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Dress opinions please

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Valels Sat 22-Jul-23 15:07:56

I've bought a dress online and it arrived this morning. When i tried it on I thought it looked really nice (I'm size 18 and don't have much confidence in clothes shopping). When I asked OH for his opinion he looked, said "Hmmm, its OK. It's a bit 'busy' though and it looks old fashioned, like something from the 70s".
'Busy' is his favourite word for something with a lot of pattern.
Now I don't know whether or not to keep the dress. I liked it but now it seems spoiled.
I think (hope!) I've attached a pic of the dress and am keen to get your opinions.

ethelwulf Sun 23-Jul-23 07:29:59

Can't possibly say how it looks on you, as I've no idea what size and shape you are. Looks quite nice on the young model, but it wouldn't suit me, as I'm full-busted and slim-hipped, so I'd end up looking rather top-heavy. It's a very 70's look, which I like, but maybe in a less "busy" pattern.

FannyCornforth Sun 23-Jul-23 07:29:16

nanna8

I like it , like the colour but I tend to avoid ties round the middle, prefer a dropped waist or an Empire line but that’s just personal preference.

Same here

FannyCornforth Sun 23-Jul-23 07:28:45

For me, it’s all to do with how I feel in something.

How do you feel when you are wearing it?

If you don’t feel good, you won’t get the wear from it.

It sounds to me like you have already decided that you aren’t that keen on it

Calendargirl Sun 23-Jul-23 07:24:36

It’s not a dress I would choose personally as I prefer to blend into the background, and this one is very colourful, although also very pretty.

Don’t like to bring it up, but the model is probably a size 10, and I wonder if it looks as good on a size 18?

Perhaps your DH is trying to be tactful? Often we see ourselves as we think we look, not as others see us.

As GSM said, if you could post a (face blank) picture of yourself wearing said dress, we could be more helpful.

nanna8 Sun 23-Jul-23 07:07:45

I like it , like the colour but I tend to avoid ties round the middle, prefer a dropped waist or an Empire line but that’s just personal preference.

vegansrock Sun 23-Jul-23 07:05:20

I think the dress style is fine , but the fabric design looks a bit like someone’s been sewing up the curtains. The flowers are too swirly and the contrast panel pulls attention to the hem length. Sorry if this sounds over critical, I did work in textiles many moons ago and love analysing fabrics and fashion. But this is just my opinion and if you love it - go for it!

Chocolatelovinggran Sat 22-Jul-23 18:26:35

I think it's lovely and the shape is a flattering one. Obviously jewellery, shoes etc will need to be simple but if you have some bright coloured shoes/ bag it would add colour.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 22-Jul-23 17:34:50

Maybe take a photo of you wearing it, blot out your face and post it?

nadateturbe Sat 22-Jul-23 17:33:13

I think you need to ask a friend or female relative if if suits you.
Men generally aren't much good at fashion.

Dempie55 Sat 22-Jul-23 17:26:06

He's right, it does look old-fashioned, but that's the trend this Summer! I don't like the black background, so I wouldn't choose that fabric, but I do like the style. Oh, apart from the tie things on the sleeves, they would drive me nuts!

pascal30 Sat 22-Jul-23 17:20:18

It reminds me of the Afghani dresses that were around in the 70's.. if you like it I'd keep it

Aldom Sat 22-Jul-23 17:11:25

I think it is a pretty dress. Good style and fabric. The only thing I really think detracts from the overall attractiveness is the lower panel. To my way of thinking the dress would look better with just the panel above the waist.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 22-Jul-23 16:03:22

The dress is nice on the model, but the question is, does it suit you?

Joseann Sat 22-Jul-23 16:02:46

Personally I'm not a fan of dark (black?) backgrounds. But if you like it, that's what counts.
I have sent several dresses like that back this summer because DH said they were too long!

Primrose53 Sat 22-Jul-23 16:01:36

As NotSpaghetti says 70s stuff is in again. Remember those dresses and skirts that had 2 or 3 layers or skirts, they’re the sort of thing!

ParlorGames Sat 22-Jul-23 15:58:45

I quite like the dress.....but I am too short for such styles. Do you intend to wear it on holiday or is it intended for general wearing at home?

sodapop Sat 22-Jul-23 15:57:25

This style and pattern is very popular at present, if you feel good wearing it Valels keep it and enjoy it.

Farzanah Sat 22-Jul-23 15:56:15

I love it. Just my style of dress and I’m not tall. There are lots similar this year and perhaps your OH hasn’t caught up with the trend.
If you like it wear it.

hollysteers Sat 22-Jul-23 15:51:03

If you really love it, wear it. If in doubt say no (a quote I try to remember when undecided over a purchase).
I too find it a bit ‘busy’ for me, but it’s your choice.

westendgirl Sat 22-Jul-23 15:45:06

I think it's a lovely dress.
If you like it and feel good in it then keep it.

honeyrose Sat 22-Jul-23 15:32:44

I think it’s really lovely, although if my husband didn’t like me in something, I’d take that on board but may keep it anyway if I felt it suited me!
Could you send us a photo/selfie of you wearing it? You can edit the photo so we don’t see your face if you wish to remain anonymous.

NotAGran55 Sat 22-Jul-23 15:32:38

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, as long as you like it and feel that it suits you that’s the main thing.
We can’t possibly know if it suits you, and our own opinion of it for ourselves is irrelevant. I think it’s a lovely style but it wouldn’t suit me.
As others have said the 70s styles are in fashion at the moment.
My husband hates big flowery patterns and calls them granny sofa dresses!

Theexwife Sat 22-Jul-23 15:29:15

I like the dress and have some similar. Get your husband to take a picture of you wearing it, it is a better way to see how you look. If you are confident it looks good then keep it.

NotSpaghetti Sat 22-Jul-23 15:28:14

Only you really know if it suits you.

With the elastic at the waist and the mock-wrap shape I think it will be an easy wear. I think "busy" is fine. 👍

NotSpaghetti Sat 22-Jul-23 15:24:33

The 70s are "in" this year. And early 80s seem to be creeping in a bit too...
My middle daughter has just bought a "70s" style outfit for a wedding and her sister has decided to wear one of my (actual 70s) evening dresses to the same wedding.

I'm currently putting new elastic into the cuff of a blousy lace 70s "underdress" (that sits under a paisley "peasant" maxi pinafore dress) for one of them!
... now i know why i saved these from my younger days - they will have new life after all...!

www.nytimes.com/2015/03/19/fashion/the-70s-are-back-in-fashion-again.html

www.fashiongonerogue.com/70s-fashion-style-trends/

www.vogue.com.au/fashion/trends/70s-style-is-back-how-to-incorporate-these-new-classics-into-your-wardrobe/image-gallery/710aaabe75dcd2f2f2f3a1fa7e838006