Funeral coat?

I have a funeral coat too. Like you maw I didn’t want black as many people say no black these days. I have a dark grey and light grey mix wool coat in which I always feel smart. Plus like you, a bright scarf and gloves if required.

MawB Your coat choice will look so good with the red trimmings such a good choice.
As you know I have just lost my darling husband and decided to wear my "go to" long black coat which I have had for a while it is ankle length with faux fur trim I brightened it up with a pillar box red scarf and red handbag (the colours of his football team) grey was very prominent with the people who attended as I think quite a lot of people do not have a black coat/suit just for this occasion now.

I have a dark purple funnel neck wool coat that I wear to funerals the last one I wore a knee length black skirt and black polo neck jumper under it, my husband still wears a dark suit and black tie,we've had two at the start of the year ,hopefully no more for the rest of it

I have just worn my normal winter coat which is very similar in style to yours Maw except it’s smooth grey wool, with a dark dress or black skirt and cardigan underneath. I do have a black suit that I’d wear in warmer weather.

I don’t think people expect mourners to wear black coats these days. I’d respect someone’s wishes that black wasn’t worn, but I’d still wear something in muted tones and wouldn’t feel comfortable in anything bright.

Last funeral I went people were wearing just normal stuff.

I have a funeral coat it's a black Cape with a fur collar and it's made by Jaegar. My grandmother gave it to me 35yrs ago and I have only used it for funerals. I wore it for her funeral too along with her most glamorous hat. She was 96 when she died. She was 39 when I was born and she became a grandmother. We had our ups and downs over the years mainly about my fashion sense ha ha which is why she gave me the coat. I miss her.

Just bought a lovely warm coat to wear at two funerals. Dark green/ navy tartan, three quarter length, currently on sale at Joules.
I'll wear it with a navy wool dress and thick tights.

I have a funeral outfit because I really only wear bright colours in everyday life. So I have one “sober”set of clothes. They sit at the far end of the wardrobe and I hate them.

Having said that I wish we stuck to the convention of black or grey. Over the last few years Ive been asked to wear pink, yellow and multicolours, a fancy hat and a football shirt and while I did follow those wishes I always felt really awkward in case nobody else did.

When a colleague died last year , the family asked us to wear the clothes we would normally wear to work. I did, and wore a plain light jacket ( it was a warm spring day)but practically everyone one wore black or something dark.

I do have a long black funnel neck wool jacket I wear if it’s cold for a funeral. Otherwise I wear whatever is specified by the family.

No no no I can’t bear funeral clothes and have never owned any I always go smartly dressed in colours that aren’t too bright
I have left strict instructions that I want only bright colours at my funeral my daughter always says I know you want a rainbow funeral but I don’t want any special items just bright everyday clothes I hate the black somber clothes
I m going to a young person funeral on Monday and will be wearing my normal clothes

I have a old, but smart, black coat that always feels good to wear and a maroon and blue short cape type thing.

I love your coat maw and it looks as though it be useful on other occasions too.

Personally don’t like to see people turning up in any old clothes at a funeral. You don’t have to be in sombre black, but sometimes folk just wear tatty jeans and a tee shirt. There’s casual, and casual.

I have my old faithful purple wool coat, though when I first bought it 30 years ago, it wasn't meant/ intended for funerals, I just loved the colour and style, hence it's still as good as when I first bought it because it's only ever worn for funerals.

If I ever wore it " normally " people would think I was off to a funeral, so it's just stayed in my wardrobe, virtually unworn.

No never casual calandergirl I would never disrespect I wear smart clothes just not black

I have three black coats and several black jackets. I wear a black coat or jacket most days except in summer so I do wear a black coat or jacket to funerals.

In my immediate family it is the custom to wear black, with hats for the women. All the men wear black or dark grey suits and black ties. At a recent funeral in France we were surprised to see young people in jeans- even our teenagers wore black. Someone from the French family complimented “les anglais” for our sense of style! I haven’t got a black warm coat any more, just a summer coat. I won’t buy one - it seems like tempting fate! All families have their own traditions. Mine is mostly Catholic, and our funerals are quite somber affairs: very much a rite of passage. Our custom is to sing the “De profundís” in Latin.
Your coat looks nice, Maw, and versatile.

How strange! Nobody gives a toss about what anyone is wearing at a funeral surely (unless it is completely inappropriate).
I was at a funeral last week and I cannot remember what one person was wearing.
It really isn't about you. Is it?

It really isn't about you. Is it?
Of course it’s not esspee, that’s why you should wear something sombre and appropriate, so as not to draw attention to yourself.
So you don’t stick out as ‘that woman’ who wore the bright orange jacket and the yellow trousers, or the off the shoulder dress, when everyone else was covered up in black, grey or navy.

I've got a navy coat which I've worn to a few funerals but it is not exclusively for that. The last couple of funerals I attended were in the summer so I wore a dark dress which has become my funeral dress as my other summer clothes would be too bright.
OH went to the funeral of a former colleague recently and only he, and two other men, at the well attended service wore black ties.

Esspee, no it isn’t about you, it’s about the bereaved family. All families are different, and it depends what each family thinks shows respect- in my case, it means wearing black or dark grey.

Esspee

You don’t have to wear black or dress up as such, but as I posted previously, I have been to funerals where some look plain scruffy. So yes, some of us do give a toss what is worn at funerals, and I certainly notice if they look rough.
If that makes me a snob, so be it.
I think a funeral is an occasion when respect should be shown in how one dresses,

Good post calendargirl and doramarr. I agree!! Xx

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