Mother of groom - what to wear??

Myth that groom’s mother shouldn’t overshadow bride’s. But both mothers sometimes consult each other so not wearing same or clashing colours.
Mother’s usually wear fairly formal things- eg dress and jacket. Good advice on another thread but can’t remember title. Eg charity shops, borrowing from friends. Some shops do a “personal shopper” service where an experienced assistant picks out things which might suit you and brings to bigger, more private changing room. No obligation to buy though.
Main thing is to get something you feel comfortable in and you feel like yourself so you can enjoy the day ?

I think Farmor covered most things, I agree its important you feel good as well as looking good. The day is for the bride and groom though so don't get too stressed over it all.
Hope you all have a lovely day.

Check with the couple about any dress code first. Then have a chat with the bride's mother, as a courtesy to make sure you don't wear the same or clashing colours. Do some research online for mother- of- the- groom outfits. Then hit the shops and try things on until you feel really great in something. Don't stress - all eyes are on the bride, you just get to be a special guest.

Thank you both - that's very useful to know

I wore a jersey dress that I'd bought in a sale - patterned with ruching across the tummy - and a toning fascinator. It was a sunny day so I wore lace fingerless gloves that matched the fascinator for something different; certainly noone else wore the same ensemble! I had to give a reading so I needed to feel especially comfortable. In fact that would be my advice: wear something comfortable!!!

I would echo what everyone is saying about being comfortable and also to consult the bride about the colour. For my daughter's wedding I wore a longish "floaty" skirt with a matching loose jacket in navy with cream spots and a cream silk top. It was so comfy but as I had paid a lot more than I had planned I sold it to a dress shop afterwards but 15 years later I regret doing that as it would be bang in fashion now and I would have had a lot of wear out of it.

Don't think too much of mother of the groom. Choose something you like, is comfy and you feel good in it. Good luck!

I think my biggest worry would be what to wear on my feet!! Lots of lovely dresses in the shops but I feel they need heels to look good. I'm off to a wedding in France later in year where my best friend is mother of the groom. It's going to be a very hot long day. She is probably opting for a 'floaty' maxi dress with sandals. I'm probably wearing a long summery dress too. Comfort is very important.

I didn't even buy a new outfit for DS's wedding. After finding nothing in the shops I liked, I ask DDiL to be and her mother if they would mind me wearing a special outfit I already had and had worn twice. They were fine about it. It was a raw silk unstructured suit and I bought new blouse, shoes and bag. DDiL's mother and I agreed that we would dispense with hats, neither of us are hat people. My hairdresser dressed my hair up with three roses in it, which matched the suit.

The point I am making is that what you wear is up to you. You make the rules, decide what you would like to wear and will feel comfortable in and wear that.

My daughter is getting married in 2 weeks time. As in all outfits I start with the shoes. Its not a good look to be hobbling around in pain ? Even worse imo, to take your shoes off. ?
Mine are a navy suede sling back by Peter Kaisa.

I don’t know where you live, but House of Fraser in Bristol were excellent when I was looking for a special occasion outfit. They have a personal shopper service (you have to book). I assume all House of Fraser stores offers the same service? You get a supersized private dressing room (with loads of mirrors) and really helpful suggestions, best of all they fetch different styles and sizes for you to try on.

I chatted with the other Mum re colours and styles and we even went shopping together with the bride. MOG got lucky in the 1st shop, and after “100” Shops I just gave up. I then went on Pinterest for MOB outfits and found one I loved, however, it was from some designers 2013 collection so no longer available. In the end I took the photo to a dressmaker and she made it for me !

I am going to be the MOB at my DD's wedding and the MOG asked her for advice about what to wear.

My DD told me that to fit in with her coastal theme I should wear navy blue and I have bought a navy dress with a cream jacket. However, the bridesmaids are in navy and I have just read that the MOB and bridesmaids should not wear the same colour. I'm not too exercised about this.

My DD told the MOG what I was wearing and what the colour theme was and said she should wear what she liked.

I think one can overthink these things.

Unless you are on very friendly terms with your sons future mil and can get to know what she will be wearing then depending on the seasons spring, summer. autumn then a floral dress with a plain jacket and hat/fascinator that pick out one of the floral colours in the dress For colder months similar as you can always wear warm undies

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Hi there,
It is important to speak to the MOB to make sure you don’t wear the same colour etc, find out how dressy she is going and whether or not she is wearing a hat.
A good idea for plus size is floaty palazzo style pants and a long floaty jacket or tunic over the top.
A brand called Sahara has some lovely occasion wear, even if it’s not in your price bracket look at their site as it will perhaps give you some ideas. saharalondon.com/clothing
Remember the photographs will be around a long time after the event so it is important you look and feel good!
The only person not to overshadow is the bride!
I have provided a link to Sahara on their menu click on occasion wear.
Have a lovely wedding.

As a plus size, the formal things I tried made me look like an over stuffed sofa . Try Chesca for things that are good on curves - l have a longish shooshy dress and floaty top but they have trousers, skirts and float jackets etc.

When my daughter got married last year I bought several outfits quite cheaply online, to cover different weather outcomes, but in the end wore a Frank Usher dress with matching bolero, It was perfect for the day and I felt very comfortable in it. I managed to find matching hat, shoes and bag from Jacques Vert. There is an online store called Just Last Season that sells mainly JV, Dash, Windsmoor and Precis clothes at very reasonable prices, but they may only have them in either a small or a larger size.

I personally think a shift dress with matching long coat looks very smart and slimming too.

Studio 8 is the plus size version of Phase Eight, so represents the department store style offering if you don't want the exclusive wedding type shop stuff or price tag. I found the cut of the dress had a slight flare in the skirt, which was more flattering than those straight down formal shift dresses

Two (IMHO) important rules:

Nothing polyester.

Nothing coloured pistachio.

Sorted.

I will also be MOG this year. I have a Phase 8 dress, heavyweight fabric, sleeveless, large flowers on an off white background, plus a blush jacket. The jacket is quite fitted and the whole outfit looks much better on. I have uncomfortable but stylish shoes for the photos and a more comfortable pair of sandals to change into later. This was my daughter's idea who was shopping with me at the time.
I would advise to try a few things on and be open to ideas. The larger shops might have a personal shopper to help with a few ideas. The lady in the fitting rooms at John Lewis was excellent!

dress and jacket - can't go wrong

I picked a Frank Usher skirt and long jacket for my son's wedding in this Country in ice blue very understated but finished it off with a huge Jaques Vert wide brimmed hat and high heels I felt very comfortable throughout the day.
For my 2nd son's wedding in LV I wore a long flowing dress in pale grey with my hair up with flowers pinned in it.
If you can go to try on at some stores you can then go onto ebay and try and find similar I did this with both my purchases and then resold after the events.

When my daughter got married I stressed about what to wear. I searched for ages but couldn’t anything I liked. Then had idea of getting one made. I found exactly the style I liked and fortunately a lady who has altered clothes for me in the past agreed to make it for me. It was perfect. Fitted exactly where it should. The dress didn’t cost me any more than it would have done to buy. Look on Pinterest if you have the app and search for wedding outfits.

My starting point was a bag and shoes that I had worn only once before. I make most of my clothes (nobody makes clothes for my shape!) but I ordered several jackets from www.justlastseason.co.uk that I could try on at home and send back what I didn't want. Good prices, free delivery and free returns. I made a dress, just a simple shift but the jacket made it and I was pleased with the result. The bride wanted her mother and me to wear small hats (big ones block the view for those behind, and neither of us is really into hats anyway) so a friend of hers made them and included a bit of dress material in mine.