How Many Years of Beauty do I Have Left?

V3ra

annodomini

"Nor Spring nor Summer's beauty hath such grace
As I have seen in one Autumnal face."

John Donne

Ooh I quite like this 😊

Not sure how I'll feel about winter though 😐

V3ra 😂

Hedy Lamarr

RosieandherMaw

Compare and contrast Judi Dench and Donatella Versace

OMG! 😱

petra

DollyD
Your last sentance above. I never know whether to put it down to ignorance or envy.
Just for those who believe you can’t be beautiful and have a brain this is Hedy Lamahh. Without one of her inventions you might not be using the Wi-Fi and Bluetooth.

I know I said I would "dip out" of this thread, but I just wanted to underscore what you've said here, as it is very important.

We must remember two things can be true, even when it comes to physical beauty and intelligence. Here is a link which supports what both Petra and DollyD have said here:

www.thetoptens.com/people/hottest-smart-women/

DollyD
Your last sentance above. I never know whether to put it down to ignorance or envy.
Just for those who believe you can’t be beautiful and have a brain this is Hedy Lamahh. Without one of her inventions you might not be using the Wi-Fi and Bluetooth.

I was quite happy when my looks began to fade, I was a fashion model for 10 years in the late 60’s early 70’s and even though this was my job and I could easily walk a runway with a hundred people watching me or pose for photographers, I am actually quite shy.
The relief when I reached my fifties and people stopped staring at me was immense, I had the super power of invisibility.
I’m almost 77 now but I still look after myself, regular visits to the hairdresser, moisturise face and body, look after myself teeth especially, eat healthily, walk my dog, dress smart casual and most importantly…smile.
I would never have any tweakments, as I don’t want to look younger, just ok for my age.
By the way, a few have mentioned being beautiful you can’t be very intelligent, this is not true.

I don’t think it’s a strange thread, a lot woman do rely on their attractiveness, nothing wrong in that. A lot women don’t want to loose their looks, even if they are kind. Otherwise they wouldn’t be getting all these anti- aging procedures now, would they.

annodomini

"Nor Spring nor Summer's beauty hath such grace
As I have seen in one Autumnal face."

John Donne

Ooh I quite like this 😊

Not sure how I'll feel about winter though 😐

I was always told I was attractive when I was younger even though I never saw what other people saw. Now I don’t really give a dam, I like being invisible now.
I still have my lovely red Bob, I have always used vit A on my face since 19, so no lines.
I have put on weight because I can’t get round as fast these days. Do I feel like I am loosing my looks, probably due to the fact my pain shows in face.
I really am not vain enough to go out & get Botox or fillers.
I try my best to be a better person, by helping others where I can.

Final Post on this thread from me:

Hi all,

I don't want to continue on with this thread, as it has 'devolved' into a bit of a mean-girl game, in my opinion.

My suggestion to you is to ignore this thread, and to possibly consider just because someone doesn't do something exactly as you would like, doesn't make them wrong.

If you don't like it, get on your bike, as they say. I mean, what in the world is the point of coming into a post, just to critique the post, rather than participate in the subjects offered?

Sounds to me like a few of you will never be happy and will do what they can to satisfy whatever issues they have by going after others, trying to push others down, make sure they are shown who is boss, that sort of petty and insecure sort of thing.

That is not why I am here. I am here to participate and learn. And maybe, make a friend or two. Which I must say, I have also met some very lovely and open-hearted people here.

Thank goodness there is only a handful of this "type" on here. The rest are truly interesting and I have enjoyed reading your threads and posts.

Take care and see you around!

Miss Redd

RosieandherMaw

^I hope you taking all your own time, just to post this important note has helped you in some way, to process the trauma this caused you^

Goodness, you are very precious, aren't you

A bit rude to say the least. The poster is entitled to her opinion without being accused of preciosity.
As for "personal dialogues" there is a perfectly adequate PM ( private messaging) facility at your disposal.
And of course, for some of us the OFF button.

