Is it just me?

Of course. (It’s what we mum’s do) . Fingers crossed though.

Puzzler61

What a generous gift Whitewave.
I’m sure your DD will love it (I know mine would) and so will you if she asks you to go with her. ?
Along with the chance for relaxation it will be a super day for you ‘Girls’ to be together. ?

That’s what I’m hoping?? I shall be very gracious if she asks someone else though????

I've saved so much money doing my own colouring and not having my nails done. I think I would begrudge spending the money now.

What a generous gift Whitewave.
I’m sure your DD will love it (I know mine would) and so will you if she asks you to go with her. ?
Along with the chance for relaxation it will be a super day for you ‘Girls’ to be together. ?

Oh dear! My DD is 50 in the summer and as part of her birthday treats I have given her a spa day with her choice of treatments at a smart hotel in the Sussex countryside. I have given her a ticket for 2 and hoping she will ask me to accompany her.

I went on a short spa break not long after my breast cancer operation and it was wonderful. I benefited from the pampering and relaxation so much and would highly recommend it.

I do wish people would stop being so holier than thou over this whole topic Why are you so uncomfortable about someone choosing to luxuriate in physical pleasures? Is it a hangover of Victorian prudery? Anyone who enjoys being touched and massaged must have low morals? No, I do not enjoy massages, but I fully understand why others do.

We (DH, DD and I) love spa days. The spas with swimming pools, jacuzzis, hot rooms, cold rooms, saunas, showers. We all love water play as much as any toddler and 2 or 3 times a year that is where we go, with lunch included, we have a great time and w are so relaxed at theend of it all

Presumably paying thousands of pounds to go on cruises or luxury holidays or buy a new car or whatever rocks your boat is OK. It is indulging in the pleasures of the flesh that causes this moral outrage.

I once received a beauty voucher for a birthday gift ( what were they trying to tell me ?) I hate being touched but chose the least intrusive treatment - eye brow waxing and a manicure . It took 6 visits to use up the voucher and every time I had to take anti histamines after and my home manicure was better than the professional one ! Pure torture and a waste of money .

I'm with OP, Pittcity and others. Apart from a haircut, I don't want any of those things and never did. I think so much of it is just a fad which reminds me of school fads. They persuade themselves that they 'must' have something because 'everyone' else has it. I can't stand the cult of narcissism which has swept the developed world. I can't remember women of my mother's generation being desperate for a 'spa day'. However, if people want to spend their money on those things, let them do it. They are putting money into circulation, and that's a good thing. The economy needs them to spend their cash.

I have my hair done once every 6 weeks (usually) . That’s all.
Apart from the expense I really couldn’t be bothered to sit there being pampered. I have better things to do. Each to their own!

MOnica
You put that so nicely. I’m afraid my own thoughts on posters responses are a lot more blunt ?
My mother was the first person to pluck my eyebrows and dye my hair.

I don't bother with having my nails done (probably because I break them when doing DIY!) but I do like having my eyebrows threaded and every so often my whole face threaded. I actually find it very relaxing, I must be odd! It's not an extravagance, it saves me time trying to pluck eyebrows myself and looks a lot better.

Nanna58. I agree with you I also think it reflects moral standards from a previous age, Victorian, or even a strong Puritan ethic, that somehow lingers on.

I remember a verse from childhood
Little bits of powder, little bits of paint, make a pretty lady look like what she ain't I feel there is tinge of that feeling that in the OP.

I understand that my paternal grandmother hinted to my father that as my mother wore make-up and enjoyed going the plays of Noel Coward, she was, as the phrase went then no better than she ought to be

The suggestion that if you indulge in anything that us physically indulgent, you are somehow morally suspect.

If it makes you feel good and you can afford it why not? I don’t mind admitting that I enjoy facials , pedicures and manicures and the improvement is certainly welcome. I often think there is a certain kind of woman who feels they are above a little improving and rubbish those who do indulge.

Each to their own. I am not interested in any of those things and just want a decent hair cut and they just wet it and cut it and that is that. But as I have a very bad back my great pleasure would be a good massage by a well qualified masseur with lovely essential oils. My other thing I would love is to spend time in a hot tub. I first used them in Iceland sat on the roof of a hotel with a great view of the snowy hills but it was lovely. I am unable to walk much at all and so doing either of these and then being able to go somewhere quiet and look out at woods and flowers . Bliss

Whatever makes you feel happy.

Ooh Puzzler61 that sounds lovely. I do envy you.

Nothing unusual for me, I've never had any of these things either and I don't feel like I'm missing something. I just don't want to spend my time on it but if that's what helps people feel better about themselves, then let it be. Some enjoy body massages or pedicures, some enjoy Photodiva edits where they have much less wrinkles, some enjoy jogging- everyone is different and if there is something that makes one feel confident then it's right for them and others just have something else.

I had my feet treated yesterday by a podiatrist.
Happy corn-free feet for Easter! I had a warm wax melt on them too as they were so dry after being in socks all winter.
I call it “maintenance” and it was well worth the money.

I don't think you are alone in thinking that. Society has changed in the last 10 - 15 years and made these treatments that once only the rich could have indulged more affordable for 'ordinary folk'.

As a young adult I never had a manicure or pedicure, nor did I know anyone who did. It wasn't a part of our social set. Now we have more available and affordable options, and I admit to having more disposable income.

Saying that, it's just not my habit. I will indulge once or twice a year for mani or pedi, and have never had a facial. I do go occasionally for a massage, but more for the medical benefit than pleasure.

If something makes you feel good, and you can afford it, then go ahead and enjoy.

I love anything like that....its not a priority for me but summer time i usually have pedicures and i love a massage, gets all my knots out LOL...
Hair is a priority though....my first appt is 16th April lol.

I have always done self maintenance but now I am older I like a treat. When 40 I joined a gym and damaged my back quite badly in the induction. Ended up hardly able to walk with bad sciatica so was recommended to an osteopath off Harley Street. 40 minutes later was pain free. Continued with some maintenance massages for a while and found it so relaxing I almost fell asleep. Two friends treated me to a facial, one in Middlesex and one in Spain. Not my scene before, but it was fabulous. Broke my shoulder and arm on the same day. Surgeon gave me the go ahead to continue with booked holiday to Rhodes. Couldn't paint toe nails, or more importantly cut them, so had my first pedicure. Was dreading the whole posh procedure but it was wonderful. Definitely worth giving it a go. I am not keen on strangers touching me, but would I refuse a paramedic? No.

Years ago I did once have my eyebrows plucked. It was so painful that I never went back.
I quite fancy a spa day but doubt it will be possible now.

Of we can afford it and it makes us feel good, why shouldn't indulge now and again. Just because we don't fancy what someone else chooses to do, doesn't give us the right to be dismissive or critical. I don't do spas or treatments but if we are flying long haul-I wish- we'll upgrade to Premium Economy. In Lockdown my indulgence was to buy beautiful yarn and crochet lovely throws and blankets that I didn't need but really enjoyed making. Does OP have any indulgences?? I wish she'd reply to comments.

I don’t indulge in these things either but it is what ever makes you feel good about yourself that matters. I was given a spa pampering day as a present and went along with my DD. It was not for me and I spent the time thinking about what I could have been doing! It was nice to spend the day with my DD (she didn’t give me the gift I might add). I am very much an outdoor person, gardening, horses and dogs- this is my kind of indulgence.

As many have said, it’s not for me. I even hate haircuts. But we should be allowed to spend our money on what we enjoy without being judged, be it on clothes, trips out, holidays, meals out, decorating our homes; so many things could be classed as self indulgent as they are not essential to life. That’s how we live now.