Funeral outfit

My daughter’s friend died recently at the age of 46 (cancer) and left “no black” instructions. Animal print and orange were her favourite so that’s what most people wore. Not the gaudy(tacky) prints but subdued colours with perhaps an orange handbag or chunky bead necklace. It was very ‘her’

Sounds fine to me .
If concerned - why not ask ?
Maybe , I'd buy or borrow a simple black top .

I tend to wear grey or navy blue in summer mainly because I don't have formal black clothes for this time of year. Black in winter but relieved with a lighter, not brighter, scarf or top.
I hate wearing bright colours at funerals; it just doesn't seem right.

Thank you all for your advice.

families tend to give guidance on what to wear here .When my freinds 25 year old died they wanted everyone to wear something bright ,I wore a pink scarf with a navy dress ,yesterday was the funeral of a neighbours 44 year old who we've known since he was 12 ,we were told to wear whatever we'd have worn to meet him for a pint .
There have been far too many recently ,I hope there are no more for a long time

Midgey...Not a typo....Its what we say in Scotland for any kind of get together where there is food after an event...

Black with white is totally acceptable elusivebutterfly. Please don’t worry about it. I wear a dark blue dress in summer, grey and cream in the winter unless a particular colour is requested. Most funerals seem much more relaxed in terms of what clothing is expected than they used to be, even five years ago. Hope the funeral goes as well as it can.

I haven’t been to many funerals possibly half dozen in my lifetime thank goodness but each time it’s been black trousers black jacket black silk blouse and black and white scarf with butterflies on, I think a lot of people now seem to be very relaxed in their funeral attire, the previous funeral I attended a couple wore jeans I was actually shocked

Your selection sound perfect.

I’m going to the funeral of a friend’s husband this week. I plan on wearing a pair of black tapered leg trousers, circa 20 years old, which come out for funerals, with a long sleeved M&S blouse, white, black, yellow swirly pattern, and a pair of black lowish heel court shoes. If it’s cooler, I shall also wear a black Max Mara short jacket.

I think it looks smart, respectful, but not too severe.

White is considered a mourning colour in some countries so would be very acceptable.

I don't think a bishop will mind what you wear to a funeral one bit!

I used to have a brown corduroy dress which I bought for my father’s funeral and wore to several others. The last funeral I went to a couple of years ago, I wore a black dress with a black and white jacket.

Here people tend to stick to formal dark clothes never been to a funeral where people wear bright clothes. I'm talking about funerals for a variety of religions or no religion.

Black trousers and a white top are perfectly acceptable. I normally go for a mixture of grey and black (all black looks awful on me) So it could be black trousers with a grey top and grey jacket or grey trousers with a black top and a black jacket. Any of these combinations using a white top instead would be right for the occasion.

I think a wake means both of those things.I once attended a history talk, about the custom of not leaving the dead person alone through the night.Also the word wake is an old word meaning a celebration or meeting of peoples.So that comes after the internment.

Yes, a wake originates from Ireland and derives from the custom of close family sitting up all night before the funeral, with the coffin at their home - talking and exchanging memories.

It helps in feeling that the departed are not left alone, and can enjoy one more sociable time with family and friends that may call in. It kind of works.

I always wear black trousers and a white or even a patterned/ floral coloured top.
A black jacket if it's cold weather or a long black thin cardigan if it's cool.

Thank you all. The forecast is for it to be hot and the church is modern so don't expect it to be cold like older churches, hence I don't think I will be wearing a jacket.
I will wear the black trousers and white blouse and take either a black cardigan or jacket with me.

I've been to so many over the last two or three years.

Unless asked not to wear black I would normally wear black with a cream or white top.

I wore navy to one when I was asked not to wear black (couldn't somehow bring myself to wear red or anything too bright).

Think a wake is before a funeral

It may have been in the past but generally it seems to be the gathering after the funeral now.

Think a wake is before a funeral. I think it comes from "staying awake" besides the body. In my experience it's been a time of sitting and chatting with the family and close friends, basically celebrating the life of the person we knew.

As regards clothes I think you will be fine with a white shirt/blouse if you have a black/dark skirt and jacket.

A purvy is the name given to the food and drink after a funeral. I think it derives from ‘purvey’.

At my Dsis-in-laws funeral (at which the bishop was present), I wore a black jacket and trousers and a dusky pink top.

Casdon

I’d wear a black jacket too, only because I’m always cold when I’m in church, but I think your choice is good.

This is what I think too.

I have a simple black drape dress that I wear to funerals.