Ah, now. It sounds as if you are perfectly fine to make your opinions known about other's posts, but when you are pointed out, you don't like it. That's not how things work.

Yes, I do think you should use the off button. You'd feel much better. I'm not going anywhere, good try though.

I hope you taking all your own time, just to post this important note has helped you in some way, to process the trauma this caused you

Goodness, you are very precious, aren't you

A bit rude to say the least. The poster is entitled to her opinion without being accused of preciosity.
As for "personal dialogues" there is a perfectly adequate PM ( private messaging) facility at your disposal.
And of course, for some of us the OFF button.

"Nor Spring nor Summer's beauty hath such grace
As I have seen in one Autumnal face."

John Donne

RosieandherMaw

Crossstitchfan

I think this is the weirdest thread I have ever read! And so LONG!
Didn’t manage to get to the end!

It does go on a bit not helped by lengthy quoted passages, a lot of repetition,and irrelevance, constant (it seems) self referencing and replies by OP as if it's all about her, not a discussion between equals.
That may be the style of other sites OP has experienced but it's not GN.

RosieandherMaw,

I didn't realise this was a site you created and there was a set mandate as to how people choose to post and have a personal dialogue with each person. This would seem to point to focusing on each person's post as important. I guess that seemed to elude you.

It's really not my problem if you don't like how I post. I would say that is a "you" problem.

Perhaps ignore my posts and threads? I would say that is the healthiest option going forward.

Crossstitchfan

I think this is the weirdest thread I have ever read! And so LONG!
Didn’t manage to get to the end!

LOL. That's cute.

I hope you taking all your own time, just to post this important note has helped you in some way, to process the trauma this caused you.

Goodness, you are very precious, aren't you?

Crossstitchfan

I think this is the weirdest thread I have ever read! And so LONG!
Didn’t manage to get to the end!

It does go on a bit not helped by lengthy quoted passages, a lot of repetition,and irrelevance, constant (it seems) self referencing and replies by OP as if it's all about her, not a discussion between equals.
That may be the style of other sites OP has experienced but it's not GN.

I think this is the weirdest thread I have ever read! And so LONG!
Didn’t manage to get to the end!

petra

I think it’s about time we had a BOTSnet.
All in favour, contact HQ. 😂

To be honest with you, Petra, I am pretty sure a forum such as Gransnets' calibre, is going to have many protections already in place.

But hey, you never know! They do get sneakier and more stealth as time goes by. Goodness, look what AI can do these days. We are very nearly at the the moment in history where even the pros are having difficulty in telling the difference.

Sago

What a strange thread.

I would rather be thought of as kind than beautiful.

Hi Sago,

Well yes, that was certainly not the intention, but it does appear that a handful of people's sensibilities were knocked there for a moment. .

Hopefully they are all OK now, and not left too horrified and shocked at such an unusual post. ;)

Thanks for your post.

Miss Redd

keepingquiet

MissRedd

keepingquiet

I think if you invest your energies into shallow endeavours such as always 'looking good' whatever that means, then when you get judged by other as looking old, your whole world will come crashing down.

Better to invest in the more lasting things in life that will never judge you this way- family and friends especially but also being able to do your job well and serve your community. You can do all these things well even as you get older.

Also caring for your health is a much more rewarding way of taking care of what's inside too- the only way of looking eternally young is to die at an early age- and who would want that?
Not me- I look forward to getting older, more loved for who I am, and respected for what I've done to help people along the way.

Thanks keepingquiet, this was a really helpful post.

Tell me, if you feel you would like to share, were you raised by parents who really saw you as a whole person? Meaning, they were very interested in your abilities and learning.

After reading your post, I get the feeling you may have been supported by some positive parenting regarding who you are, instead of what you look like.

This is the absolute key to raising a strong and confident woman, who will tend to be quite happy with herself on the whole, as long as she reaches her own personal goals, etc.

