kircubbin2000
I like Facebook. I discovered a new cousin yesterday and messaged his wife. He doesn't seem to use Facebook so I still need a lot more info as I didnt know his relationship and I want to fill in a family tree.I feel a bit intrusive asking his wife for names and she has not offered/may not know.Should I ask again?
Not very wise to start asking outright about family names especially living people. I do a lot of family history research but never give out anything on living people any more. You may find someone has posted them on their public tree without permission, where it is possible to see how many children a couple had, whether boys or girls and that gives a lot of clues even if their names are not shown.
I think you should send your e-mail address privately and ask whether they would like to exchange information about the family. By corresponding you may build up a friendly relationship and be in a better position to find out what you want to know. But don't rush it or you will scare them off.