What should my husband wear?

Thank you for everyone who tried to help. And those of you who accuse me of dressing him, when he is in a panic two days before, I will send him round to you. Or just say " wear what you want, it doesn't matter". No wonder people are reluctant to ask for advice or help on here!!!

GrammyGrammy I think you are a bit behind the times, trainers can be worn anywhere. It is what you wear with them that matters.

To be honest I find it a bit odd that you are deciding the clothes your Dh should be wearing! He’s an adult male and if he’s happiest in a suit and tie etc why not wear that, I’d want my Dh to wear what he feels comfortable in.but I wouldn’t be telling him what he should wear at our daughters party. It’s a party everyone should be having fun, not worrying that time is running out on deciding what he should wear. I’m sure he won’t get it wrong!

I don't think it's unusual to help each other out clothes wise in order to feel appropriate when you are going out somewhere.

The OP is conscious he may look "over smart or scruffy" at this particular event so I expect she's trying to be helpful.

Maybe he knows he's got a tendency to be a bit "over-smart or scruffy looking: and has actually asked her advice??

My husband often asks me... (but I never dress him).

Maybe Elizabethann is choosing his attire because the party is imminent, and he has run out of time dithering like she suggests.
I sometimes choose my DH clothes because he has a busy job, often away, and doesn't have much time. It doesn't mean he can't decide for himself. I like fashion too.

Well trainers and a polo shirt are the modern way grammygrammy.

I was about to post about my puzzlement (is that a word?) at the apparent fact that he is not deciding for himself what he wears, but I see GrammyGrammy has said it for me at 15.31.25.

GrammyGrammy that’s exactly what I said let the poor guy wear what he is comfortable wearing What suits the rest of the family is nothing to do with his choice and personality
If he wants to wear a suit and is comfortable in that …so be it

Never try to change someone to your ideas how would you like it if a man told you what to wear ? Everyone would be jumping up and down in anger how dare he etc etc 😂 double standards

Susie42

Chinos, polo shirt, blazer, and highly polished tan shoes.

A polo shirt is suitable to go car booting in...not for a party.

MawtheMerrier

I like the sound of chinos, smart casual open necked shirt and a linen jacket. Loafers would be nice - maybe slightly more formal than trainers but there are some lovely “smart” trainers for men too.

Trainers for an evening event? Seriously.

He is an adult male. Why are you involved in arranging what he wears? Doesn't he know how to dress himself?

Joe Browns clothes I second that! Nice smart trousers and shirt maybe neaten the hair up a bit good enough.

Don't know this brand but looks possible to me.... but then my husband loves bold shirts..
www.brooktaverner.co.uk/jacket-collection/all-jackets/gower-navy-linen-mix-suit-jacket-5307a.html

Maybe not this Bill Nighy attire.

First - tall, thin, masses of white hair - wonderful! Think Bill Nighy.

My beautiful husband is short, 5'10, thin, masses of gorgeous silver hair - looks fabulous in well fitting slim black trousers, white dress shirt, unbottoned at top, brown loafers, less structured jacket.

You and Daughter are dressing up, all your husband needs to do is drop the tie, structured suit jacket and formal shoes.

Let the poor guy wear what he feels comfortable and familiar with surely your daughter will be happy to have him there and know his normal dress
I would hate someone to ‘dress ‘ me I d be so uncomfortable in what others perceived to be the ‘correct’ outfit
* Janejudge* you must have a different budget to me I love Joe Browns stuff but find it VERY expensive and only buy when it’s on sale

MawtheMerrier

I like the sound of chinos, smart casual open necked shirt and a linen jacket. Loafers would be nice - maybe slightly more formal than trainers but there are some lovely “smart” trainers for men too.

My thoughts exactly.
There are some fabulous linen jackets for men - in great colours too!

You can wear smart jeans with a good linen jacket too.

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There are some nice shirts at Charles Trywhitt, they’ve got a sale on at the moment.

Chinos, long-sleeved patterned shirt, snazzy waistcoat, polished loafers. Maybe a good fitting lightweight jacket, if necessary.

DH, is admittedly a different shape bu he goes for black trousers and a black polo neck sweater or shirt. Trousers can be dress trousers, jeans, or corderoy, depending on the occasion and the same for the top. Occasionally a cravat makes an appearance, loosely tied.

He also has a magmificent brocade double breasted waist coat that DD made him which comes out for gala evenings on cruises, and going to Glynebourne

Not cheap but I've seen them and they are swish - would one of these hit the spot? www.claudioluglishirts.com/sale/mens-t58

JaneJudge

Joe Browns do some really snazzy shirts

Ooo their stuff looks good, and not at all pricey either. Thanks.

Linen jacket or suit.. and a hat

Chinos, polo shirt, blazer, and highly polished tan shoes.

How about moleskin trousers which are smart and dressy? Add a nice open necked shirt plus a jacket if he feels underdressed.
I buy a lot of my DH's clothes from Charles Tyrwitt, for the distinguished but on trend sort of look!