It would be really interesting to know how your parents viewed you and your future.

Many thanks,
Miss Redd

Yes, I had great, very hardworking parents who were also very active in their community. We were a large family.
I did feel I let my parents down, though, particularly my dad, by the way my life panned out... I made lots of mistakes along the way but maybe the support of family and very good friends always helped me to reflect and grow as a person.

I was always fairly happy with my looks, as I look very like my lovely mum, but as you say, education and particularly reading was encouraged in the home as well as the attitude that it isn't all about me. (Even though for a long time I thought it was!)

Now I'm older I see that healthy relationships are the anchor we need to stop us helplessly floating around, or even sinking.
So, as I said before, there is still much to look forward to as well as contribute, as I enter this next stage of my life.

I hope you find that too.

Thank you, Keepingquiet. This is exactly what part of my question was. It was at the heart of what I was getting at, and I can see you understand that.

I gave so many "descriptors", as I am new here and also wanted to give a background that may help others understand where I was coming from, so that the question wasn't so unusual.

Sometimes, things really are just what they seem to be.

I found what you added here, incredibly helpful. The whole root of where I am at today, and what I was getting at in my original post.

I was wondering if those who were raised by parents who focused on education, character, ethics, and all things that make a person confident and a positive person in this world, had also entered into their older years with this in mind, thus not being so affected by what our exterior does.

Anyway, thanks very much for circling back round. It was a very good read and I appreciate it.

Miss Redd

Grandma70s

“Beauty, strength, youth are flowers but fading seen.
Duty, faith, love are roots, and ever green”.

One of my favourite quotations, by George Peele.

That's really lovely Grandma70's. I'm going to hold onto this one as well. In my role as a funeral celebrant, this would be something very lovely to offer as a brief little reading. They tell of a life well-lived, or if young, the ideals we should be looking toward.

Thank you for this,
Miss Redd

MissRedd

keepingquiet

I think if you invest your energies into shallow endeavours such as always 'looking good' whatever that means, then when you get judged by other as looking old, your whole world will come crashing down.

Better to invest in the more lasting things in life that will never judge you this way- family and friends especially but also being able to do your job well and serve your community. You can do all these things well even as you get older.

Also caring for your health is a much more rewarding way of taking care of what's inside too- the only way of looking eternally young is to die at an early age- and who would want that?
Not me- I look forward to getting older, more loved for who I am, and respected for what I've done to help people along the way.

Thanks keepingquiet, this was a really helpful post.

Tell me, if you feel you would like to share, were you raised by parents who really saw you as a whole person? Meaning, they were very interested in your abilities and learning.

After reading your post, I get the feeling you may have been supported by some positive parenting regarding who you are, instead of what you look like.

This is the absolute key to raising a strong and confident woman, who will tend to be quite happy with herself on the whole, as long as she reaches her own personal goals, etc.

It would be really interesting to know how your parents viewed you and your future.

Many thanks,
Miss Redd

Yes, I had great, very hardworking parents who were also very active in their community. We were a large family.
I did feel I let my parents down, though, particularly my dad, by the way my life panned out... I made lots of mistakes along the way but maybe the support of family and very good friends always helped me to reflect and grow as a person.

I was always fairly happy with my looks, as I look very like my lovely mum, but as you say, education and particularly reading was encouraged in the home as well as the attitude that it isn't all about me. (Even though for a long time I thought it was!)

Now I'm older I see that healthy relationships are the anchor we need to stop us helplessly floating around, or even sinking.
So, as I said before, there is still much to look forward to as well as contribute, as I enter this next stage of my life.

I hope you find that too.

What a strange thread.

I would rather be thought of as kind than beautiful.

I think it’s about time we had a BOTSnet.
All in favour, contact HQ. 😂

“Beauty, strength, youth are flowers but fading seen.
Duty, faith, love are roots, and ever green”.

One of my favourite quotations, by George Peele.