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Do you dress like your mum did at your age?

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Yammy Wed 26-Jan-22 10:47:15

Yesterday's discussion about the colour purple set me thinking.
I compared myself to the way my mother dressed at my age.
Mum never owned a pair of Denims, never wore trousers until in a care home. Elasticated waist skirts which I probably would find more comfortable.
Minimum makeup lipstick and powder and Nivea cream. Sunday best clothes and wouldn't have entertained a pair of trainers or a fleece. Shoes always had a strap over them.
A visit to the hairdressers every Friday morning for a shampoo and set. No trends in specs and teeth had often completely gone in their 50's. Handbags were just that no shoulder bags.
I think I might have slipped into the comfort zone in the last two years but that includes denims and cords, tunics and trainers.
I watch fashion and makeup trends and with DD's aid try to move with the times. Chubby sticks for eyes and lips have appeared along with an eyebrow enhancer and a subtle blusher, not good old Max factor cream puff.
How about you?

Purplepixie Thu 27-Jan-22 11:29:09

No. My mam was 42 when she had me and never wore trousers and certainly not jeans. I live in jeans, t-shirts and sweaters. Mam had her hair permed and dyed while mine is long, straight and never been dyed. Mam also wore costumes (jacket and skirts) a lot of the time. She also had some lovely dresses when I was at school. Looking back she had a lovely nipped in waist and hour glass figure. Mine - well, lets not go into that one. I am the opposite in all ways to her but she was a wonderful lady and I miss her like mad.

Milest0ne Thu 27-Jan-22 11:29:54

I fell for my husband at Judo club

Lulu16 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:31:42

My Mum is 96 now and still looks lovely. She has passed on to me her love of colour, jewellery and fabrics.
She was married in rationing times, the only outfit she liked was a cherry red suit!
Her passion was dressmaking and she made many clothes. She really had a good eye for style. I used to love the different materials and her button box!
I like clothes too, but am a bit clumsy at sewing. Even in lockdown I wore dresses and I'm always buying strings of beads in charity shops. So I suppose we are both the same.

Lulubelle500 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:34:25

No, I don't. At my age now my mum, in fact everyone's mum, was an old lady. She would never have wandered around in blue jeans and tee shirts in winter and shorts and bikini tops in summer. Got to say though my darling mother was comfortably plump and Nanny like! Lottie Burke when I was young and Pilates now maintain the status quo weightwise for me and I inherited my dad's old age hair - just a few grey streaks.

Operalover Thu 27-Jan-22 11:34:52

My mother died aged 37 , I was 5 years old so never had an idea of her sense of style. I am now 69 and wear what I like although draw the line at crop tops and throw away fashion. I shop mainly high street but go for brands I love.

jaylucy Thu 27-Jan-22 11:35:34

My mum was very much a blouse and skirt person or jumper and skirt person (so much that when she dies, there was enough lightweight jumpers unworn in her wardrobe that we could have re- opened BHS!). I only remember her having one pair of trousers after she joined a local slimming club and got down to a size 14 that she thought was an acceptable size to be wearing them !
I'm a size 20 and I can't remember the last time I wore a skirt (probably when my son was small and it was more practical) . There is such a range of styles in trousers that that one style will suit, rather than one style fits all back then.
If there is a similarity it's that we both prefer separates, Dresses are for occasions in my book and my mum felt the same!

henetha Thu 27-Jan-22 11:36:08

No. She wore boned corsets. And never went out without a hat.

inishowen Thu 27-Jan-22 11:37:58

My mum died at 67 so never reached old age. She wore skirts with a blouse and cardigan. She also had a lot of dresses. She loved shoes and had quite trendy ones, also knee length boots. She dressed immaculately to go to the shops. Good coat and hat, matching handbag and shoes. Always used face powder and lipstick. I on the other hand wear jeans/trousers, trainers and sweaters or tee shirts.

grandtanteJE65 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:38:03

From the 1970s until she died in 2002 my mother had a style of clothes that could best be described by the following very unpolitically correct statement: hippy meets gypsy. (Don't eat me, will you? I don't know what else to call it.)

Ankle-lenght flowing skirts - peasant blouses, espadrillos, frilly aprons, shawls etc.

If she wore make-up it was as long as I remember only lipstick and a dab of face powder. She was quite shocked when I came home from college wearing mascara and eye-shadow but no lipstick as fashion decreed in 1975.

As soon as I left home, I wore the mini-skirts, and corduroy or denim jeans my mother forbade. Later I chose a smarter style of skirts and blouses, suits etc. as I worked in places where this was expected.

I would never for a moment consider dressing like my mother - all her clothes went into the bin or to charity shops after her death - my sister didn't want them either.

