What would make me look younger?

Don't wash your face with soap and moisturize, doesn't have to be expensive, in fact I still like Oil of Olay.
Bit of blusher and a bit of lippy and a pleasant smile.

love a scarf

I love a scarf too- so comforting.

I also love a scarf.
It can dress any outfit up.
I find if I wear plain dark colours it it makes me look much slimmer,
So a lovely bright scarf lifts the outfit and imho prevents me from looking too over weight.

Infinity scarves are very easy to wear.

A lovely fur type scarf can make a winter coat a look lovely.

what is wrong with scarves? Nothing, they look lovely, but they date you and are the signature accessory of so many older women. This thread is about looking as well as you can for your age. One way of doing that is ditching the scarf.

It is a purely personal choice.

morethan2 I loved your post

My grandchildren ask me if they can flap my bingo wings!

Monica....what are your top tips for not looking like an oldie?

I listed them on page 1. I would only add, be confident to be yourself and don't anyone push you into a mold, least of all the 'age appropriate' mold.

what if you are realistic and happy in your mold/mould

Wearing clothes that are really frumpy! M&S have a good selection that will add years on most people. So to look, and most importantly feel, younger dress well and keep an eye on fashion without being a slave to it. Keeping interested in the world and people in general. Be open to new ideas and experiences when you get the chance. Buy the best make up you can afford and apply it gently. Smile. All helps.

Well my new Doreen bra has arrived, the healthy eating regime starts tomorrow so thanks for all the advice!

Love it Telly

dear old Doreen, much beloved by so many. Why couldn't she be Stacey or La'Toya or Lauren?

Ah MawBroon, Barbara Pym, a shared pleasure. I only discovered BP a few years ago and am just loving working my way through her books. She is an absolute delight. Her books are not so readily available in Australia, even in libraries, so I order them from UK online booksellers.

Oh Scribbles you made me smile. Everything you said and more. Especially the short trouser thing. Even my mum aged 92 when she died and as 'straight as a ramrod'...used to say to me " looks like their trousers have had a row with their ankles" she hated that 'look'. She always had her hair done once a week... always a straight back even after two hip and on knee replacement in her eighties! She couldn't abide the slouched over but " oh well I'm old" approach to life. If I saw much as sloped a shoulder walking with a heavy shopping bag she'd be on me like a whippet telling me to stand up straight and look the world in the eye. She never liked my husband for all those reasons.... he was sloppy at 25 ... shuffled...mumbled.... and NEVER looked the world in the eye! She called it lazy and slovenly. And about him shed proved to be right. So.....stand up straight... good haircut... NO elastic aged waistlines .... excercis.( swimming three times weekly in my case) and a good three mile walk every day. And keep the brain alive all of you . And LISTEN to young people, they have so much to teach us!

Morethan2, there are at least 2 of us. I could have written your post word for word.

mumofmadboys, you ask what's wrong with scarves. Well, as a former lover of scarves I've now stopped wearing them except for warmth in winter because I suddenly realised that wearing a scarf all the time tells everybody that you're trying to hide a turkey neck? It doesn't work btw, just draws attention to your neck. Ditto polo neck jumpers.

As long as no one mistakes him for your son or nephew! Earlier this year my DS made a rare decision to accompany me to church when he was visiting for the weekend. At the end of the service a lady in the pew in front with whom I have a nodding acquaintance turned around and asked, "is this your husband?"
My son is 25 and I am pushing 60 far harder than I care to admit! I laughed heartily but poor DS looked horrified!

I have two mirrors. One makes me look younger and healthier and the other shows every wrinkle and sag.

I use both (the cruel one is great for finding that hair on your chin) but I always look in the kind one last, before I leave the house.

Someone upthread mentioned supermarket trolleys. I look around at those who lean over them, which makes bottoms stick out too, and force myself to stand up straight and not give in to that stance.

It would be easy to.

One of the things that can make you look older is poor posture and stiffness - although I realise some people have health problems which makes this worse. So, if you can, stand tall and and do those stretching exercises!!

Agree about the “post-menopausal” hair cut, I see so many ladies with short back and sides, and they have usually not even bothered with a dab of lipstick. Also wearing beige is an instant ager. Don’t give up!

I have 70+ freind who had dentures all her life . Then she she got teeth implants . Really took the years off .
So after hair I would say teeth . Get them looking the best you can afford .

All of the above....attitude is important. My dear old mum used to say , think old, you act old, and you get old.
I remember seeing a documentary on Bruce Forsythe and he used to walk around his pool(we would have to improvise!!), practising 'not walking like an old person'. The shuffle and the arms that don't move as you walk is a giveaway!
Put on a nice smile,nothing worse than that 'slapped bum' look'....so ageing