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At what age should we stop....?!

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Coolaboutsixty Fri 15-Jul-16 14:15:20

Just read about this ridiculous survey on the Huffington Pos which suggests at what age women should cut their hair, stop wearing skinny jeans, give up on technology etc etc!!! The whole article is actually ridiculing the survey but it got me thinking - do I actually think there is a cut off age for us? Rapidly approaching 60, I certainly don't feel ready to give up on anything I wear or enjoy doing, and nor do any of my similarly aged friends! My daughters and granddaughters love that I'm youthful in outlook and style and my youngest daughter is delighted to be able to borrow my clothes. How do Gransnetters feel about this?
www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/the-age-when-women-are-too-old-for-long-hair-and-skinny-jeans_us_5787a4b0e4b0867123dfdd87

Jane10 Sat 16-Jul-16 09:19:02

The worst that can happen is that you give others a good laugh! There's mutton dressed as lamb and carrion dressed as mutton as a dear friend pointed out to me once.
Its awful if someone in front of you appears very youthfully dressed then turns round to reveal an old old face. It can be quite shocking.
I know you'll not want to read this, and I'm not trying to be deliberately offensive, just to point out the risks. Its entirely up to you how you present yourself to the world but its up to others how they might perceive you.

moobox Sat 16-Jul-16 09:44:32

Somehow I can't manage to do colourful, but my neighbour is older than me and does colourful style beautifully

gettingonabit Sat 16-Jul-16 09:49:18

I think though, jane10 that many clothes are cross-generational (is that a word, even?) now. Many youngsters dress for comfort and are less "corporate" for work than I used to be. I'm wearing pretty much the same things as dd-skinnies/jeggings plus cropped jackets/cardies. She's a size smaller but not for much longer, hopefullywine.

I think there are some things that are definitely ageing no matter what she you are. I think greying, frizzy, unkempt hair is. I think visible rolls of fat around the middle is.

And, to me, there is something about knobbly, ugly feet in summer sandals that is ageing no matter the age of the possessor.

gettingonabit Sat 16-Jul-16 09:50:26

size.

Yes to colour. Uplifting at any chronological age.

Diddy1 Sat 16-Jul-16 09:54:15

Do what you want, when you want despite age. I am soon 75, have had short hair all my life, my hair is now silver, and my hairdresser always says how she loves the colour, I would never colour it, it suits my skin, wrinkles as well.
Clothes, I wear what I feel good in, not too short though, knees arent good to show off these days!

Irenelily Sat 16-Jul-16 09:55:04

Hi, many moons ago a college lecturer told us " to be well dressed is to be suitably dressed" true at any age I think. The occasion and one's size(!) affect the choice of clothes - and what you like. I find a look in the mirror tells all - occasionally I think - oh dear why did I buy that! My grown up grand daughter is often pleased to have my cast off tops, cardigans and scarves ( not trousers or jeans) and I don't do skirts! Makes me proud as I'm in my 80s!

PamSJ1 Sat 16-Jul-16 10:00:36

As my Nana used to say "if it suits the wearer, bugger the starer".

PamSJ1 Sat 16-Jul-16 10:01:23

Hope the language didn't offend!

wellingtonpie Sat 16-Jul-16 10:02:46

I agree with everyone . I'm 67 and very short. Recently I've put on a few pounds mainly I think because I've stopped smoking. But I love skinny jeans and my youngest daughter is my best friend. She'd tell me in a flash if she thought I looked ridiculous in any thing. And I usually take her shopping with me.
Sometimes as we get older it can be difficult to know what suits but I think now most of us are modern grans and can wear what we like within reason.

henetha Sat 16-Jul-16 10:05:48

We should all wear what we want for as long as we want.
And do what we want, - if it does'nt hurt others, of course.
We should be free spirits until the end!

railman Sat 16-Jul-16 10:28:39

"Huffington Post" - I've read it once or twice, and the link you gave is for the US edition - so I'm not surprised by the banality of the piece.

The "Huff" seems a bit like a cross between one of those mags you try and avoid reading at the doctor's surgery, and a school newspaper put together by 12-year olds.

I reckon the 12-year olds would make a better job of detail

Jalima Sat 16-Jul-16 10:33:29

So, then, the relevant question perhaps should be:

'At What Age Should You Stop Reading the Huffington Post?'

