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I’m ashamed to say…..

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Dollymixtures Sat 08-Oct-22 16:15:02

I’m making my way slowly through wardrobes and cupboards and I’m shocked! I’m hoping I’m not the only one? I sorted out coats and I have the grand total of 32 coats left after consigning 6 to charity shops although they still fit me and look ok. This isn’t jackets or gilets or anything else either.

I’m going to start on boots next - not shoes, sandals or other kinds, just boots, and know I’ll have dozens. I’m ashamed as I’ve always spent a lot of money on clothes but we hardly go out nowadays so I never wear anything!

Then there’s dresses, evening dresses, skirts, trousers, leggings, jumpers, cardigans on and in ad infinitum.. Please tell me I’m not the only one? The charity shops in our small market town are bursting at the seams, nothing seems to sell well on Vinted, I don’t know what to do! I think I need someone like Gok Wan to come and be ruthless with me. Oh, just remembered, tons more up in the loft as well!

Sarah74 Sat 08-Oct-22 16:17:32

32 coats? That’s a fair number! I think I have about 10 in total - warm wool coats, raincoats, duvet coats…..

Curtaintwitcher Sat 08-Oct-22 16:24:13

I much prefer to have a large number of cheap coats than one expensive one which I get fed-up of wearing.
So don't feel guilty, you're not alone.
I regular have a 'sort-through' as the seasons change, intending to have a cull but I not only end up keeping them all, I decide I am lacking a certain style and buy another one.
I have got some wonderful bargains in sales...the drop in prices just shows how much profit companies are making.

Hetty58 Sat 08-Oct-22 16:33:11

Dollymixtures, you are not the only one! I have three wardrobes in a spare bedroom that I haven't even opened since before the pandemic (and only rarely before then). I know there's loads of high heels and formal work clothes (jackets, plain blouses, black and navy trousers) - just stuff I don't wear these days. It's all good quality, though, so I can't bring myself to stuff it in the clothes recycling bin. Local charity shops are overloaded with clothes - so do I just leave it for another year or two?

eazybee Sat 08-Oct-22 16:47:20

If it is good quality take it now; in another couple of years it will be out of date. let someone buy it and get some wear out of it if you are not going to.

Nannarose Sat 08-Oct-22 16:54:38

They are not always easy to find (the big charity shops have a better on-line presence) but think about your local homeless, domestic abuse and refugee charities.
They appreciate sensible coats, and decent clothing, which can make a real difference. One of ours has a stock of 'interview clothing'. I also treasure the thanks given to us by a young homeless man who was given one of my dad's suits to wear to a wedding. He realised how people saw him differently when he was smartly dressed.

MerylStreep Sat 08-Oct-22 17:06:16

It’s not the worse I’ve heard of. I helped my friend clear her late mother in laws house.
132 skirts She obviously liked a style and bought it in every colour. ?

Hetty58 Sat 08-Oct-22 17:18:44

Nannarose, thanks - I've now found this: smartworks.org.uk/support-us/make-a-donation/donate-your-clothes/

Kim19 Sat 08-Oct-22 17:22:56

I addressed this excessive items of clothing situation by stopping buying. Nearly three years now. Very pleased with myself but don't know what's happened to the cash I should have saved!

Callistemon21 Sat 08-Oct-22 17:37:14

eazybee

If it is good quality take it now; in another couple of years it will be out of date. let someone buy it and get some wear out of it if you are not going to.

I shall wear my coats even if they're out of fashion.

Just counted up and I have five, i thought that was too many!

Sallywally1 Sat 08-Oct-22 17:41:49

Since retiring I too have gone through my wardrobe, as many of the clothes are too formal to ear now. My charity shop has had around 20 bag! I have also lost some weight so that is a factor too. At least the charity shops might make some money!

AskAlice Sat 08-Oct-22 18:03:40

I bit the bullet this summer and cleared three clothes rails that were in the loft plus loads of bags of clothes that were kept "just in case". Old suits from when I worked that I would never wear again or that didn't fit, dresses, skirts, coats, shorts, tops. Some of them went to the charity shop, some I simply bundled up in bags and took to a mobile place nearby that pays for old clothes in wearable condition by weight and recycle it to various charities overseas - I made a grand total of £8 and gave this to my grandchildren as a treat.

I am so relieved that all the old stuff is now cleared. I have more space, can see what I have and wear it more often. I was really ruthless, even with stuff that had cost a bit to buy. The money was spent years ago, I'm not going to see it again so what the heck! If my old clothes are put to good use by someone else then I'm happy.

