Feeling frumpy and old

I’m with you all the way Miss A. I’ve taken to retirement like a duck to water! No more smart suits, highlighted hair or daily makeup. I love it.

Never leave the house without lipstick and mascara, today I am wearing s white stuff tunic and jeggings, drop earrings and necklace to match - I'll be 78 shortly, age is only a number!!!

Ladies such great tips and some laughs too on this thread. Special thanks to MissA and Maw for those!
Great advice about the white thick eyebrows from Carolpaint I always snip mine down & put on a tiny bit of brown (not black, too harsh) eyebrow tint.
Fabulous comments from Gabriella54 and I loved the ‘let’s get you red carpet ready’! I was excited to read on.

I think some days we look in a mirror and think ‘old dear’ and others ‘hmm not too shabby lady!’. Depends a bit on how we are feeling too.

Next time you get asked your age OP add a few years one and wait for exclamations of ‘wow you don’t look it!’. Hopefully. ??

Love it Miss A!

My Mum always looked elegant , she was eighty two when my younger son married, The picture of proud Nan with the bride and groom is amazing, She was very fit, petite, never wore make up but had lovely skin, always had her hair done every week, was always shopping for clothes but never looked like'mutton dressed as lamb!' She always ate healthy, lot of chicken, fish, vegetables and fruit. Definitely NO beef (Mad Cow!!)

I remember taking her to a hospital appointment when she was ninety. The consultant advised that she used a stick to walk with. She told him in no uncertain terms that he was not turning her into an old woman! She lived to the ripe old age of ninety five.

I go for comfort, can no longer wear heels due to a foot problem but can't wear flats either so it is usually wedges.

Sounds we could all do with a bit of sunshine!

Ksing I know JUST what you mean! Aaaargh! Tell me it's not true!

Inishowen you have my complete and sincere sympathy. Since September I too have had what has been diagnosed as frozen shoulder/tendinitis/osteoarthritis in my right shoulder by various doctors and I feel I have aged five years . My sleep is disturbed, I exercise less because of the pain, so I have put on weight and I feel my balance has been affected so I stick to flat shoes - all very ageing. My joie de vivre has taken a rain check and I am pinning my hopes on a second cortisone injection this afternoon.
It is true that what you feel inside shows on the outside!
Wishing you well.

I will be 64 this year and haven't been able to wear high heels since I was pregnant with my son 44 years ago. I have found really nice boots and shoes in the wider foot fitting ranges that are not frumpy even though they have hardly any heels. I finally decided to stop colouring my hair at Christmas and have had it cut short so the grey/white can grow through quickly, I was surprised there was actually less grey/white than I thought, I do like my hairstyle when the hairdresser does it but have always found having short hair a faddle so I will probably grow it out into an ear length bob instead. What I have noticed is that my love of dark blue clothing will have to change, it does drain any colour now my hair isn't dyed, looking at soft blues and pinks and even reds now!

Sometimes we need a bit of a makeover. I can’t wear heels anymore. Have some lovely nike trainers I wear with my leggings and long tops. My gd said I am cool.
You just need to go through your wardrobe and have a rummage or a clear out from time to time.
I have low heeled boots and flat shoes you can always find something to go with them.
I found an online magazine called country wives and it’s very helpful with styles, colours and what’s right for your shape. Just go fir it.

I never wear anything on my skin other than untinted moisturiser with SPF 20 and at most, a light coat of mascara.
My hair and skin are my best assets and my hairdresser is a pearl.
I only wash my hair every two weeks but I brush it three or four times a day with my Mason Pearson boar bristle brush with my head upside down.
Because I don't use any product on it beyond shampoo and hair masque, it retains it's bounce and fullness.
As for clothes, I'm flat tummied so I can wear tops tucked in and belted although the trend is to only tuck in a portion which I copy.
No Hotter or Clarks or tunics for me.

