Calling all hairdressers!

No hairdressing knowledge sorry. But I do have a very similar style to you and my hair is a nightmare.
No doubt you’ve used products on it.
Sorry I don’t have a solution for you, just empathy. X

Can't you just roll it under with a brush and hairspray it in place?

My neat bob started to do that. One side developed a mind of its own so my hairdresser changed the style to a layered bob. It's so much easier to look after as I CBA to faff about with brushes and straighteners.

Have tried that Gagagran. It goes under initially, then reverts to doing its own thing!
Interesting idea merlotgran. Have always found layers more difficult to cope with in the past. Is it just layered at the bottom?
Thank you for the empathy Smiley4.

Consider having a new style short term? Worked for me. If your hair grows reasonably quickly you can soon revert if wished.

Have a graduated bob, which is shorter at the back and shaped into the neck. More on trend too

My bob has a recalcitrant lock at the side that refuses to stay under. I thought I was alone!

Seems many of us have a problem with wilful hair!??
Mine starts misbehaving about a week after visiting the hairdresser, yet I've had quite a few compliments lately, so maybe I'm inadvertently in fashion! ?

My hair does completely different things on each side
Have a style that doesn’t need to be symmetrical..look up wavy bobs.. you just tong a few waves in and it’s all sorted ..

I was also going to suggest a graduated bob. I have one and it's much easier to manage than all one length. The layers at the back will take care of your flicky out bit!

If that's your only problem lucky you.

Tongs perhaps - straighteners

Aargh Mabon1 you strike again with your heavy handed seriousness!

A very smart friend told me that if you want your hair to change direction, you have to put a little water on the root end. It works- try it.

My bob hairstyle includes a fringe - this has a "kink" which pops up at every opportunity and can only be tamed with straighteners. (In any rain/damp, it always returns.) I've given up worrying about this, and I prefer to think of it a something "individual" which makes me, me!

I had a sane length bob for years until I decided to grow it and told my hairdresser I didn’t want it too thick at the ends as it would stick out, so she put some layers in and I love it!

Long layers all the way down, supermum. I can either blow dry it into a bob shape or just 'fluff it up'. The wild look seems to suit me these days.

I find it looks and behaves better about two weeks after a cut.

I had a bob for years.
My hair is very thick and one day I got so fed up with the time it was taking me to get right each time I went out I asked the hairdresser to cut it short.
She did ,all over
Result -it became wavy all over and now doesn't need setting.

My friend pays for a Brazilian blow dry, when she can afford it. the effects last 4 months but I believe it is expensive.

www.treatwell.co.uk/treatment/ladies-brazilian-blow-dry/

supermum48 have you tried hair straighteners? I use mine on my medium length, blow dried under bob to tame the bits that have a 'mind of their own'! I also try and dry hair in sections/layers, not as well as my hairdresser but it helps

Mabon, if you can't say anything nice , don't bother !!

I've recently found my perfect hairdresser. Collar length hair cut and restyled into quite short layers from just below crown to the nape, longer hair swept over and a sort of side parting of longer hair over to one side, tucked behind my ears. Subtle flashes in shades of reddish brown over darker brown...I love it. Easy to maintain and I can alter the style slightly to make it curly (curling wand)
I hope she never leaves. We women can be quite precious about our hairstylist, can't we? It takes sooo long to find someone who makes your hair look fabulous.
Mine is like silk, having had it washed and roots done this morning with a hair masque covered with a hot towel whilst I lay back in the massage chair. Absolute bliss.

Mind you...the L'Oreal shampoo (no parabens or sulphates) is £42 and conditioner but they had it at half price today.

Mine tends towards the wild look too; I've never been able to have a sleek bob because, even when I was young, it went under nicely at one side but flicked out on the other side no matter what I did.
As I've got older it's got more and more wavy but not in a nice way so the only way is short.

How I always longed for a sleek bob.