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Afraid to be alone with your thoughts?

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Smileless2012 Tue 25-Jul-23 12:38:03

I usually have background noise either the tv or music when Mr. S.'s is out crazy. I don't think I'm a 'glass half empty' type but sometimes like you, my thoughts take me to the dark times in my life flowers.

crazyH Tue 25-Jul-23 12:34:38

My thoughts lead me to dark times in my life. Perhaps I’m the ‘glass half empty’ type. That’s why I tend to have the TV on all the time. Music doesn’t do it for me - reading does, even if it’s just reading online.

Hetty58 Tue 25-Jul-23 12:34:22

The more horror we've seen, the more difficult it is. I enjoy my own company, but many don't, as they need company and distraction to get through each day.

Casdon Tue 25-Jul-23 12:28:34

I think some people manage anxiety by constantly being occupied, I worked with somebody whose thoughts crowded her mind even when there was silence in the office, and she always wanted the radio on as a distraction, including when she was in the middle of important tasks. I don’t think she would have ever contemplated holidaying alone. I don’t think it’s about capacity, more that some people are happy alone, and some people aren’t is what it boils down to.

Smileless2012 Tue 25-Jul-23 12:17:27

Depending on what your thoughts are, sometimes being alone with them can be an ordeal even for just a short time.

NotSpaghetti Tue 25-Jul-23 12:14:18

No. I think that's completely different.

biglouis Tue 25-Jul-23 12:10:24

I saw a news item on the BBC website that more people are choosing to travel alone.

One of the recommendations was to become used to "being alone with your thoughts" as if this were some dreadful ordeal. Do you think that the current obsessions for "keeping in touch" and "not missing out" are because people lack the capacity to entertain themselves when they are alone?