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Do you dress like your mum did at your age?

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Yammy Wed 26-Jan-22 10:47:15

Yesterday's discussion about the colour purple set me thinking.
I compared myself to the way my mother dressed at my age.
Mum never owned a pair of Denims, never wore trousers until in a care home. Elasticated waist skirts which I probably would find more comfortable.
Minimum makeup lipstick and powder and Nivea cream. Sunday best clothes and wouldn't have entertained a pair of trainers or a fleece. Shoes always had a strap over them.
A visit to the hairdressers every Friday morning for a shampoo and set. No trends in specs and teeth had often completely gone in their 50's. Handbags were just that no shoulder bags.
I think I might have slipped into the comfort zone in the last two years but that includes denims and cords, tunics and trainers.
I watch fashion and makeup trends and with DD's aid try to move with the times. Chubby sticks for eyes and lips have appeared along with an eyebrow enhancer and a subtle blusher, not good old Max factor cream puff.
How about you?

colette13 Thu 27-Jan-22 13:34:07

Lovely reading how your Mothers/Grandmothers dressed - my own Mum died when I was young.On this subject - thinking how lucky we are to have many clothes which are both comfortable and stylish.I love jeans but they're not (always) comfortable - however I love cropped/three-quarter length leggings teamed with long-line sweatshirts.Also capri pants - look great but not as casual as joggers.To be honest - I haven't worn skirts in years - preferring the (not so) little black dress and long-line formal cardigan/jacket for special occasions.Fashion has changed considerably - enjoyed reading your memories about loved ones.

rosmalie Thu 27-Jan-22 13:36:12

My Mum taught me the invaluable skill of dressmaking. I don't make clothes now because the fabric and thread cost more than a ready made outfit, but in my teens I copied the styles of Quant and Biba for a fraction of the cost. I'd make the dress on Saturday and wear it to go out that evening.
Like many mums, she even shortened her skirt lengths to just over the knee in a nod to the mini.

Annaram1 Thu 27-Jan-22 13:40:43

I remember my mum always wore a red scarf tied around her head like a turban. Not sure when she gave it up. I think it was when we moved to South Africa when I was 7.
I also remember a few years later when she bought herself the first bra she ever owned. She spotted me looking at her and she had the bra loosely around her chest. She said "they won't go in!"

MerylStreep Thu 27-Jan-22 13:48:17

Jaylucy
I can top that. I helped my friend pack her mother in law’s clothes ready for a house move. She had 135 elastic waste skirts ?.

Daisend
My Mother in law had a seal skin coat ?

Joesoap Thu 27-Jan-22 13:50:37

My Mum lived five years longer than I am now, she was always dressed smartly, wore lipstick and Max Factor cream puff no other make up she had great taste in clothes and wore lovely hats.I wish I had inherited her taste, I live in jeans, never wear a skirt, never wear a hat, have casual smart clothes but nothing like my Mum. She was a good advisor regarding clothes,I miss her.

Missingmoominmama Thu 27-Jan-22 13:57:33

Very similar. She lived in practical stuff that was good for walking and gardening; I do too. She was only 19 years older than me though.

Sue450 Thu 27-Jan-22 14:34:01

When I was young in the 50s I did, but along came the 60s and it all changed my clothes were very swinging sixties.
My mum did have some nice clothes though looking back at my older sisters wedding Photos in the 50s my mum
wore a lovely navy blue fitted dress and jacket, which would probably be in the fashion now, wish she had kept it.

Rosina Thu 27-Jan-22 14:50:59

Photos of my Mother in the thirties show a woman with dark brown hair beautifully cut, wearing suits and dresses that were made for her, and showed her slim figure. My Mother had a very 'bad' war - I know it wasn't exactly a picnic for anyone, but she emerged from six years of horror a changed woman, and although she was always clean and neat, and had her hair cut and set regularly, she lost all interest in herself in every way. She expressed horror at my Mary Quant mini dresses, false eyelashes and geometric haircuts, but didn't live long enough to see me as a sixty something wearing jeans and jumpers, and floaty dresses in the summer. Mother would have died rather than wear anything so 'flamboyant' - twin sets and a straight skirt were her uniform.