Sheilasue Sat 16-Jul-16 10:34:22

I my hair went grey when I was in my late forties, I never dyed it but I have a hair cut every 5 weeks and keep it short. I have an iPad a laptop and a wardrobe of clothes that I like regardless of what's in fashion I wear what I like and feel good in.

Jalima Sat 16-Jul-16 10:34:26

and the link you gave is for the US edition
that's why my previous post was an attempt at an Americanism grin

jocork Sat 16-Jul-16 10:39:28

If the cut off for tattoos is 38, does that mean just for having new ones or should we be hiding those we had done when younger?

Ramblingrose22 Sat 16-Jul-16 11:08:07

I agree with henetha.

I read somewhere that women buy clothes that they themselves like, not clothes they think men will like. That's how it should be.

I think it's more important to buy what suits you, whatever your age. For example, I think that sleeveless clothes look awful on women with bingo wings but if the weather's hot, why should they be expected to swelter?

The skills of people in their sixties/seventies vary enormously, as do their hair colour and figures. There's no one rule for all of them. I prefer to decide for myself what I do or what I give up on at my age

MaryXYX Sat 16-Jul-16 11:14:44

Well - I was 62 when I started wearing skirts, and in Summer some of them are above the knee. The only people who seem to have any problem are the women in their 80s and 90s in the retirement housing where I live. Most of them have "granny hair" but I'm now wearing mine to my shoulders. I see it more as wearing what makes me feel good.

This year's slogan at our local "Pride" event was "We can all be heroes". Some of us went as comic book super-heroes. I was Batgirl, with a black leather effect mid-thigh minidress. It was by no means the most flamboyant costume and we all enjoyed the event.

hulahoop Sat 16-Jul-16 11:16:03

I went grey in my thirties my hairdresser always says people pay a lot to achieve my colour I tend to wear trousers or long dresses become of bad veins but I think wear what you feel OK in .

Disgruntled Sat 16-Jul-16 11:54:16

I agree, Gettingonabit, Carmen dell Orifice (have I git that right?) is stunning. So's that grey haired model the Guardian uses (?Pam).

oldgoose Sat 16-Jul-16 11:56:13

Just look in the mirror - if you don't scare yourself then it's fine! Wear what you want, it's your body.

Zena510 Sat 16-Jul-16 11:58:55

I think we should do what we feel comfortable doing and wearing.
I have subtle tattoos / have blonde highlights / use make up/ dress in what makes ME feel comfortable.
Seems young people dress as they want albeit sometimes outrageously.
Whatever rings your bell or floats your boat ! Who am I to criticise someone ☺️

Greyduster Sat 16-Jul-16 12:22:17

I recently found myself in Primark (Don't ask!), passing a rack of skinny, mud coloured trousers, and thought "I'll just try a pair of those, for fun!" I really really liked them, they fitted well and with the right pair of boots, I could see myself wearing them, but...... I suddenly had DDs voice in my head saying "no, mother, really, NO!" So I put them back and came away, but I really should have had the confidence to say, "what the hell" and to have bought them anyway. I am probably past the stage of making extreme sartorial gestures now!

PetitFilou99 Sat 16-Jul-16 12:38:54

Well, if my Dad is anything to go by, at the age of 83 years old, he decided to change from a PC (which he's had since they were invented) to an Apple computer, so you are never too old...!!

I do get the odd request for help now and then and, as I've never possessed an Apple product in my life, I have to go online to find a solution to the problem. But overall, he's been like a wiz-kid with the brand new iOS.

So there is hope for all of us after all...!!

grannybuy Sat 16-Jul-16 12:39:14

Am 68 and slim. Would pass for a 14 year old from behind!! Wouldn't have long hair unless it was 'luxuriant ', and wouldn't show bare white legs with dresses and skirts. My shorts for the garden in my cool part of GB, but would wear longish ones in a hot country, with tinted legs!

grammargran Sat 16-Jul-16 12:40:10

If you've got good legs that are marred by varicose veins (I look on mine as medals of honour earned from three pregnancies), then go for leggings, jeggings, opaque black tights, tunics and knee length dresses - works at any age. I've always had short hair and have recently grown it - it's taken over a year mind! - to just below my ears, and the difference is amazing, so much softer and less aging. I think that some older faces need a little 'foliage'. Mine certainly does. I've been lucky(?) in that I've not gone grey - and I'm 77 soon - but it is fading brunette so time for a touch of colour? I'm also lucky in having daughters - need I say more .......