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Do you dress like your mum did at your age?

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Yammy Wed 26-Jan-22 10:47:15

Yesterday's discussion about the colour purple set me thinking.
I compared myself to the way my mother dressed at my age.
Mum never owned a pair of Denims, never wore trousers until in a care home. Elasticated waist skirts which I probably would find more comfortable.
Minimum makeup lipstick and powder and Nivea cream. Sunday best clothes and wouldn't have entertained a pair of trainers or a fleece. Shoes always had a strap over them.
A visit to the hairdressers every Friday morning for a shampoo and set. No trends in specs and teeth had often completely gone in their 50's. Handbags were just that no shoulder bags.
I think I might have slipped into the comfort zone in the last two years but that includes denims and cords, tunics and trainers.
I watch fashion and makeup trends and with DD's aid try to move with the times. Chubby sticks for eyes and lips have appeared along with an eyebrow enhancer and a subtle blusher, not good old Max factor cream puff.
How about you?

Oldernewgranny Thu 27-Jan-22 12:19:09

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Flakesdayout Thu 27-Jan-22 12:18:32

No I do not dress like my mum. She would always wear dresses and skirts with blouses and a cardigan if it was chilly. Tights everyday even when she discovered trousers. Then there was the panty girdle until she got a lot older. Hair was always the same style and a weekly wash and set on a Friday at the hairdressers. Perm every 6 months or so and a colour. Make up was Max Factor cream puff and she did introduce me to pan stick! He lipstick was always red. No mascara. She was always clean and well presented. Dementia changed that and her hair grew straight and a lovely shade of white/grey and trousers and blouses became her daily preference.
I myself, wear jeans, jeggings, jumpers or fleece tops and comfy footwear. I rarely wear a dress and never a skirt or a blouse.
Lovely thread

Alioop Thu 27-Jan-22 12:15:15

When my mum was my age she had permed grey hair, everything had an elasticated waist and the only thing she put on her face was Ponds cream. I always remember her wearing her floral apron when she was cleaning and cooking. She also loved her velcro wedge shoes as they were handy to get on and off.
I'm 55, have shoulder length red hair, put my makeup on every morning and definitely don't have my wee mum's fashion sense, well yet anyway. I'm just in from my dog walk, wearing my jeans and sweatshirt today with my trainers.

mimismo Thu 27-Jan-22 12:03:12

Definitely not. Mum never owned a pair of jeans for a start, and I practically live in them!grin

Lookout01 Thu 27-Jan-22 12:01:28

My mum always said 'galloping horses won't stop and look at me' hence the same old elasticated waist skirts, mostly crimpoline, never trousers, regular perms and shampoo and sets, ponds cold cream, creme puff face powder, red lipstick and just a pencil line for her eyebrows. Thankfully I have two daughters who would disown me if I ever dressed the same as my mum!

Magrithea Thu 27-Jan-22 11:52:40

My Mum, still going strong at 97, rarely wears trousers (Dad didn't like it and she still doesn't even though he's not here now), always nice jumpers/tops and skirts. A little make up, some foundation and lippy, and she likes perfume too.

I don't dress like she did when she was the age I am now - it's a generational thing to be smart when going out

Daisend1 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:51:12

I never dressed like my mother but then my mother like many of her generation wore shock a fur coat shock.

harrigran Thu 27-Jan-22 11:49:44

My mother never wore trousers, I wear jeans and leggings.
She wore matching dresses and coats and always wore a hat, she always wore high heeled shoes too in the belief it made your legs look shapely.
I could never be as smart as she was.

grandtanteJE65 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:38:03

From the 1970s until she died in 2002 my mother had a style of clothes that could best be described by the following very unpolitically correct statement: hippy meets gypsy. (Don't eat me, will you? I don't know what else to call it.)

Ankle-lenght flowing skirts - peasant blouses, espadrillos, frilly aprons, shawls etc.

If she wore make-up it was as long as I remember only lipstick and a dab of face powder. She was quite shocked when I came home from college wearing mascara and eye-shadow but no lipstick as fashion decreed in 1975.

As soon as I left home, I wore the mini-skirts, and corduroy or denim jeans my mother forbade. Later I chose a smarter style of skirts and blouses, suits etc. as I worked in places where this was expected.

I would never for a moment consider dressing like my mother - all her clothes went into the bin or to charity shops after her death - my sister didn't want them either.

My grandmothers - both born around 1880- wore what most "old"women did when we were children - brown, grey or dark blue dresses cut to conceal as far as possible the fact that neither lady had a waist at the time I knew them. Stockings even in the height of summer and neither went out without a hat on and a pair of gloves.

My paternal grandmother wore salmon pink corsets and underpants with legs that came down below her stocking tops. My maternal grandmother had discovered that bras were more comfortable, but I have absolutely no recollection of what kind of underpants she wore.

My paternal grandmother never wore make-up of any kind, my maternal one wore a light dusting of loose face-powder in very pale pink and pinkish-brown lipstick and real eau d' cologne - nothing conjurs her up as much as the smell of it.