Polly1938 Thu 27-Jan-22 15:28:29

My Mum was born in 1912, she never wore trousers, despite the fact she was a farmer's wife. She had naturally curly hair, never went to the hairdressers. She used a bit of Goya powder from a compact, which I still have, and a dab of pink lipstick, She wore Evening in Paris perfume. I miss my Mum.

Sadgrandma Thu 27-Jan-22 15:35:41

Sadly my mum died at age 57 but, looking at photos of her in her fifties, she doesn't look much younger than me now at 76, although slimmer! She did go to the hairdressers occasionally or I would do it for her, but never had it coloured - wouldn't have occurred to her - had a perm sometimes so it was a very dull salt and pepper. I don't ever remember her wearing trousers. She always wore lipstick though. I think fifty was considered quite old in those days. My first MIL
was always very smart, no trousers, with pure white hair but never coloured. My second (late) MIL was also a smart lady and she would never set foot outside the house without her mascara. As for me, I live in trousers, joggers indoors and smart when going out, only wear a skirt on really special occasions. I have my hair coloured regularly as do most of my friends.

Greciangirl Thu 27-Jan-22 15:42:23

When my mother was young, there was no such thing as jeans and trainers. So obviously she couldn’t or wouldn’t wear that type of clothing.

Different era, different clothing.

JaneJudge Thu 27-Jan-22 15:47:30

My Mum was incredibly attractive and stylish at my age. I can be stylish but because of my job I have to wear practical clothes. I must make more of an effort to go out more so I can be more stylish smile

Dempie55 Thu 27-Jan-22 15:48:47

My mum was born in 1914. She sounds like so many others on here. Never owned a pair of trousers, except when she worked as an Air Raid Patrol warden during the war. Always wore a dress, sometimes a pinafore with a blouse underneath. In winter she wore a cardigan on top. Always wore a hat and coat to go out anywhere, also gloves (cotton in Summer months).

I never saw her wash her own hair, she went to the hairdressers for a shampoo and set once a week.
Skincare was Nivea, makeup was some sort of powder puff affair and a Tangee lipstick. (Nothing on the eyes.) She never wore earrings or nail varnish.

Shoes were usually court, she had funny sandals with covered toes for the summertime. No trainers, no wellies. (If it rained she stayed indoors.) She had a pair of fur-trimmed boots for very cold weather. If she went out for the evening, she would drag out this full-length fox fur coat, which always smelt of mothballs.

Hil1910 Thu 27-Jan-22 16:08:46

My Mam wasn’t fashion conscious in the slightest and didn’t possess a pair of trousers until the 70s which she bought for a trip to Jersey. She always wore a Vedonis vest, with built up shoulders, full petticoat slip, and liked French knickers with suspenders and stockings. She wore her nursing sister’s uniform for work 4 days a week and usually wore a dress and coat when we went to town each Saturday when she was off. She did like Estée Lauder makeup worn to go out in and had a wash and set every couple of weeks. As for me the power suits are gone since I retired and I tend to wear leggings, jumpers and gilets most days. However I do enjoy getting dressed to go out.

Bijou Thu 27-Jan-22 16:15:45

My mum died at the age of 94. I am now 98.She always wore dresses which like me she mostly made until she was until her seventies with a cardigan in cold weather. I have never worn jeans which I think should stayed with the cowboys. Gave up wearing trousers in my eighties preferring skirts. Like her I always wear makeup and nail varnish even though I am housebound and don’t see anyone.

hollysteers Thu 27-Jan-22 16:24:29

My mother, born 1922, had a nice figure when young and I remember her summer uniform was a close fitting white T shirt and full cotton skirt. Dark red lipstick and no eye make up (unlike me) She would wet the end of a used matchstick for her eyebrows. So many mentions of Ponds Cold Cream and I use it still as does my daughter, it’s fabulous.
She also had a navy blue neat costume and when older, navy and mint green were her go to colours. No trousers. A roll on which she said held her together and I use one too.
She coloured her hair to the end but couldn’t abide hairdressers, at one point snatching the comb out of the hand of the poor hairdresser to do it herself. ‘I must have height!” she’d say, having a low forehead.
“I’m not walking down the road with you in that get up” she said to me in my teens in buttoned boots from the 1920s and a massive astrakhan coat, both from a flea market.
She was a character.
God knows what my style is now, there’s too much going on, but it’s fun.

