Gransnet forums

Style & beauty

Do you think you've become more or less critical of your appearance as you've got older?

(86 Posts)
LizzynotBusy Fri 29-Jul-16 15:27:00

I think in some ways I've got more so in that I make much more of an effort to hide the wrinkles and marks whereas before I think I used to feel I could get away with it more easily. What do others think? In some ways I'm more accepting of areas I know will never change but I'm more critical (or at least vigilant) at looking after the bits that are still passable (by my standards anyway grin).

Gononsuch Sat 30-Jul-16 11:16:55

Sorry too much drink should be a know in there.

gulligranny Sat 30-Jul-16 11:21:51

I've never been the shape for elegance but I try for neat, with a bit of oomph when I'm going out. Trousers and pretty tops cover a multitude of sins and I always wear a bit of make-up,otherwise my eyes disappear behind my glasses. I'm lucky to have good skin still but I've lost a lot of my lovely thick hair. What's left I have cut short & spiky and it is a good colour, sparkly silver as opposed to dreary white (at least that's what my hairdresser says).

It is still a shock to see my grandmother (I didn't like her a lot) peering back at me from the mirror though.

Lewlew Sat 30-Jul-16 11:35:29

As some have said, I care more about how I feel (physical and mental) than looks. That said, I do keep tidy nicely cut hair and use moisturiser. My mother had great skin, but put too much foundation on. I saw her face when she was without foundation in her final days and her skin was still nice, though papery. So I hope I follow and am leaving the slap off... except for touch eclat here and there!

AND... if you want some FUN. Put a hand mirror flat on a table, then stand over it and look down. That's what you will be like in ten or so more years. To cheer yourself up, lay flat on your back and hold the hand mirror above and your face will magically be ten or more years younger!

grin the law of gravity!

EmilyHarburn Sat 30-Jul-16 11:47:10

I like to be clean, in clean clothes free of any spots and stains and colour coordinated.

grandMattie Sat 30-Jul-16 12:13:25

me too EH, cleanliness is next to godliness grin

I have always made sure I look neat and tidy, no food spills, no buttons missing etc. The rest, well, it doesn't really matter - smart if it is required, and casual if not. I have never looked a slob, but that probably owes more to chance than anything else. I get most of my clothes from supermarkets, and that suits me.

castle Sat 30-Jul-16 12:23:20

I used to be really fat! I have been on a diet since I was 18. Yo yo dieter now a size 14 so am happy, well still think I could loose a bit more. I dye my hair, have had teeth implants, put makeup on every day even if just gardening. Never take it of!! Got lots of wrinkles as my face used to be fat ?

Anncdw36 Sat 30-Jul-16 12:24:42

I don't worry about what I look like but am always clean and hair brushed ! All my working life I had sensible , neat hair ...now I just let it go as it pleases, long and wild. I dress casually now, no need to have make up or posh clothes. I don't look too bad, but I have no one living with me to criticise ( quite nice really !)

Caroline123 Sat 30-Jul-16 12:26:36

I'm less critical now.my body has a few scars but I call it wear and tear!
Someone once said you don't like your photo today but in 10 years time you'll think it's ok and I find that's true!
I think I'm ok. I look what I am, a young,old person!

sylviann Sat 30-Jul-16 12:44:06

A lot less fussy about my appearance now at the age of 69 up until 10 years ago everything had to be just right now as long as I am clean and tidy that will do

michellehargreaves Sat 30-Jul-16 12:59:43

Today is the youngest we are ever going to be; let's make the most of it. Carpe diem.

LesleyC Sat 30-Jul-16 13:00:50

I am much more critical and take more care of my appearance now. I knew from a young age that I would never be pretty and always tried to compensate by dressing nicely and having good hair and make up. Now that I am older, it doesn't come as easily! I am not trying to look younger, but just to make the best of myself because that gives me confidence.

DanniRae Sat 30-Jul-16 13:32:37

I am much more critical about my appearance. People used to say that I looked young for my age and I loved hearing that. But I feel that I now look my age - 68. Trouble is, as already mentioned, the image I have in my head of myself is nothing like the one I see in the mirror.

inishowen Sat 30-Jul-16 14:14:52

When I was around 18 I had a figure to die for, and long thick brown hair. Sadly I was consumed with hatred for my nose! Now the figure has gone and so has the hair! I'm left with thin wispy short hair which I dislike a lot. Strangely I love myself more than I did as a teen. I put it down to being married to a good man who boosts my confidence every day.

Diddy1 Sat 30-Jul-16 14:50:09

Only use a little mascara, otherwise I look as though I havent any eyes, a little lipstick when I go out, otherwise not really bothered about being old, my hair is thinner as other readers have said (which made me feel better) love my hair colour, Silver, my hair has always been my "crowning glory" and I still like it to look decent, ok maybe I am a bit critical after all.