My grandmothers - both born around 1880- wore what most "old"women did when we were children - brown, grey or dark blue dresses cut to conceal as far as possible the fact that neither lady had a waist at the time I knew them. Stockings even in the height of summer and neither went out without a hat on and a pair of gloves.

My paternal grandmother wore salmon pink corsets and underpants with legs that came down below her stocking tops. My maternal grandmother had discovered that bras were more comfortable, but I have absolutely no recollection of what kind of underpants she wore.

My paternal grandmother never wore make-up of any kind, my maternal one wore a light dusting of loose face-powder in very pale pink and pinkish-brown lipstick and real eau d' cologne - nothing conjurs her up as much as the smell of it.

Daddy's mother had a disdain of perfume - she held it was only used by those who were too slovenly to wash themselves properly every day. Coal tar soap come to mind when I remember her.

harrigran Thu 27-Jan-22 11:49:44

My mother never wore trousers, I wear jeans and leggings.
She wore matching dresses and coats and always wore a hat, she always wore high heeled shoes too in the belief it made your legs look shapely.
I could never be as smart as she was.

Daisend1 Thu 27-Jan-22 11:51:12

I never dressed like my mother but then my mother like many of her generation wore shock a fur coat shock.

Magrithea Thu 27-Jan-22 11:52:40

My Mum, still going strong at 97, rarely wears trousers (Dad didn't like it and she still doesn't even though he's not here now), always nice jumpers/tops and skirts. A little make up, some foundation and lippy, and she likes perfume too.

I don't dress like she did when she was the age I am now - it's a generational thing to be smart when going out

Lookout01 Thu 27-Jan-22 12:01:28

My mum always said 'galloping horses won't stop and look at me' hence the same old elasticated waist skirts, mostly crimpoline, never trousers, regular perms and shampoo and sets, ponds cold cream, creme puff face powder, red lipstick and just a pencil line for her eyebrows. Thankfully I have two daughters who would disown me if I ever dressed the same as my mum!

mimismo Thu 27-Jan-22 12:03:12

Definitely not. Mum never owned a pair of jeans for a start, and I practically live in them!grin

Alioop Thu 27-Jan-22 12:15:15

When my mum was my age she had permed grey hair, everything had an elasticated waist and the only thing she put on her face was Ponds cream. I always remember her wearing her floral apron when she was cleaning and cooking. She also loved her velcro wedge shoes as they were handy to get on and off.
I'm 55, have shoulder length red hair, put my makeup on every morning and definitely don't have my wee mum's fashion sense, well yet anyway. I'm just in from my dog walk, wearing my jeans and sweatshirt today with my trainers.

Flakesdayout Thu 27-Jan-22 12:18:32

No I do not dress like my mum. She would always wear dresses and skirts with blouses and a cardigan if it was chilly. Tights everyday even when she discovered trousers. Then there was the panty girdle until she got a lot older. Hair was always the same style and a weekly wash and set on a Friday at the hairdressers. Perm every 6 months or so and a colour. Make up was Max Factor cream puff and she did introduce me to pan stick! He lipstick was always red. No mascara. She was always clean and well presented. Dementia changed that and her hair grew straight and a lovely shade of white/grey and trousers and blouses became her daily preference.
I myself, wear jeans, jeggings, jumpers or fleece tops and comfy footwear. I rarely wear a dress and never a skirt or a blouse.
Lovely thread

Oldernewgranny Thu 27-Jan-22 12:19:09

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Lizzie44 Thu 27-Jan-22 12:21:25

My Mum (born in 1911) never wore trousers. It was always skirts or frocks (she never called them dresses). In the house she usually wore a wrap-around pinafore. Money was tight for her but if she needed to look smart she had what we would call a suit (skirt and jacket). In her day it was called a "costume". Colours were drab - olive green, mustard or "ni**er" brown. I won't type the word in full but it was commonly used in Mum's day. And she would have ni**er brown shoes to match.
I've never been interested in clothes or make-up. I wear trousers most of the time and don't enjoy having to get dressed up for social occasions etc. Despite the lack of a good maternal role model my DDs enjoy clothes and shopping. They both have style whether dressed smartly or casually. They used to suggest styles to me "(that would really suit you, Mum"), but soon realised I was a lost cause. They put it down to the fact that my Mum made me wear a "liberty bodice" until I was into my teens!

