Dress code dilemma

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I think Jenny Murray wears them over the shoulder above where she had her mastectomy. Supposedly to detract attention but I think the opposite , she draws more attention . Its so daft looking. I heard her speaking at an event and couldnt concentrate for looking at the scarf over her shoulder.

Enjoy yourself Jane and have a lovely evening

oooh I've made two errors, missed out hide and should have typed and not of. Careless!

I don't know whether wraps referred to in this thread are Pashmina type scarves, of which I have many and although I'm not trying to all of me under mine just my bust, which imo is too large, if only they were chicken fillets they would have been whipped out long ago sadly they are attached, they were indeed an attribute in my younger years, but as one gets older they ruin the line of everything in a matronly type way. I'd really like to be completely flat chested now and I have a friend who feels the same about hers, so I know it's not just me. On the subject of wraps of scraves, call them what you will, I'm not mad about the way Jenny Murray always seems to have one draped over one shoulder, it seems quite superfluous to me. Shawls I do agree are not a good look as you get older.

MawBroon- I like black. It cheers me up, miserable git that I am!
Obviously my vivacious personality will shine out -unless I don't like the company in which case I'll use the wrap like a niquab and hide my face. Probably for the best!

Pistols at dawn then maw

I don't know what it is about wraps really. I had an aunt (Dad's older sister) who loved clothes and one year (in the 60s) she came for Christmas dressed in knee-high black boots and a Black Watch tartan cloak. As she was 6 ft tall she looked mesmerising to her 13 year-old niece, but I doubt whether anyone else could have carried it off.

Too often people look as though they are trying to hide under their wraps and I don't think Jane should be hiding her top

Ooh can we start pashmina wars janeainsworth??
I have not met jane10 so I do not know her height or style, but a pashmina/serape can add an injection of colour near the face to play down the black. I agree they are not for everybody, but if worn need to be the antithesis of the millworker's shawl.

X-posts janeainsworth.

Just don't wear the wrap 'granny shawl-style' very ageing!

I'm afraid I disagree about wraps. I think they're ageing difficult to carry off with any degree of elegance. They remind me of women trudging off to the mill in their shawls and clogs.
jane just wear your lovely top with black trousers and your pearls and you'll look and feel fab.

Why a "black wrap" Jane10? It's not a wake!
Try cerise, bright turquoise, emerald or lime green or even red depending on your eye colour.
Statements should not be whispered!!

It's lovely, Jane10, you should definitely wear it. Have a lovely evening.

"Business Dress" ..... Long sleeved Top/Dress sober in colour and style.

I wear scarves to hide my very wrinkly neck , but that is a problem most of you don't have.
I am far too old to worry about how people perceive me. you should all do the same.However I still love Jane's shirt.

I would interprete it is as scrubbing up well, i.e. Not what you'd walk the dog in, clean, pressed etc.
Smart trousers are easier than a skirt as you can get away with flat, comfy shoes. Then a simple top. I always like scarves, mainly as my neck gets cold, but if it's a colour that suits you, that's basically what people see. Pair of earrings. Oh and a jacket to keep you warm if it's air conditioned.

Will borrow a black wrap from DD and wear my good black pearls. Will keep you informed. It sounds like an interesting evening. Dinner then a talk by James Lansdale of the BBC. Think he's the diplomatic correspondent.

Narrow leg cigarette pants with flat suede pumps are my 'go to' and I always (as mentioned by 1974cookie) use a wrap or a large pashmina. A pashmina makes everything look glamorous. Be it an evening do, or jeans

You could go in your jeans and say that you thought it was 'Dress Down Friday'

Otherwise black trousers and your top with some jewellery or another top and a jacket if you want to splurge (at the charity shop perhaps?).

I only have one clutch bag and it is one I bought for DD's wedding, but it does have a strap and D rings inside if needed.

Galen

Or you could wear a nurse's uniform or a lab coat!

carolpaint why do you feel that trousers and chic are mutually exclusive? A smart pair of trousers beats most skirts any day and jane10's top worn with a pair of smart black trousers (slim, or cigarette if possible unless you are 5'10) and a pair of black patent or suede pumps would not look out of place in any restaurant on the Rive Gauche.

Beautiful top Jane-you'll carry that off very well indeed. Love it!

I say that you cannot beat a wrap to smarten up anything that you wear.
I have several that I wear with everything including trousers, even jeans.
They do not have to be expensive, they are far cheaper than a jacket, and can make even the most casual of outfits look chic. Maybe a friend has one that you can borrow?
Add a clutch bag ( Charity Shops are great places to find them, or again borrow one if you can ) and you are set to go, even wearing flat shoes which never go out of fashion.
I was always uncomfortable in these type of social occasions until I learned to stand tall and hold my head high. Believe me Jane, it really, really works as it exudes an air of confidence whatever you are wearing.
Have a wonderful time Jane ?.

Jane10 long top looks floaty and rather lovely, ninathenana I do not know about all the ladies that have responded here, I was making a plea, that because we are older that we can be chic. But I would be intrigued if a Madam responded, or anyone that knew a Madam. Once had a prostitute on my caseload, suffered badly with agoraphobia, in a way had got the right job.

Do you think there are any on this thread Carolpaint ?

Carolpaint I don't wear trousers as I'm totally the wrong shape but they can look very smart and elegant. I've seen a few older ladies that look bag ladies wearing skirts/dresses. If the outfit is well ironed well matched and acccessorized well and your hair is done then trousers are perfectly acceptable for a smart occassion.. I'm sure the majority of us do take a pride in our appearance.

Galen. Ooh you are awful (but I like you!!)