Obese Passenger

If you complain about a fat person next to you, the chances are that if there is a seat THEY will be upgraded.

Fine by me if it means I'm not squashed any more. All I want is the space I've paid for. All of it!

A while ago my neighbour in the theatre simply didn't fit into his seat. Very tall and also, in his words, 'just big'. He was so apologetic, explaining he had tried for an aisle seat but with a late booking it hadn't been possible. I understood, having had the same experience. His friend on the other side was equally impacted and equally apologetic, not that it was his fault. The fact that my neighbour acknowledged the issue and apologised made all the difference, we had a chat about the local area, one he knew and I did not. I was still squashed but his acknowledgement made all the difference. Mr C did not offer to swap places !

MargaretX You only have to look at film taken after the end of WW2 to see that everybody was slim then
Sorry no they weren't. I had grans and Great aunts who were always size 16-18, much the same size as I am now.

BlueBelle you misinterpret my post. Of course I am affected by my conditions but I choose to look at the bigger picture of my health and therefore strictly control what I eat. It really is as simple as that. I choose to take control of my health and not use it against anyone else or expect anyone else to be inconvenienced by me.

Many years ago I smoked but when it became obvious it was bad for health I stopped, no help from anyone (there wasn't any then) I just made the decision that I was not going to do it any more.

When we married we had enough money but a few years later we didn't so we cut back drastically and lived very frugally for some years.

I see no difference in any of the above, it is a question of doing what is required and not expecting others to make allowances. I do realise that things like mental illness cannot be dealt with in the same way before anyone thinks I have no empathy but so many things we can deal with ourselves if we so choose.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3526280/Obese-545lb-man-weight-spiraled-control-developed-tumor-vows-complete-30-running-races-year-doing-21-5K-runs-losing-80lbs-2015.html

I wonder did Derek need to travel by plane to get to his races and was he viewed with contempt by his fellow passengers?

Interesting that the tumour was the 'primary' cause, presumably the secondary was his food intake? Slow metabolism? Eat less and exercise more.

If you have paid for a seat whether on a plane or coach you should be able to sit in said seat without anyone else encroaching on your space, or have to put up with bad behaviour or excessive noise.

Well, I suppose that could apply to an obese/smelly person as well!

why do skinny people presume that obese people don't have feelings? Sometimes there are medical reasons why a person is overweight-what a cruel and hurtful ode!

This thread has reached a new low, it is very hurtful to link being obese with being smelly, surely this is way outside acceptability.

I may be obese, but I object to being labeled smelly.

Why is it that obesity commands such negatives responses while anorexia is regarded much more sympathetically?They are both eating disorders. Perhaps it is because they don't take up so much room on the plane !!!

I think many on here have been judgemental, unless you walk in the persons shoes you have no idea why or how they got large Just because one person can sort themselves out doesn't mean everyone has the same ability, strength, understanding or background and to just say everyone who s large is lazy, over eating, greedy is a huge generalisation I can totally understand that on the very few occasions that an overly large person may encroach on your space it's not easy for you but just talk to them you may even find they are 'human' and not a Mountain as that awful poem suggests

Obesity is not an eating disorder!

Wobbly, my post was not equating obesity with smelliness! It was meant to be either/or as someone earlier in this thread had mentioned that it was uncomfortable sitting near someone who farted a lot!

I would never dream of saying (or thinking) that overweight people smell.

greenfinch I agree- obesity CAN be caused by an eating disorder .

Anorexia or Bulimia? The commonest route to obesity is just plain eating more calories than the body needs.
This is a daft argument. We all agree the poem at the start uses unkind words. However, its not fair to encroach so much on fellow passengers paid for space as to seriously inconvenience them. Talking nicely to the fat person on the next seat (and most of your own) doesn't help at all! I know full well that people are all different and have their own problems. At that point the large person in the seat next to me is my problem!

I think this so called 'poem' is one of the nastiest things I've read, and I do a lot of reading. I can sympathise with your situation in regard to lack of room on a long flight etc but I think you could have made your point without being so mean.

I didn't write that poem! The OP just put it up and never came back.

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Binge-eating/Pages/Introduction.aspx

This is a link to an NHS page that states that binge eating is an eating disorder. I agree that sitting next to an obese person on a plane or train is not fair , for want of a better word, and something needs to be done about it, but get very annoyed when people are so judgemental about other peoples weight , without knowing the torture that being out of control around food brings.

Sorry Jane10 did'nt address my remarks to you, but to OP - new to GN and forums so must have pressed wrong button.

Wobbly having a strop!. This is a virtual site. In my minds eye Wobbly was an adonis, a perfectly proportioned body, like mine, I wish.

Having already gone through various alteregos, at special request, please keep off threads which upset you.

Maybe now another name change, could start with A and end with S.!

Sorry I dont do smileys, in fact some smileys on here look like grimaces and could be misconstrued.

We were in a Museum cafe on Sunday morning when a large young couple came and sat at the next table. They both ate a packet of crisps and a bottle of ginger beer, then the waitress brought them two bacon butties each.

If only they could be shown how to eat well without binge eating, but I suspect they will continue down this slippery slope.

One persons binge is another one's everyday intake. Not all obese people are binge eaters. They just routinely eat too much.

No I'm not having a strop, I do however find some of the remarks personally offensive as they are directed at people like myself and my wife. I do not therefore wish to post on this thread.
That is not a strop simply my choice to turn to another channel.