Kartush Thu 27-Jan-22 12:39:09

My mother shuffled around in track pants at my age (66) and was always hacking her hair off short, she had no teeth and refused to wear a bra, so no I definitely do not dress like her, I live in bright kaftans and leggings and my hair is waist length

GrammaH Thu 27-Jan-22 13:03:18

My mum was on old lady by the time she reached my age - 63. She wore tweed or tartan skirts & wool or cashmere jumpers & pearls. If it was morning, an apron completed the outfit. She had her hair set every week and a perm every few months. She had an enviable figure and had a magnificent set of teeth which rarely had a filling. She still had all her teeth and no need for glasses when she died at 91. As I type, I'm wearing scruffy jeans & a cable knit jumper & no bra as I have costochondritis and they're a torture to wear unless I'm going somewhere special. Mum of course always wore a bra and corsets! I've got the opposite kind of hair to her - mine is thick & hers was very fine. I have mine cut every 4 weeks in a choppy cut but, like hers at my age, it is grey. I never wear skirts, preferring dresses or jeans. I love dressing up to go out which we do quite frequently. Mum and dad weren't ones for going out so it was rare to see mum dressed up unless there was a wedding .

Stephania1954 Thu 27-Jan-22 13:05:52

My Mum born in 1929 wore elasticated waist polyester trousers from m&s ( always maroon for some reason) and thin jumpers in winter In summer she would wear shirt waisted dresses. She had loads of these dresses in delicate flowery patterns. And a corset oh dear I remember her buying me one when I was about 16 and reasonably skinny. Mine was like reinforced thick knickers. Never wore it, also never have worn a bra, another item she tried to get me into. Due to varicose veins Mum would always have her legs covered with thick crepe bandages. I haven’t inherited those thankfully. She had lots of old lady shoes, which strangely my daughter wanted when Mum died.
I wear jeans, joggers and dresses with leggings in winter with boots or trainers. In summer I live in shorts and t shirts with sandals and sometimes dresses.
Mum was always appalled by my dress sense.She wanted a very feminine girly daughter, I was definitely a tomboy.
I wear very similar clothes to my daughters and granddaughter. Although they all hate my sandals

AreWeThereYet Thu 27-Jan-22 13:07:51

Blimey, don't think my mother ever came out of the 50s, and not the glam 50s either. Even when I'm 90 I don't think I will ever dress like her. She has always been very plainly dressed, no make up, little jewellery. I think I'm almost her opposite.

Happysexagenarian Thu 27-Jan-22 13:11:44

The only style of dress that I have in common with my Mum is trousers, she wore them a lot (for warmth) and so do I (for comfort, and I'm lazy). But she never wore jeans - hated them, said they were common.

My Mum was the original 'beige woman,' always wearing drab, boring shades of brown and small discreet patterns. She liked her clothes to be neat and fitted and she always wanted to be inconspicuous and blend into the background, so she never wore bright colours or bold patterns, she thought they were tarty.

She never wore sleeveless tops or v-necks no matter how warm it was, and was horrified when I wore halter necks, mini skirts, hot pants and kaftans!

Mum always wore stockings, never tights.
I don't wear either.

Mum always wore a tight girdle and vest.
I definitely do not.

Mum never went to the hairdressers.
I go every 6 weeks.

Mum always wore a hat to go out.
I don't wear hats.

Mum wore makeup every day, powder, blusher and lipstick, but never eye makeup.
I don't wear any makeup.

Mum always wore stiletto heels, even at 85. I've never worn them - I saw what they did to her feet! She would buy shoes a size too small, if they didn't have her size, and 'break them in'. I only buy shoes that fit me properly and are comfortable. I once took her to be measured for handmade shoes. We collected them and she said they were very comfortable. But when she discovered the price she took them off and never wore them again - she didn't want to spoil them!

She always disapproved of the way I dressed and probably still would if she were around.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 27-Jan-22 13:16:30

Do I dress like my mum? My first response was no, but actually I think I do, in that I wear a limited range of colours - blue/grey or brown/cream, I like to be coordinated. Mum often wore jumpers with matching pleated skirts and floral frocks in summer. Looking back it seemed a bit dull, track suits and t-shirts weren't widely worn unless playing a sport, whereas I wear them a lot.

She started wearing trousers when she got a sewing machine - must have been in her 50s. Dad's response, "Trousers! At your age". You'd think she'd murdered a kitten, he was so horrified.

Make-up wise she just wore powder and lipstick when going out 'out', not every day. After wearing the whole caboodle on that score I realised that that's all I need.

Do I look boring? To a colourful person, maybe so but I'm of an age not to worry about others' opinions.

Jaffacake2 Thu 27-Jan-22 13:28:08

My mum died aged 94 and loved wearing cord trousers and fluffy jumpers throughout the winter.
Yes I wear the same and comfortable hotter ankle boots . Comfy style that's me !