Jazzhands Thu 27-Jan-22 16:35:13

Mum was a beauty. Dad said that on their first date she looked like Sophia Loren, only wearing wellies (makes perfect sense in West Coast of Scotland). I remember her wearing dog-tooth tweed skirts and twin-sets, and had a perm that she just combed through and it bounced wonderfully. I recall she'd lift me up to the mirror and sing: 'Que sera, sera' by Doris Day - and since my name is Kay, I loved it. She wore make-up every day, which I called Polyfilla, and she laughed. It was a shock to say how they dressed her in the care home - with striped terry socks and black slacks, and cut her her far too short. She never once complained, but I still feel cut up about it.

Jazzhands Thu 27-Jan-22 16:36:56

Jazzhands

Mum was a beauty. Dad said that on their first date she looked like Sophia Loren, only wearing wellies (makes perfect sense in West Coast of Scotland). I remember her wearing dog-tooth tweed skirts and twin-sets, and had a perm that she just combed through and it bounced wonderfully. I recall she'd lift me up to the mirror and sing: 'Que sera, sera' by Doris Day - and since my name is Kay, I loved it. She wore make-up every day, which I called Polyfilla, and she laughed. It was a shock to say how they dressed her in the care home - with striped terry socks and black slacks, and cut her her far too short. She never once complained, but I still feel cut up about it.

'her her' should read 'her hair'

Mamma7 Thu 27-Jan-22 17:08:08

No thank the Lord….and I love my Mum!
I believe if you’re not mutton dressed as lamb you’re mutton dressed as mutton and I know which one I’d prefer ?

SueEH Thu 27-Jan-22 18:37:40

I used to joke that once people were 60 their beige separates arrived automatically in the post! Think it was after taking my parents and aunty out for lunch and they were top to toe beige. Thankfully mine haven’t arrived yet ?

Rosina Thu 27-Jan-22 18:53:05

Mamma7 I love that! I'll remember it the next time I am tempted by an elasticated waist.

nipsmum Thu 27-Jan-22 19:23:30

My mum was born in 1907. Her own mother died 1 week after she was born. She lived until 6 months after her 100th birthday. She never wore trousers in her life. She never wore make up, she used a basic Nivea cream occasionally. I wear trousers every day but a skirt if I am getting dressed. I have no great interest in clothes and can't wear make up. Like mum I am clean and tidy as well as comfortable. Mum taught me to keep myself busy and not waste time doing nothing. I was born in 1941 .

glammagran Thu 27-Jan-22 19:54:06

My mother turned 40 at the end of the 60’s. She embraced all the fashions of the time (hippyish was her style) and as soon as I was old enough I joined her. She got very cross if I borrowed her tops as I was a bigger build than her (she was very slim and then became very thin in old age). She didn’t wear short skirts though as she had terrible varicose veins (which I don’t have at all). I remember my very thin grandmother wearing a girdle which I can still scarcely believe. I was twice her weight when my mother died and I’m a size 14.

tictacnana Thu 27-Jan-22 19:54:37

I’m not as smart or good looking as my Mum and I only ever wear trousers whereas she never wore trousers again after leaving the WAAFs in 1943.

SachaMac Thu 27-Jan-22 21:10:13

My mum was always very stylish, looking at photos of her when she married my dad in the 50’s she looked beautiful. She was tall and slim with a tiny waist & could carry off the lovely 50’s fashions, the dresses with nipped in waists and full skirts & the tight pencil skirts. She was very good at sewing & in the 60’s used to make clothes for herself, me & my sister, sometimes they were a bit ‘out there’ and we used to cringe a bit when she appeared with a new pattern and a load of new fabric. Looking back at old photos we now realise how trendy they were. She is in her late 80’s now but still likes to puts her ‘face on’ as she calls it. She now wears elasticated waist trousers with nice tops but still has a ridiculous amount of shoes even though she doesn’t get much chance to wear them. Her mum was the same, until her health failed & she just got too old and poorly to be bothered. I always try to make an effort with clothes & makeup, I feel very jaded without at least a touch of mascara blusher & lipstick. I am also drawn to shoes and particular like ankle boots, I find them so comfy but still stylish.