Nannarose Sat 08-Oct-22 18:08:52

Thank you Hetty! I know my local 'hubs' and haven't looked on-line recently. I hope others find it useful

nadateturbe Sat 08-Oct-22 18:16:11

I have one camel coat, I had a black tweed one and gave it to the charity shop last winter. I also put some tops on local freecycle. They went quickly.
I too am buying little and using up. But my hair is grey now and I'll have to buy some brighter colours.

But no, I definitely don't have a huge amount. I thought I had until I read this thread! One triple wardrobe and 2 chests of drawers.

Wyllow3 Sat 08-Oct-22 18:18:50

Take them to an inner city charity shops where people are desperate for decent clothes and those charity shops don't have much decent stuff. I can' forget seeing people counting out amounts like 45p for a children's top or spending a long time mulling over a £5 winter coat.

Why so many clothes more than you need? I genuinely don't understand. Just more "stuff" to look after. I have one wardrobe, one set of drawers, and a bed drawer for night things, a shoe and gloves/scarves/woolly hats chest and never short of things to wear.

Jaxjacky Sat 08-Oct-22 18:49:25

Homeless people always need coats, Salvation Army maybe?

Witzend Sat 08-Oct-22 19:01:22

A male friend of ours, once he was becoming weak through illness - got dh to go with him through his coats and raincoats - there were over 40!! All good quality, some with the labels still attached.
About half went to charity shops, but why he still needed 20….

He was a bit of a shopaholic, though, and something of a hoarder. After he died his wife found (among many other multiples) SIX blood pressure monitor thingys. I asked why on earth he’d end up with 6…. ‘When he couldn’t find the first, he’d just buy another….’ Rinse and repeat.

foxie48 Sat 08-Oct-22 19:37:42

The Baptist church near me has a rail in the lobby where you can drop off warm clothing, an absolute Godsend for some folks. you might have something similar locally. I tend to keep expensive buys as they can come back into fashion but ditch the cheaper stuff. I wore a pair of brown cord trousers this week that are at least 15 years old and they looked great. I also took the shoulder pads out of an expensive black tweedy blazer bought years ago and it's quite fashionable again.

Farzanah Sat 08-Oct-22 20:46:35

Gosh 32 coats! I have one quality winter coat which is at least 7 years old, wear it every winter and haven’t tired of it. I try to buy quality clothing which lasts for ever, but have too many pairs of trousers and jeggins, and an excess of casual shoes.
Clothing is so cheap nowadays and it’s easy to over indulge, but there is a price to be paid in sustainability or exploitation of workers in garment factories.

HowVeryDareYou Sat 08-Oct-22 21:23:10

32 coats?! I haven't got a big enough hose to store that many. I've got 2 jackets, 3 winter coats, 2 raincoats and a casual coat.

Greyduster Sun 09-Oct-22 08:14:52

Good Lord I don’t think I’ve ever had that many clothes in my life. I have a wool and cashmere car coat, a long herringbone tweed coat which I haven’t worn for years and probably will never wear again, a down coat for winter and various outdoor jackets. I have one wardrobe for most of my clothes and when I can bring myself to part with DH’s clothes, I will have another. But not yet.

halfpint1 Sun 09-Oct-22 08:33:56

During my divorce and buying of somewhere to live, I over
stretched on the new purchase, consequently my 13 year old
daughter and I spent 6 months on very little cash.I found a
re-cycling depot near me (charity shops are rare in towns in
France) and still have some of my 'buys' from that era. I was
so gratefull I have willingly moved my own clothes on since
then to the depot and hope someone is as gratefull as I was.

Redhead56 Sun 09-Oct-22 08:58:45

I usually give our clothes to charity but when Covid arrived the three local charity shops closed down. I have been taking clothes to a rescue warehouse who ship stuff out to Ukraine. Last winter I gave six coats of mine and three of DH I am about to sort some more out this week. I tended to buy one colour coat and then repeat the purchase in different colours. I now sensibly think what a waste of money and that habit has gone now.

Cabbie21 Sun 09-Oct-22 09:05:00

I have not bought any sort of coat for five years. The most recent was a lightweight showerproof summer coat. My oldest is a long charcoal grey coat which was expensive but it must be 20 years old. I can’t recall when I last wore it. I just wear a short anorak type jacket for most occasions. I have five, of different weights, colours and condition, plus one decent black coat and a long navy thin coat, so I am OK for funerals. That makes nine. Too many. Plus one waiting to go to a charity shop.

Charleygirl5 Sun 09-Oct-22 10:03:23

OMG I cannot remember when I last owned a coat. I think I am OTT possessing 2 waterproof jackets.

I own 4 pairs of shoes but wear one pair. I do have a lot of nightdresses, around 8 I think.