Daddy's mother had a disdain of perfume - she held it was only used by those who were too slovenly to wash themselves properly every day. Coal tar soap come to mind when I remember her.

inishowen Thu 27-Jan-22 11:37:58

My mum died at 67 so never reached old age. She wore skirts with a blouse and cardigan. She also had a lot of dresses. She loved shoes and had quite trendy ones, also knee length boots. She dressed immaculately to go to the shops. Good coat and hat, matching handbag and shoes. Always used face powder and lipstick. I on the other hand wear jeans/trousers, trainers and sweaters or tee shirts.

henetha Thu 27-Jan-22 11:36:08

No. She wore boned corsets. And never went out without a hat.

jaylucy Thu 27-Jan-22 11:35:34

My mum was very much a blouse and skirt person or jumper and skirt person (so much that when she dies, there was enough lightweight jumpers unworn in her wardrobe that we could have re- opened BHS!). I only remember her having one pair of trousers after she joined a local slimming club and got down to a size 14 that she thought was an acceptable size to be wearing them !
I'm a size 20 and I can't remember the last time I wore a skirt (probably when my son was small and it was more practical) . There is such a range of styles in trousers that that one style will suit, rather than one style fits all back then.
If there is a similarity it's that we both prefer separates, Dresses are for occasions in my book and my mum felt the same!

Operalover Thu 27-Jan-22 11:34:52

My mother died aged 37 , I was 5 years old so never had an idea of her sense of style. I am now 69 and wear what I like although draw the line at crop tops and throw away fashion. I shop mainly high street but go for brands I love.

Lulubelle500 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:34:25

No, I don't. At my age now my mum, in fact everyone's mum, was an old lady. She would never have wandered around in blue jeans and tee shirts in winter and shorts and bikini tops in summer. Got to say though my darling mother was comfortably plump and Nanny like! Lottie Burke when I was young and Pilates now maintain the status quo weightwise for me and I inherited my dad's old age hair - just a few grey streaks.

Lulu16 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:31:42

My Mum is 96 now and still looks lovely. She has passed on to me her love of colour, jewellery and fabrics.
She was married in rationing times, the only outfit she liked was a cherry red suit!
Her passion was dressmaking and she made many clothes. She really had a good eye for style. I used to love the different materials and her button box!
I like clothes too, but am a bit clumsy at sewing. Even in lockdown I wore dresses and I'm always buying strings of beads in charity shops. So I suppose we are both the same.

Milest0ne Thu 27-Jan-22 11:29:54

I fell for my husband at Judo club

Purplepixie Thu 27-Jan-22 11:29:09

No. My mam was 42 when she had me and never wore trousers and certainly not jeans. I live in jeans, t-shirts and sweaters. Mam had her hair permed and dyed while mine is long, straight and never been dyed. Mam also wore costumes (jacket and skirts) a lot of the time. She also had some lovely dresses when I was at school. Looking back she had a lovely nipped in waist and hour glass figure. Mine - well, lets not go into that one. I am the opposite in all ways to her but she was a wonderful lady and I miss her like mad.

Rileysnana Thu 27-Jan-22 11:28:30

Mum wore very similar clothes to me. Her outfit of choice would be jeans and a checked shirt. She very rarely wore skirts or dresses. In her last year's after getting dementia we opted for a lovely range of lounge wear for her. She had a beauty and poise that lasted until she passed away.

Milest0ne Thu 27-Jan-22 11:27:53

AGAA4 Sounds like me and my mum. My grandmother made me swear on the bible that I wouldn't wear makeup. ( I do when going out somewhere special)
My mother never wore trousers. I wear them all the time.

Buffy Thu 27-Jan-22 11:22:43

I suppose that unconsciously I do dress a bit like my mother did at my age. My confidence in dressing was completely wrecked when I was only 48 and our cheeky handyman kept telling me I should ‘dress my age.’ Looking back, 48 was quite young and I never dressed outrageously anyway, but it made me very conscious of hem heights etc.,so since then I’ve been a very dowdy dresser.

Nannashirlz Thu 27-Jan-22 11:11:22

I’ve had to start buying elastic trousers because got arthritis in both hips. I wear what’s comfortable but I always wear makeup and look after my long hair. I Follow fashion and pick what I like to wear. But it’s not what is in fashion it’s what style suits you and mix and matching bits. My mother was always buying clothes when she was here.

Moggycuddler Thu 27-Jan-22 11:10:52

I wear jeans or leisure pants (at home) or long gypsy type skirts. And t-shirts. And vest tops in summer. And whatever I feel like, with no thoughts as to age. (Though not short skirts!) I'm 65 and often wear similar clothes to my 37 year old daughter. My mum always seemed to look "old" with a pinny on, or a headscarf or even a hairnet, in my youth. And shapeless dresses. Hair always in an old lady's perm. Of course, all the other neighbours and rellies of her age looked much the same then. And when I realise that she was actually only in her 40s with the hairnets and shapeless dresses etc, it makes me think how times have changed.

kimimiles Thu 27-Jan-22 11:10:02

Thanks for this interesting information!

Witzend Thu 27-Jan-22 11:09:26

Although she was reasonably stylish and fashion conscious, my mother always insisted that you ‘couldn’t’ wear any sort of heels with trousers. Not even with a smart trouser suit.

This was because she’d read some fashion writer’s edict on this - in the pre war 1930s!
Of course it was no earthy use arguing.

Sharina Thu 27-Jan-22 11:05:14

My mum did her best with a limited income. She was always small and neat. Definitely more relaxed in fashion, but very smart when the occasion called for it. Scrubbed up well. Me? I live in cut off trousers and Fitflops!