I'm feeling old and beige at the moment. (I'm 66) I have suffered with a frozen shoulder since last summer. I also have bouts of vertigo so I've lost my zest. The sore shoulder stops me sleeping well. I've let my hair fade to grey, my eyebrows are all over the place, and the facial hair needs removing. I think this post is the kick up the bum I need. I have a hair dye to hand, maybe I'll use it today. An appointment with the beauty salon would sort out the rest.

Agreed Hollydoilly10 but if the wrapping doesn't look appealing you're not too excited to look any further. It's a fact of life.

Don’t do as I have! Bought a 10 x magnification mirror! Enough said! ???

it's not the wrapping paper that defines us but the present inside.

MissA
You always have a witty observation. Makes me laugh out loud. Thanks.

1mm6
Right. Let's get you red carpet ready.
1) Plan a visit to a good modern hairdressers and make it clear when you ring that you only want a discussion/colour consultation at first.
2) When you do go, explain about the lack of fullness and that you want a style which will be easy to maintain and purse friendly colourwise.
3) Clothes. How about boots or shoes with a very small wedge heel? Go to a store where you can try on plenty of styles and walk up and down in them a few times to see which heel height suits you. A small block heel, about 1.5" might make you feel more dressy and they aren't wobbly like stilettos.
It depends on your figure and taste in clothes but in this weather, thick tights come in many colours and plain black leather block heels would look fine with any colour tights...or trousers.
I find the majority of M&S trousers far too thick but they have some nice dresses up to size 20/22.
I wouldn't be seen dead in anything frumpy so you can be assured that they have good day dresses that are knee length or midi (a few inches below) which are very on trend this year. Most of their clothes come in short, regular or long. I was in M&S yesterday buying two blouses and picking up an online chinos order. Well made and great colours.
Having your hair done sets the scene for other changes. You'll feel more alive and open to try new styles and colours of clothes that you may not have previously considered.
Take your daughter (if you have one) or a young friend and ask for their really honest opinion. You can have a fun outing and lunch or tea afterwards.
Here's to a new you for a new year.
Lots of luck and do let us know how you get on. We like good news stories on GN.

I check my face every day in a mirror I keep on the window sill. If I see any hairs on my face or coming out of my nose I pluck them out with tweezers.

Not barmey or old at all then!

Jalima1108 Wed 06-Feb-19 22:35:03
Luckygirl - my post above was in response to Chewbacca, not yours!
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Please whoever you are do not pull your white eyebrows out, they do not grow back again.
I only pull out the white ones, there are plenty of dark ones left too (thank goodness) Carolpaint - but a timely warning as I had a friend who plucked out her eyebrows many years ago and they never grew back.

A good haircut is a start, I think, and having a helpful hairdresser who can advise you. For years I have wanted a bob but it suits neither my hair nor me although looks fabulous on other women, so I have finally given up the struggle.

I have not dyed my hair since I was 55 and I I now have a head of lovely white hair cut in a short spiky style. I don't wear heels, usually a pair of flat red boots from some french company. Skinny jeans or trousers and a long jumper and I top it all with a bobble hat to complete the style. I have a facial wax and eyebrow tidy up once a month with my eyebrows being dyed now and again. A spot of lips is all the makeup I wear and plenty of fresh air to keep my skin looking good.

I find not wearing my glasses when I look in the mirror is a great help.

I bought some Senspar shampoo and conditioner from Waitrose it’s made a big difference to my fluffy hair, no need to use hair oil after washing now. MissA so funny. Only do legs in the warm weather and love comfy shoes - crocs today

I meant argan oil.

I agree with the posters who say ‘look the best you can’ rather than strive to look young.
Otherwise relax about it ( unless you are really unhappy with the way you look.)
Experimenting with colours you don’t usually go for would be a start.

Always wear colour. Use moisturiser. Wear jewellery. Think younger. Wear classic clothes.
I am interested in using Arian oil on hair though as been having problems with my short hair.
I buy Quaker jeans. Brilliant.