one wardrobe was buckling under the weight of clothes ?, and I've been procrastinating like crazy for months!

I'm feeling quite relaxed about clearing out so much because someone else will benefit, won't they? And I certainly don't need to think about clothes for some time to come, which is even better.
That's the whole house except for the attic (DH's domain) done!!! I can hardly believe it's done, all Kondo'd
?

dustyangel Thu 19-May-16 17:13:42

looyloo and MiniMouse, well done. You put me to shame.grin

Nonnie1 that is one of the best method of de-cluttering I have read. I can think of things to go in the 5 year bag already. Definitely easier to do an initial purge without committing yourself.

millymouge Thu 19-May-16 16:31:43

I've just lost rather a lot,of weight (family problems) and am finding that I need to go down one dress size. So our local charity shop has been getting quite a few things. However, there were some things that were tight last year and yippee I can get in them easily. This morning DH had a clear out and tried on some suits that he wore when he was at work. Only ONE fitted, he thinks that being hung in the wardrobe for a while has made them shrink, but I think the good life has made him expand (slightly).

MiniMouse Thu 19-May-16 12:26:51

Well done Loopy grin

I've managed to fill three charity sacks, so I'm feeling a bit smile, but still need to be more ruthless!

Still haven't quite achieved Nandalot's 'swish' factor in the wardrobe, but almost there grin

Just the rest of the house to do ..... shock

loopylou Thu 19-May-16 12:19:01

Mission completed!?
Feeling very smug, a pile of black bags awaiting taking to the charity shop, DH will have to lug them to the car because I can barely lift them. All my drawers are neat and tidy, two wardrobes worth of clothes could be put into one and I feel as if a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I still have too many pairs of trousers/jeans but at least I now know what I do have.

Thank you everyone , well deserved ?☕️??? all round! X

Liz46 Thu 19-May-16 12:03:32

Yes but Grandma Moira, the fashions will probably change back again and you will be sorry you got rid of all your wider trousers!

See how hopeless I am?

GrandmaMoira Thu 19-May-16 11:54:40

When I retired I had a clearout as I rarely wear smart trousers now but joggers or jeans and it was part of my general de-clutter. I had also gained a lot of weight. I planned to sell on Ebay but in the end could not be bothered. I've now lost that weight so had an excuse for new clothes and got rid of a lot again. Years ago I often bought things because they were a bargain, now I'm more careful what I buy. I also realised that modern trousers are slim and all wider and bootleg trousers went.

loopylou Thu 19-May-16 10:47:34

Thank you Nonnie1
So far I have been through one wardrobe and at least 50% of the clothes are in black bags for the charity shop, drastically pruned! Some of the clothes still had their price tags, a truly embarrassing shock...
Now to tackle jumpers, cardigans and tee shirts....

Nonnie1 Thu 19-May-16 09:52:01

Loopyloo

...I could write a book on this !

I think it's all about psychology. There's a feeling of safety you get looking at the clothes knowing you have them even if they no longer fit/are not in fashion/remind you of happy times/or you just can't bear to part with them... type of thing smile

Pull out what you wear now and put them aside

Pull out what you have not worn for the pat five years and bag them up for charity.

Pull out what you have not worn for a year and bag them up too but don't part with them yet.

After a month if you did not feel the need to go back into the bags and take the first lot to charity. Drop them in the shop, walk out and don't look back smile

After another month do the same with the next lot.

This is what I do.

I have only had one regret ( a dress I bagged up mistakenly) but it has not spoiled my life

Good luck !

Moocow Thu 19-May-16 06:26:55

I think that's an excellent method NannaandGrampy am tempted to try it. My concern has always been items wearing out or being spoiled so needing to be replaced so then I would need to spend money to replace things that I'd previously bought but given away just a few months earlierabit like the earlier poster who bought her item back from the charity shop!

NanaandGrampy Thu 19-May-16 05:31:54

My daughter helped me out when I retired . First of all I got rid of all my work/office wear .

Then we hung everything back in the wardrobe with all the hangers facing one way. If I took something out I put it back in with the hanger facing the opposite way !

3 months later we checked and if it was in the right season and still facing the original way it was gone !! I did this every 3 months for the first year of retirement going through the seasons . The only things that escaped were wedding/party clothes .

Now I operate on a one in - one out scenario pretty much !

I sold most of my excess stuff on eBay too.

Feelthefear Wed 18-May-16 23:13:37

I'm hopeless, and have clothes that are 15 plus years old in my wardrobe.

In an effort to sort out, because I've totally run out of space, I've started putting clothes, after I wear them, back in the right hand side of the wardrobe. I then really try to wear clothes from the left side of the wardrobe.

Sometimes something won't look right, or fit well, or has marks, so I know that has to go. (I've even found myself thinking "I'll give it to charity... oh no, it's not good enough for that, I'll recycle it"... so why is it in my wardrobe if it's only fit for fabric recycling?!!)

I do this because I'm by nature a hoarder, and if I have a big sort out session of my wardrobe I'll end up thinking I might wear this again, this may come in, etc and not get rid of anything!

Tizliz Wed 18-May-16 23:02:12

Here in north Scotland there is no difference between winter and summer wardrobes, just how many layers you wear ☹️

Deedaa Wed 18-May-16 22:23:11

I was much stricter than usual when I got my summer clothes out this year. Quite a lot of stuff went because I was onlt keeping it because I liked the fabrics. Things weren't being worn because they were the wrong shape or colour - or even the wrong size!

I know that I spend most of the summer in linen trousers with tops that are at least hip length. I have a couple os summer skirts for when I feel like a change, a smart linen dress for going out and a bright cotton maxi dress for parties in the garden (In my dreams!) I try to keep to the same sort of colours, blues, greens and turquoises which makes planning outfits easier.

maryrose54 Wed 18-May-16 19:30:31

I am like a lot of you - I slob about home in baggy jeans and an old top, change to smarter jeans and top to pop to shops, and they are always the same ones. Last weekend I wore a new dress to GD christening. DH looked at me and said that he wishes I would wear a dress more often. I usually only wear a dress to go out somewhere special, but maybe should think again. How many pairs of jeans and slobby tops do I really need? DH obviously notices me more than I thought he did!
Think I need to have a good sort out and makeover.

phoenix Wed 18-May-16 18:14:41

Still have about 10 (maybe 12 blush) business suits taking up space in the wardrobe, I'll never wear them again.

I suppose I could sell them on eBay, but have never done it before, and as some of them were worn when I was still smoking I would have to have them dry cleaned before selling them, which wouldn't be very cost effective!