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Do you care? Too much ? Too little ?

(110 Posts)
Lucca Wed 25-Aug-21 12:48:42

I know this is controversial but I’m always surprised when people say they don’t care what they look like. I’m not obsessive by any means but I do care what I wear - not for others, just for myself.

GagaJo Wed 25-Aug-21 17:20:21

I don't care. I make an effort to put make up on daily and cover the grey roots that frame my face for my 'on-camera' lessons.

Other that that, I genuinely DGAF. I don't care what others think.

Juliet27 Wed 25-Aug-21 17:19:17

What I do wish though is that I’d appreciated that I did look good when I was younger as I was always so critical of myself.

Same here Maybee

Sara1954 Wed 25-Aug-21 17:13:17

I care, I care about clothes, but not fashion, I hope people don’t think I look awful, but I dress for myself, not for them.
Some of my clothes I’ve had a very long time, but that’s fine.
Hair, coloured monthly, minimum makeup, and very little jewellery, lots of scarves, I love scarves.
I don’t think I’ll ever lose interest in how I look.

TillyTrotter Wed 25-Aug-21 16:39:35

I do care, because I look in the mirror every day when dressed to check I’m neat and tidy - but I probably don’t look in one again for the rest of the day.
I can brush my straight hair without the need for a mirror.

Ealdemodor Wed 25-Aug-21 16:39:29

It does matter to me how I look, and affects my mood.
Actually, I’m so vain I probably think this song is about me.

Curlywhirly Wed 25-Aug-21 16:37:53

Yes I do care, but not fanatical. I don't go out without some makeup on (eyes and lips and a bit of blusher). Wouldn't dream of going out in a tracksuit or jogging bottoms (unless I was doing some kind of sport!). Wear perfume every day, even if I am not leaving the house. I think working in an office all my working life has something to do with liking smart clothes; I don't really do leggings I prefer jeans, which is about as casual as I get.

grannyrebel7 Wed 25-Aug-21 16:34:33

I wish I didn't care but I do. I always want to look nice even if I'm not going anywhere. Recently my itchy eyes have been so bad I haven't been able to wear any make up which I hate. How can I have become allergic to eye make when I've been wearing it since I was about 14?

rafichagran Wed 25-Aug-21 16:32:53

I dont care obsessively, two showers a day, moisturiser, lipstick and ironed clothes that l feel I look good in. After that I dont give it a thought.
I dont like it when people say they dont care what they look like, I know someone who said this and I am afraid he did smell. He admitted he was lazy, but unfortunately this had an affect on other people as it was not pleasant.

hollysteers Wed 25-Aug-21 16:22:39

I’m rather all or nothing, at home and no visitors just a kaftan at the moment and a slick of red lipstick, but going out, especially in the evening, I like the full works and find it therapeutic. I love anything to do with fashion.
Now more meetings are happening, I’m enjoying dressing up again. I’d practically forgotten my usual routine.
I would say someone like the Queen and Princess Anne in a way don’t care what they look like, the clothes are a uniform and they are not interested in fashion, they just want to look correct, as opposed to say Princess Diana.
We are all different.

Baggs Wed 25-Aug-21 16:20:11

By which I mean one doesn't have to look smart to look good. Having your own style regardless of trendiness and passing fashions is something to aim for I've always thought.

Baggs Wed 25-Aug-21 16:17:48

Scruffy can look good..

Aldom Wed 25-Aug-21 16:17:45

I was once sitting in the waiting area at the hairdresser. I was quietly admiring the woman seated next to me. Her clothes were obviously expensive, she was elegant, just so beautifully turned out. As I was thinking this, she turned to me and said, 'I feel such a mess. I only wear these old clothes to come to the hairdresser.' I was speechless.

luluaugust Wed 25-Aug-21 16:17:02

I do care and like to be colour co ordinated. After catching a sight of myself in a shop mirror yesterday I am off for a cut and blow dry tomorrow. I had been thinking my longer hair looked really good but now I know it doesn't. Must get back to wearing my necklaces.

Jaxjacky Wed 25-Aug-21 16:17:00

I care enough that I’m clean and tidy, I’m fortunate with easy hair, I wear a gold chain, wedding, eternity, keeper rings and a watch. If I started to wear more jewellery, make up, matching accessories or other ‘extras’ both MrJ, friends and family would be bewildered, I’ve never done so and won’t start now.

JaneJudge Wed 25-Aug-21 16:15:58

I think because of lockdown and self isolation etc I have made less of an effort but I had to go out today and see other people and I put on a new dress and make up shock and my husband asked me if I had a boyfriend grin (as a joke obviously)
I have stopped dyeing my hair though and I am not as grey as I thought I was so I don't really know what to do now....carry on getting highlights? home dye? leave natural?

Sago Wed 25-Aug-21 16:10:38

If I am scruffy I feel despondent, I need to look good to feel good.

crazyH Wed 25-Aug-21 16:03:19

I’ve just been to the corner shop with my greasy hair , in my old leggings and a dab of lipstick. I always find, lipstick gives me a boost…..

aonk Wed 25-Aug-21 15:56:41

I agree with Fanny too. We all have problems with how we look especially as we grow older. I try to look my best given the limitations of my figure and my age. I like to wear make up and a little jewellery and flattering colours. If you sort out your nails, hair, make up and teeth you can make the best of yourself and keep up your morale.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 25-Aug-21 15:50:56

I’m with you Fanny, apart from the jewellery which other than earrings and wedding ring I rarely wear (all in the Bank dontcha know!).

FannyCornforth Wed 25-Aug-21 15:22:26

I definitely care.
But about specific things.
For instance, I’m overweight, but that doesn’t particularly bother me as there’s not a great deal that I can do about it.
But I do care about my hair, face, hands, accessories, jewellery.
All the things that I’ve got some control over.
I’m also a firm believer in making the most of what you’ve got.

Esspee Wed 25-Aug-21 15:17:14

I look very scruffy when gardening or sailing but otherwise I try to look smart. I never wear make up (maybe lipstick on a rare occasion) or paint my nails but thankfully I have nice hair and great looking feet.?
During lockdown I went through my wardrobe wearing and washing everything in turn. It meant that on the odd occasion the doorbell rang I opened the door in anything from shorts to evening dress. The postman had a good laugh.

Mollygo Wed 25-Aug-21 14:37:46

I do care. I like to be colour coordinated, even with casual clothes (almost anything looks good with jeans) and white shirts or T-shirts look good with most colours.

Kate1949 Wed 25-Aug-21 14:34:16

I care. Nature hasn't been kind the last few years but I keep battling on!

Lucca Wed 25-Aug-21 14:26:42

Galaxy you wouldn’t go out in your tavbit slippers though would you ?

nanaK54 Wed 25-Aug-21 13:54:42

Yes, I care about my appearance, might only run to being clean and tidy, I will certainly never be any sort of 'style icon'
Today I have swapped the cardi that I wore to go out this morning for a fairly awful old long cardigan which is so comfortable!