Sheilasue Sat 30-Jul-16 14:52:00

I find as I get older I try to cover up, don't wear sleeveless tops or low cut dresses, well don't wear dresses at all have thread veins ok in the winter but in the summer it's long skirts or trousers that are cotton loose cut only wear shorts indoors would never go out in them. Have bunions so shoes or sandles that cover my bumps like canvas shoes my hair is ok it's grey and fine but use a shampoo makes it fuller. I do go to hairdresser every 5weeks has a good cut.
The thing is I have learnt to show off the best bits and cover the worst.
I was a sixties girl and wore all the trendy gear. There are lots of lovely clothes about and you can find the things that suit you the best I like classic so that's what I buy

Blinko Sat 30-Jul-16 17:45:24

Out on the tiles one evening thinking how great I look....till OH takes a photo and I see both grandmothers looking out.

Angela1961 Sat 30-Jul-16 19:24:12

You wouldn't see me outside the front door without my contact lenses in but these days it's a blue moon event when I put them on ! Also since moving to Cumbria I'm a scruff as you can getaway with looking like your about to go hiking !

Legs55 Sat 30-Jul-16 19:31:21

I'm not particularly worried about how I look at home but if I'm going out I do smarten up a bit but still tend to wear jeans & nice blouses/jumpers & smart jacket. I do miss my high heels as I can no longer wear them - trainers or comfortable smart shoes due to health problems. Hair is quite long so it's ponytail at home & coiled with a nice clip if I'm going out. Make-up when I go out even just shopping - but usually only lipstick & mascara (thinking about having eye lashes tinted). Nail varnish is a must for me - my nails grow well & it's my vanity. My main problem at the moment is my teeth - first lost tooth at top front, several bottom teeth have crumbled away - waiting for Hospital Appointment to have them extracted & new dentures fitted - they will be a real boost for my confidence

I too have gone from a very slim teenager, long legs, all in proportion shape - now overweight but still not too concerned as I'm happy (apart from teeth) grin

Coolgran65 Sat 30-Jul-16 19:59:40

Jings I wear sneakers with maxi dresses all the time. I think it depends on the dress.

Sheilasue Sat 30-Jul-16 20:14:29

We can't bring it back we have to accept what we have become. If you think about when I look at photos of my mum when I was young she looked older when she was younger, if that makes sense. But grand mums now dress so much better, think it's because they is so much choice about even if you can't afford to splash the cash and there is Primarks

Victoria08 Sat 30-Jul-16 20:17:17

I thought I looked great when I was 60, never worried about ageing even then.
Now I am 70, I can definitely see the signs of ageing.

Lines on face, wrinkly arms and legs, just recently noticed those.

I'm also looking a bit gaunt nowadays and although I'm slim, the tummy fat has accumulated around my middle.

I do sometimes pop out without makeup, depends where I'm going but I must say I look a lot better with than without it.

downtoearth Sat 30-Jul-16 20:54:28

Comfortable in my own skin,have never been a beauty but always attractive,good sense of humour,and always worked personality over looks,have had many losses in Life,which may or may not show on my face and figure though actually love my silver hair, my partner 20 years my junior of 14 years loves my curves, my GD who I have brought up since age of 4 approves of my style, my son loves me and keeps in touch as does my ex husband and my brother and family....happy in my own skin YES

Deedaa Sat 30-Jul-16 21:56:50

I think I'm not as bothered now as, over the years, I've learned what works and what doesn't. I'm another one who thinks I have to make a bit of an effort or the next stage will be not shaving my legs or washing my hair and it's all downhill from there!

cornergran Sun 31-Jul-16 00:45:21

I'm more critical about everything to do with me now. Have lost a lot of confidence since I stopped work, missing the positive feedback. Never been one for makeup but was usually happy with my overall look, comfortable in my clothes. Now I rarely feel comfortable, getting cross with myself isn't helping but it's where I am most of the time. Would like the old 'me' back. She's here somewhere.

Minder Sun 31-Jul-16 08:29:26

I think I'm just as critical but in a different way because I'm older now. I'm 64 in a couple of weeks. I look in the mirror longer when I try clothes on in shops, check for things like can you see the rolls of fat and definitely look at myself from the back because I see people in town and I think, she clearly didn't look at her back view in the mirror before she left the house. Yes, that is bi**hy I know. I'm very lucky, my hair is thick and people tell me I don't look my age, (thanks to my Dad's side of the family) I wear a little eye liner and mascara every day. It's my husband's funeral tomorrow - I'm fine honestly, it was a release for him and we're going to celebrate his life until he was 50 when Alzheimer's got him and stayed with him for 16 years - and I've bought new clothes, shoes and handbag. It was a case of having to because I discovered when trying my clothes on, nothing fitted me anymore but I WILL lose the 3 stones I need to - she says confidently hmm - and then I will feel comfortable. I need to lose weight so my knees don't hurt so much and I can walk upstairs without puffing. smile