Wedding - what can I wear instead of a fascinator or hat?

Gin

Living near a very attractive church, I have had many a laugh at the cartwheels worn by MOB/G. I think some lose all sense of what looks good and just go for the biggest, most embellished monstrosity they can find usually worn with completely over the top outfits in very bright hues. It puzzles me why wedding clothes these days are a category unseen at any other occasion and costing eye-watering amounts. I really do not get it.

Wear something comfortable and in your style. After all the bride is the star of the show. How about a really posh artificial flower that a hairdresser can put in your hair?

This. If you don't like hats, don't wear one. It's not your day, it's the couple's, but you are one of the most important participants, so if you wear what you are happy with wearing, you will look happy too, and that is the main thing. You will look happy and just like yourself and people will respond by feeling happy too. Win-win!

RosieandherMaw

Nothing - just have a beautiful haircut and blow dry so that it looks stunning.

This.

A lovely silk hair band that will match your ensemble and can be tied round your head perhaps, take a look at what is available online.

I don’t wear hats unless they are winter woolly ones, but when I have they completely flatten and dent my thinning hair where the rim sits, not a good look.

If you have long hair then Hair clips, silk scarf or headband would be a good alternative to a hat.

On Etsy.com there is a huge choice of hair clips with decoration in all sizes. I am sure you will look special in a small one, and not at all 'girly'.

If a hat suits you then why not. I look ridiculous in one so never wear them. If you want to feel more glamorous why not use jewellery- dangly earrings maybe. Play to your strengths. Only you know what suits you. We are all different heights and shapes.

Maybe find out if the mother of the bride will be wearing a hat. I think some kind of hat would complete your outfit, maybe wear a modest sized one, as long as you feel comfortable. Good luck with your choices.

Maybe a headband similar to this...decorated, covers all bases really!

As all the dresses at Sea Salt are quite simple I wonder if a flower corsage using the colours in the dress could be your statement piece. You could wear one on your wrist or in your hair..

I don't like to wear a hat and I really dislike silly fascinators but it's a long time since I tried on either of these. I would suggest you go to a good hat shop and try on a few to see if there are any that you like, you never know you may be surprised especially if you manage to see a helpful assistant. Failing that a headband is a great idea and if none of those things work for you then, like others have said, just don't bother and enjoy the day.

My son and daughter-in-law had a barn conversion wedding last year. I didn't wear anything on my head. My hair is very fine and would have been flattened by a hat.

I wore a fascinator on a fine headband for my other son's wedding, but it wasn't particularly comfortable with my glasses. Factor in hearing aids as well now and I decided not to bother!

The bride just wanted me to feel comfortable.
Her mum wore a fascinator and looked lovely. To be honest I was happy for her to have more of any limelight anyway!

Living near a very attractive church, I have had many a laugh at the cartwheels worn by MOB/G. I think some lose all sense of what looks good and just go for the biggest, most embellished monstrosity they can find usually worn with completely over the top outfits in very bright hues. It puzzles me why wedding clothes these days are a category unseen at any other occasion and costing eye-watering amounts. I really do not get it.

Wear something comfortable and in your style. After all the bride is the star of the show. How about a really posh artificial flower that a hairdresser can put in your hair?

Excellent idea kitty

As someone who worked in a hat shop many years ago the owner was always full of ideas and solutions. Incidentally almost everyone coming in said they didn’t like or suit hats(me included till I worked there) but when you have a shop full to try on it was a case of finding the right one.

Oooh definitely not a hat “do” I would have thought.

Went to a barn wedding a couple of years ago. Tremendous fun and very informal and relaxed. I love weddings. Such happy occasions.

Thanks everyone. I think I need to check what the MOTB is wearing.

The venue is a barn so not a church wedding. I am favouring the hairband at the moment.

However, if it is a sunny day, I might get away with a straw hat/sunhat

I wore a hat for both mine but they are over 50 now so a few years ago, and times change.

I also think too that it depends how formal the wedding will be.

So if very formal then I’d wear a hat but if it is much less so I’d only wear one if I fancied doing so.

I do like wearing a hat though, feel properly dressed.

I'm not a hat person.

My daughters and I had previously been on a hat making day run by a friend of DD3 at her studio. I went and had a consultation with her. She made one to go with my outfit and then hired it to me. I loved it!

Try finding a hat maker and have a consultation.

No need.
I did not wear a hat for my son's wedding, although I took a sunhat as the ceremony was outside and it was an extremely hot day.

Thanks Elless - the hairband looks like a good idea

Be yourself! If you would rather not wear something on your head then stick with that. However, in your situation I would go hat browsing , you may surprise yourself! Take a friend for company. Good luck and whatever you decide have a wonderful day in August.

UsedToBeBlonde but it obviously doesn’t make her feel good because she’s not a hat person
Why dies she have to confirm to others likes and standards

Be bold and be true to yourself PinkCosmos

I don’t wear hats and the thought of some little bit of confectionary on top of my head didn’t appeal at all so no I did not wear a hat to any of mines weddings
Why do you feel you have to ? I don’t get it
You don’t have to bow to convention
Have a nice haircut wear clothes and shoes that suit you but don’t be bullied by convention to wear something you d rather not

I would certainly wear something, after all we never get the opportunity these days to wear something glamorous that makes you feel good.
Large or small you will feel “ finished off”.
Be adventurous.

A stunning Alice band type of thing? I think there’s a picture of Princess Catherine wearing one a few years ago. Was it for a Christening?

Anyway it was troublefree and looked marvellous.