Wedding - what can I wear instead of a fascinator or hat?

A tiara?

I’m not a hat person at all but, when my daughter got married she persuaded me to get an appointment with a local lady who hired out hats. I ended up wearing a much larger hat than I would ever have chosen for myself, felt like a million dollars and got lots of compliments. It was a designer hat, expensive to hire but worth every penny.

Nothing - just have a beautiful haircut and blow dry so that it looks stunning.

A padded hairband?

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I always thought the mother of the groom wore a huge hat - but not as huge as that worn by the mother of the bride!

RosieandherMaw

Nothing - just have a beautiful haircut and blow dry so that it looks stunning.

True, but then you look like any other guest.

If you are MOTB or MOTG it’s nice to look special.

You might look out of place without a hat, especially if the MotB is wearing one. They’re not all huge. A pillbox style (like Jackie Kennedy wore) can look very stylish with shoulder length hair.

I would definitely go with a hat or fascinator of some kind. I wore a 'hatinator' when I was MOTG, but chose a fascinator for my daughter's wedding last year, as it was in Corfu and a hat would have been too hot.

Sea Salt do handybands which might match their dress. Personally I think a hat might be better. Why not try some on and see what you think?

Why does the MOTB has to wear a hat? Who says? It is the bride and groom's special day so who cares?

If, like me, you hate wearing hats, all that will happen is that you will feel silly. A fascinator will make you feel sillier still.
I know, I tried it, I was persuaded, against my better judgement, to wear some stupid concoction on my head as MOTB. I took it off and left it on a seat at the earliest opportunity and someone sat on it.

I wish I had done what RosieandherMaw suggested.

A stunning Alice band type of thing? I think there’s a picture of Princess Catherine wearing one a few years ago. Was it for a Christening?

Anyway it was troublefree and looked marvellous.

I would certainly wear something, after all we never get the opportunity these days to wear something glamorous that makes you feel good.
Large or small you will feel “ finished off”.
Be adventurous.

I don’t wear hats and the thought of some little bit of confectionary on top of my head didn’t appeal at all so no I did not wear a hat to any of mines weddings
Why do you feel you have to ? I don’t get it
You don’t have to bow to convention
Have a nice haircut wear clothes and shoes that suit you but don’t be bullied by convention to wear something you d rather not

UsedToBeBlonde but it obviously doesn’t make her feel good because she’s not a hat person
Why dies she have to confirm to others likes and standards

Be bold and be true to yourself PinkCosmos

Be yourself! If you would rather not wear something on your head then stick with that. However, in your situation I would go hat browsing , you may surprise yourself! Take a friend for company. Good luck and whatever you decide have a wonderful day in August.

Thanks Elless - the hairband looks like a good idea

No need.
I did not wear a hat for my son's wedding, although I took a sunhat as the ceremony was outside and it was an extremely hot day.

I'm not a hat person.

My daughters and I had previously been on a hat making day run by a friend of DD3 at her studio. I went and had a consultation with her. She made one to go with my outfit and then hired it to me. I loved it!

Try finding a hat maker and have a consultation.

I wore a hat for both mine but they are over 50 now so a few years ago, and times change.

I also think too that it depends how formal the wedding will be.

So if very formal then I’d wear a hat but if it is much less so I’d only wear one if I fancied doing so.

I do like wearing a hat though, feel properly dressed.

Thanks everyone. I think I need to check what the MOTB is wearing.

The venue is a barn so not a church wedding. I am favouring the hairband at the moment.

However, if it is a sunny day, I might get away with a straw hat/sunhat

Oooh definitely not a hat “do” I would have thought.

Went to a barn wedding a couple of years ago. Tremendous fun and very informal and relaxed. I love weddings. Such happy occasions.

Excellent idea kitty

As someone who worked in a hat shop many years ago the owner was always full of ideas and solutions. Incidentally almost everyone coming in said they didn’t like or suit hats(me included till I worked there) but when you have a shop full to try on it was a case of finding the right one.

Living near a very attractive church, I have had many a laugh at the cartwheels worn by MOB/G. I think some lose all sense of what looks good and just go for the biggest, most embellished monstrosity they can find usually worn with completely over the top outfits in very bright hues. It puzzles me why wedding clothes these days are a category unseen at any other occasion and costing eye-watering amounts. I really do not get it.

Wear something comfortable and in your style. After all the bride is the star of the show. How about a really posh artificial flower that a hairdresser can put in your hair?

My son and daughter-in-law had a barn conversion wedding last year. I didn't wear anything on my head. My hair is very fine and would have been flattened by a hat.

I wore a fascinator on a fine headband for my other son's wedding, but it wasn't particularly comfortable with my glasses. Factor in hearing aids as well now and I decided not to bother!

The bride just wanted me to feel comfortable.
Her mum wore a fascinator and looked lovely. To be honest I was happy for her to have more of any limelight anyway!